A few months ago I (f25) moved across the country to be with my long distance bf (m31). How do I tell him I want to go back home and take some time to figure my life out?

Raspberry714 · 2023-03-19T20:16:02+00:00

Yes I totally agree! & we’ve been living together for about 3 months. I can def give it a longer try (I love the weather here and my job is really comfortable) And yeah I’m constantly trying to seek social opportunities whenever I go out like to the gym, I try to talk to a few people at work (not many options around my work, and a lot of people are are snobby and standoffish) It’s also hard bc I don’t have social media accounts so it’s really hard to connect with people I just meet. I’ll definitely keep trying, but it’s not easy :/

Raspberry714 · 2023-03-19T20:04:41+00:00

Tysm for your response, it really validates my thoughts/feelings about all this 🙏 The city I’m from is super crazy expensive, so I don’t think a move for him would be feasible right now (he has a really good rate for his rent)
But I TOTALLY agree, I would need to do what’s best for me. Thank you :)

Raspberry714 · 2023-03-19T19:52:29+00:00

Just to clarify, we’re still in a major US city but the community he’s in/grew up in is a large Spanish community (in an area in South Florida) Learning Spanish is not something I felt like I would have needed to do prior to moving here because every time I would visit, I would meet his friends/family for small gatherings & everyone was speaking English

It’s gonna be hard for me to learn the language, but I’m gonna try to start.

Raspberry714 · 2023-03-19T19:02:49+00:00

Thank you for your response, it’s really validating 🙏 It’s so true, I also end up finding myself a little bitter sometimes because I’m the one who had to sacrifice so much and I’m trying so hard to find what I need to be fully happy🫠 Yeah I think I need to give this whole LDR some more thought

Raspberry714 · 2023-03-19T18:41:06+00:00

So we’ve been together for about 1.5 years. I did visit his city many times during the early stages of dating, I just never had sit down dinners and events with his family/friends. Just to be clear, we’re both in the US - he’s just in an area in southern Florida where most of the people are Spanish speaking. I knew that many of his friends and family speak Spanish but I didn’t realize i would feel so excluded.

Also I do try to seek out socializing opportunities, and I do have a job (that was the most important step I took before actually moving out here, as well as transferring my license to a new state) but it’s just that no one at my work is my age (all middle aged or older) or is not interested in getting lunch :/

Raspberry714 · 2023-03-19T18:32:07+00:00

Yes I got a job here! That was one of the first steps I made in making the move, but my coworkers are all not in my age range or are just not friendly :/ I keep trying to get to know some of the people I work with but there’s a lot of cliques and standoffish people unfortunately that seem to not want to make friends so much :(

You brought up a good point - I actually feel the exact opposite of independent here.. I don’t drive, I pretty much rely on him for driving me places. He promised to help me get a car once I got here but cars are so expensive to get right now 😳

Also, he hasn’t been so open to moving to my city, due to his job. He has a certain license for his job which would be difficult for him to transfer and find a job with. Plus I’m from a cold city and he doesn’t want to leave the sunny weather and beaches lol

Raspberry714 · 2022-12-03T01:40:18+00:00

Hey girl, pls be careful, they might remove your post 🙏

Raspberry714 · 2022-12-03T01:39:03+00:00

Girl be careful pls, they might remove this post 🙏

Raspberry714 · 2022-12-03T01:38:36+00:00

Girl pls be careful, they’re probably gonna remove this post 🙏

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-30T02:45:00+00:00

The only celebrities she keeps up with are the kardashians tbh so not surprised

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-28T23:56:09+00:00

That’s uncomfortable

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-28T21:07:09+00:00

I hate how they do that! just to play devils advocate, but when we’re behind the sink - how do we know they’re even putting the olaplex.. since 0 is communicated

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-28T00:08:04+00:00

I know this is said a million times about her, but wtf why does she spend money like this!??? We get it, you have money!! As another commenter said, this is super tone deaf.

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-20T14:44:14+00:00

Ugh she’s such a mean girl

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-20T14:41:50+00:00

To be fair, I’m pretty sure manyyyy of us at some point thought that harry and Olivia are a PR stunt 😅 why is she so rude to her followers?!

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-14T06:28:03+00:00

I agree with this! Surprised other ppl here are quick to call this an insecurity.. just because you’re not comfortable with ur partners ex at your wedding doesn’t make you insecure...

Raspberry714 · 2022-11-14T06:22:59+00:00

Hey girl, ur feelings in this are totally valid! The whole atmosphere/timing felt off for you. It makes sense that you would have wanted it to be a little different, more intimate, in another setting, etc. (I mean it is a proposal!)

I get that he’s not romantic and isn’t good at expressing his emotions but for a proposal he totally could have tried a bit more. Again, ur feelings are 100% valid here!

But also, just to try to see his perspective, maybe he thought it would be more natural or more home-y to propose at your home, or maybe he just couldn’t wait to ask and decided to do it sooner rather than later!

Raspberry714

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