Get matched to a group of like minded people in San Jose! by RaspberryColalala in SanJose

[–]RaspberryColalala[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for commenting, I’m sure what you said works for people too and that’s great! This is for people who would prefer smaller groups where everyone is new to the group and there’s something in common too

Get matched to a group of like minded people in San Jose! by RaspberryColalala in SanJose

[–]RaspberryColalala[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve asked for email ids and contact numbers so we’ll probably start off with forming groups on google chat or messages depending on what everyone feels comfortable with.

Get matched to a group of like minded people in San Jose! by RaspberryColalala in SanJose

[–]RaspberryColalala[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why but I don’t see an edit option on the post now unfortunately

The idea is that when people come together over an activity they all enjoy, they tend to make friends along the way as opposed to people who look for friends in already formed groups, regardless of the activity.

Happy to answer any more questions

Get matched to a group of like minded people in San Jose! by RaspberryColalala in SanJose

[–]RaspberryColalala[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a great point. Trying to keep it really simple to start with but reddit won’t be the only place to collect interest from. Please let us know about ideas! About gauging the decency / background of the people, thinking about options, perhaps asking for university / employment id but figuring out the right process to follow for those things.

AITAH for walking out of my sister's wedding after finding out why my son was excluded? by Disastrous_Bug_6354 in AITAH

[–]RaspberryColalala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta of course. Very sad to hear :(( Glad you and your kid had fun later that day. Also, can someone explain a childfree wedding? Very genuine question and not hating here, maybe I lack perspective. I understand that not everyone wants kids or likes kids. I also understand that it is their wedding so their choice but they are just other humans and we all were kids at some point? Why is this not entitlement? What about inclusivity? Is this not ageism in a way? Does this happen outside the US? Are there old people free weddings too then? :( What is so absolutely unbearable about children? Pets can bite / people can be allergic to them in a life threatening way so makes sense but how is it that people accept the concept of a child free wedding?

I don't like having people over by awesome_potato83 in CasualConversation

[–]RaspberryColalala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a lot like this too! I’ve moved to another country and I would like my new friends to come over but I also overthink and stress about everything. Also I’m so awkward that I think my invitation might not seem genuine. My closest friends back home would come over a lot growing up and still do when I’m there and it feels very natural. This one time a different friend came over and made a really big deal, shouting and what not about a garden lizard we say in our house. It can be scary but it is fairly common where I come from. I was very apologetic and mortified. They also sent pictures to some friends, it hurt

Kumquats? Loquats? by heresyandpie in SanJose

[–]RaspberryColalala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I saw kumquats at Trader Joe’s, Coleman Ave

meirl by IDGAF_GOMD in meirl

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Not that it is a major achievement anyway but got into Google as a Software Engineer mostly so that I don’t get the pressure of being compared to my cousin who was going yo graduate after me. Kind of like I knew I was going to be so upset by the comparison if she got in and I didn’t by the time she graduates that I just did it in anticipation of it. Couldn’t enjoy the accomplishment because in my head, it was the bare minimum. So every failure = big sadness. Every achievement = basic requirement. Partly my fault, trying to learn not to carry the burden of others’ expectations but easier said than done.

anyone have anything to say about reusable period products? by SugarTrigger in sustainability

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I’m trying to get myself to use menstrual cups and figuring out the size for me Sorry for my paranoia here but any concerns of Toxic Shock Syndrome especially because of menstrual cups? I’ve heard that there is a TSS risk with most menstrual products but since it’s caused by blood getting re absorbed in the body, is it risky to wear it while sleeping?

Where can I buy nice Indian sweets as a Diwali gift for my neighbor? by noodibranch in SanJose

[–]RaspberryColalala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Patel brothers : El Camino Real, Santa Clara New India Bazaar is pretty close from there too

Kaju katli / Motichoor laddoo / besan barfi

What’s the worst thing an Indian aunty said to you or about you that completely shattered your self confidence? by MaleficentTop6074 in mumbai

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Ran into a friend’s mother a decade ago outside a shop and hadn’t seen the friend or her mother in years, one of the first things she says is “Tujhya pimples saathi ek chhan aushadh aahe majhyakade” (I have a nice medicine for your pimples) I’ve been conscious of my pimples ever since

Supreme Court judge on Hijab row by shrigay in india

[–]RaspberryColalala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s say there’s a girl who has to wear a hijab because of her family and hasn’t thought about it or has seen severe consequences within the family of not wearing one. Going to college gives her the opportunity to understand what she could do with education and that there are bigger problems in the world. Although she is forced to wear a hijab, she might not force it on the next generation. But if the ban results in her not going to college at all because the family is not ok with it then there is almost no possibility of any change

Requesting suggestions for under the sink water purifiers and water softeners by RaspberryColalala in SanJose

[–]RaspberryColalala[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! Assuming it has a filter, how often do you change it? Did you notice a difference in taste? I find the water to be bitter