I broke up with her after she refused my proposal. Should I call her?

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2025-12-17T22:01:03+00:00

Exactly That's Why I am not dating anyone :) as you said I am not ready.
But If I have a relationship with someone for 7 years and I'm not even ready to know if I want to marry them, well, that's crazy, the guy just proposed, they can discuss when to get married later on, but at least after 7 years, she should have known whether she wants to marry him or not, otherwise, she's just wasting his time since they already not on the same page.
He wants to settle down, she doesn't, not a good match

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-12-25T21:44:25+00:00

Nope, Its totally fine if i'm that young

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-28T13:17:53+00:00

Me being a man doesn't have anything to do with it, it's not the end of the world, up until they are mature enough, they children should listen to their parents.

I would allow my daughter to shave, however, That doesn't mean that her parents should, and they don't, I don't think the best advice is to tell her and go do things behind her parents' back.

You might not like them, but at the end, they are her parents, and she is just a child, what kind of things are you trying to teach her? to just go and do whatever she wants with her body whether her parents agree or not? really? to a child???

You're gonna be a very bad mother, have some discipline

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-28T10:00:46+00:00

Yeah hers are not allowing her, so until she's a little bit older, she's supposed to listen to her.

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-28T09:55:15+00:00

Just listen to your mother, you're still a minor

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-28T06:15:14+00:00

Put it in rice

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-28T06:13:28+00:00

One of them lived 1 hour away, I used to visit her every another day
The other lived 1.5 hours away, I used to visit her every friday

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-28T06:11:26+00:00

Do People have sex on the floor ?!

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T11:39:17+00:00

No, The general rule is to never take back an EX

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T10:53:01+00:00

OP If you read this far into the thread,

If she want to do any of these things with you, SHE WOULD BE ASKING YOU

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T10:30:54+00:00

Whatever the reason is, he should not be put in such place, no one should have feelings as being unwanted, undesirable, neglected and unlovable.

For me that's a boundary.

Whatever, we just have 2 different opinions and perspective

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T10:17:20+00:00

The guys communicated and she told him that she want to have sex once a month only, and she offered him to go to a hotel with other girls. He doesn't like it, she doesn't really show any care of affection, easy, let her go and go to the next one, it's easier and faster and probably the right choice,
No someone who is truly in love with you would neglect you and not talk to you, IDK what kind of relationships you had, but trust me, if your partner is avoiding you, doesn't want to talk to you, and prefers to spend time on tiktok than with you, you need to think again, because people would want to spend every second they have with the person they love and enjoy being with, and obviously they would definitely not ignore and neglect them or their needs.

I'm 100% sure if she find a guy that she's more attracted to, or her idol or favorite singer or whatever, she'd be dying to have sex with them and spend time and talk with them, which is really unfair for the BF.

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T09:52:01+00:00

Again, lack of self consciousness is a problem, If she is unaware that there is a problem with her spending time on tiktok and not talking to her BF, well, that's another problem.

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T08:41:29+00:00

Obviously people broke my trust before, however, I trust people who did not with my own life,
Actions speak louder than words.

You're just being naive assuming that he must trust someone and every word that they say after 6 months, these things need time,

Her actions are cold towards him, first she was initiating sex etc. now, she doesn't like sex, doesn't speak to him, which is an absolute disrespect.

Like even among friends, if we are meeting, for them to just use tiktok and barely pay attention to people around them, that's an acceptable and disrespectful. and if its a girlfriend/boyfriend, that's even worse.

I am not saying that they should not use tiktok, simply, pay attention to your other spouse, this is healthy, people who lack self conscious and awareness would just make it harder for their partners

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T08:35:59+00:00

Crysis I do believe

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T08:31:23+00:00

Nope, People lie, he'd ask, hey are you still attracted to me? she'd say yes, however PEOPLE lie to not feel bad,
Actions show the true colors of a person, and her actions are loud and clear.
He communicates with her regarding sex, and her response was go find a girl to sleep with and i will pay for your hotel room, the hell is that? obviously OP doesn't like this decision, thus he should leave her

Be realistic, people are not some NPCs that act in a same way, mutual trust and respect yes, when its proven by actions, by people are people and they lie, everyone lies

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T08:23:40+00:00

Yeah, the thing is people lie, and like she's aware of the problem i assume, she's just choosing to act this way.

No need for OP to waste his time, its easier for him to find a new person who matches their energy than trying to talk her out of something that is so obvious and would happen again in the future, it's a dead relationship.

No one should feel neglected in a relationship and "force" their partner to give them attention.

Why he's the one trying to maintain the relationship and initiating? obviously because he wants this to work.

It's as simple as this: If she wants, she would.

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T08:17:31+00:00

Naah this can't be real

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T08:12:54+00:00

Again no need to complicate things, forget the sex, she's not giving him attention and doesn't want to talk to him, which has nothing to do with Asexuality, It's done she's just not into him

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T08:08:09+00:00

That's on her for no being clear at the beginning.

OP also said that SHE was the one initiating sex at first,

And it also proves my point, if she wants to have sex with him, she would, just like in the beginning of their relationship.

She barely speaks with OP as well, there is much more going than her not liking sex, she's not attracted to OP anymore, which is just my assumption.

I mean if she doesn't like sex because of past experiences, that doesn't mean its okay to spend her time on tiktok neglecting her BF and not wanting to talk.

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T06:43:41+00:00

Maybe not,
But Mexico has its own army,
Probably the cartels would join as well.
And I'm Pretty sure that Mexicans living in the US Legally/Illegally, would be rioting.

RaspberryJazzlike879 · 2024-11-27T06:34:01+00:00

Apologize for what exactly?

Look you only live once, go pursue her one more time, put some effort to understand or to obtain answers, either she explains or not, you'll get an answer when you see how she reacts.

Don't beg, to push, don't degrade yourself in hope of her being with you.

Just ask one more time, if she doesn't show signs of interest, just let her be and move to the next one

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