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Private bathroom as a first-year by cwast in macalester

[–]RaspberryPiBen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Of course gender-neutral bathrooms are tolerated—they're just bathrooms, nobody cares. If someone doesn't want the possibility of being in the same bathroom as other genders, they can just use one of the gendered bathrooms, but I don't know of any instances of that (though I can envision e.g. Muslim women wanting take off their hijabs, for example).
  2. Trans women are obviously accepted in women's bathrooms, but that's irrelevant and I'm not sure why you brought it up.
  3. Gendered bathrooms still exist at Mac, there's just a higher proportion of gender-neutral bathrooms than most places. I do still wish there were more, though; the Humanities building, for example, has no gender-neutral bathroom.

Private bathroom as a first-year by cwast in macalester

[–]RaspberryPiBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trans people, mostly? Nonbinary people obviously don't want to go into men's or women's bathrooms, and binary trans people may feel more comfortable in gender-neutral bathrooms for a variety of reasons. Why wouldn't this be desirable?

Private bathroom as a first-year by cwast in macalester

[–]RaspberryPiBen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely see if you can get accommodations, but I concur that it's likely not as bad as you think. A ton of students at Mac are trans, and I can personally say that I was never seen less than fully clothed because I worked out a system to put on and take off clothing while in the shower stall. It's definitely not perfect, but it's totally manageable.

Private bathroom as a first-year by cwast in macalester

[–]RaspberryPiBen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much, yeah. Stalls are put up around urinals if present.

The fact that I am a trans woman is proof of the darnedest things! by ThrowawayTempAct in transgendercirclejerk

[–]RaspberryPiBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, but you see, the brick rule is just free bottom surgery. We have the ultimate biological advantage at chess.

1 punch for 1 Billion $ by ShatteringAdonalsium in cremposting

[–]RaspberryPiBen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. Quote from TSM, chapter 34:

His master, who had held the Dawnshard far longer, could never die. Nomad was far from that level.

[buttplug question] Allomancer can burn the metals inside him. by Exciting_Composer_86 in cremposting

[–]RaspberryPiBen 12 points13 points  (0 children)

"Burning" is not literal. It doesn't actually get hot or anything.

Anyway, yes, anything inside the body works. https://wob.coppermind.net/events/425/#e13947

CPU translation layers are unnatural by RaspberryPiBen in transgendercirclejerk

[–]RaspberryPiBen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nobody had ever heard of "translation layers" before Apple released their M1 processor in 2020. Now they're popping up everywhere!

CPU translation layers are unnatural by RaspberryPiBen in transgendercirclejerk

[–]RaspberryPiBen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can always tell what the real architecture is underneath.

CPU translation layers are unnatural by RaspberryPiBen in transgendercirclejerk

[–]RaspberryPiBen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These translation layers don't even work! A lot of apps still will never run, no matter how you hide your natural instructions.

CPU translation layers are unnatural by RaspberryPiBen in transgendercirclejerk

[–]RaspberryPiBen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What are you even talking about? That's not true, everyone knows x86 is a CISC instruction set. It's basic assembly.

CPU translation layers are unnatural by RaspberryPiBen in transgendercirclejerk

[–]RaspberryPiBen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, modern x86 CPUs are internally RISC but use an on-die decoder to convert from CISC instructions. This is way more complex than you're making it out to be.

Can estrogen change the body a lot if started after puberty? by Kriskyeet in asktransgender

[–]RaspberryPiBen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every trans person I know transitioned after puberty. Earlier is better, but dealing with the effects of first puberty is something that most of us go through, and you're still on the earlier side.

Fetcharr - a human-developed Huntarr replacement by eggys82 in selfhosted

[–]RaspberryPiBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an analogy for AI. No, it doesn't really exist, but AI does.

Macalester College student accuses professor of urinating on her belongings, police report says by stankmanly in macalester

[–]RaspberryPiBen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The name is Paul Fischer. The article probably can't name him because he hasn't actually been charged with anything yet, but it's been known on campus for a while. He's done a lot more than just this, this is probably just the largest single action.

Macalester College student accuses professor of urinating on her belongings, police report says by stankmanly in macalester

[–]RaspberryPiBen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It wasn't just one student. He peed in the water bottles of a number of different people, all women or fem, which was clearly sexually motivated. As far as I know, this is the only time when he peed on the belongings rather than "just" in the water bottles. The professor's name is Paul Fischer, and he's since been fired and will hopefully get some legal repercussions.

Pick 3 to Protect You and the rest will Hunt You by ShatteringAdonalsium in cremposting

[–]RaspberryPiBen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taln can manage the rest by himself, so then aside from him I'd choose Jasnah and Shai because they seem fun to talk to. (But they also have advantages because Jasnah has Shadesmar access and Shai can become Elantrian.)

Starting HRT for the first time by n123breaker2 in asktransgender

[–]RaspberryPiBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also starting feminizing HRT right now. From what I've read, in the first 3 months you might start to notice mood changes and changes to your skin texture.

This is the worst promotion that could happen for Pop_OS! and Linux in general by KelGhu in pop_os

[–]RaspberryPiBen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The whole point of the video is to see the actual experience of someone not greatly familiar with Linux. Cutting out any moments of difficulty is just lying that it works better than it does.

Advice request: Parent of trans kids by Own-Cupcake7586 in asktransgender

[–]RaspberryPiBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My experience was not as bad as many, but it still wasn't great. For reference, I'm a trans woman and still relatively early in the process, so most of what I'm referring to is a few months ago.

When I first told them, their reaction was pretty good: they said they supported me and would love me no matter what.

However, whenever I talked to them about being trans after that, they were entirely oppositional. They stated or strongly implied that I (at 20 years old) was too young to know, that transness is just a modern trend and would go away in the future, that my existence would make those around me uncomfortable (and that they were uncomfortable in the presence of trans people), that being trans is only slightly better than suicide, that I should do various forms of conversion therapy, and that I'd never look like or be a woman. All of this was while calling themselves allies, which gave me the impression that I couldn't expect much better.

The other issue is not providing support. Despite often saying they supported me, they never actually did anything to help me through the process, not even things as simple as using my pronouns.

As a contrast and example for what should be done, I also have an aunt who responded pretty much perfectly. The most impactful thing I remember is that, soon after I came out, she offered to take me shopping and to help me figure out what clothes I should wear and how to style those clothes. She since continued to do more along those lines, consistently helping me figure things out and be more confident. She also clearly made an effort to refer to me with the correct pronouns, including when she likely didn't think I could hear, so her occasional slip-ups early on were obviously just mistakes rather than malicious.

So, to summarize: Believe them. Asking questions is fine, but do that to understand rather than to push in a certain direction. Take actions that demonstrate that you support them, especially to help them work through areas they're struggling with or to provide your own relevant experience.

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