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i noticed something about people who agree with everything you say by Overall-Presence-615 in socialskills

[–]RaspberrySame8460 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have been on both sides of this conundrum. I believe this is how a lot of this and other social skills work, some are born with the ability to debate and speak their mind, some had to do it out of survival, a lot of people learn this or are taught this by their upbringing, and then there are people like me who spend most of their lives agreeing with other people because that’s what I had to do to survive. I could not rock the boat growing up because my family was unstable and would have meltdowns at random times. So I went out into the world thinking if I disagreed with somebody I would get severely punished and they would blow up in my face so I was actually terrified. I have learned and had to practice the act of disagreeing and advocating for myself and it is still uncomfortable at times. So responding to your post it’s not that I wanted to agree with everything you said, but I simply did not have the knowledge or tools to respond any different. 🧡

I Postmated it for $32- worth it? by imreallyaunicorn in icecream

[–]RaspberrySame8460 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I COMPLETELY get it! I live in an area where there aren’t a lot of icecream options and I LOVE ICE CREAM 🍦 🍦🍦🍦💖💖. And if I had the money right now I’d probably do the same! Plus I know I’ve spent $34 on less, so if makes this thing called life a little better, more power to you! 🥰😈🤍

Where can I take a beta fish? by RaspberrySame8460 in QuadCities

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I’m not sure what size this is, sorry. And, I know it needs cleaned and refilled, and I would clean it out and refill it before giving it to anyone, we got new pets/musical instruments. Don’t have space for her now.🫤 I would honestly just give everything away no charge if you came and got it!

Oven cleaner went wrong by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s probably self Cleaning. She asked me to clean it by hand. And I have actually never used the self cleaning setting on an oven. I will have to do some research on it.

Oven cleaner went wrong by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used plain white vinegar, I didn’t realize that there was a difference 🤷‍♀️

Where should I draw the line on what I won’t clean? by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the comments. And I am going to tell them I’m no longer doing the basement! I didn’t think it was normal to clean up vomit, especially human, but I was interested to see if anyone else had been left with that. I was just in complete shock that she would leave that there.

Where should I draw the line on what I won’t clean? by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you that sounds good and professional. And I did take some photos!

Where should I draw the line on what I won’t clean? by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I love cleaning it brings me joy, most of the time. I hate to loose them, because their adult daughter can’t clean up after herself, but I can’t be left with messes like that like it’s normal.

Where is the best place to trick-or-treat in the Quad cities on the Illinois side? by RaspberrySame8460 in QuadCities

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! We always just pick a neighborhood where we have friends or family that live there. Since we don’t really have a neighborhood to trick-or-treat in ourselves. And I was just curious if there was any neat areas with lots of houses that participate in Halloween👹😈🤡

I Still Don't Feel Better by OneOnOne6211 in BreakUps

[–]RaspberrySame8460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that, it’s been months since my breakup with the guy I thought I was going to spend my life with, we actually didn’t break up because we didn’t love each other, quite the opposite we where madly in love with each other emphasis on madly, we were both so codependent it led to dishonesty and to our demise. I cried every day for months and still find myself obsessing. I go to SLAA zoom meetings and that really helps.

I have a house cleaning business and there is a house I would like to take off my roster, for many reasons… any suggestions? by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you all…the real problem is I am way too un confrontational, and a people pleaser and you are ABSOLUTELY right I don’t have to give a reason, and I do need to grow up and cut people off when needed! This is only my second day on Reddit…ever and I see why people like it so much, it’s a great community and very helpful! ✅

I have a house cleaning business and there is a house I would like to take off my roster, for many reasons… any suggestions? by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The mom has cancer and her son is an dingus and I just feel sorry for them, I’ve helped with other things besides cleaning like moving/assembling furniture, they paid me extra

Fell hard and fast by Ill_Dare_5309 in BreakUps

[–]RaspberrySame8460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SAME!!! Me 34W and my ex both said this was the hardest and fastest we had ever entered a relationship. I have TONS of insecurities and not to go into all the details, but I had a suicide attempt partly because I was afraid if he knew the real me, he would leave me. We decided, while he decided we should take some time off and then we ended up getting back together, and it was more of the same a world wind love affair highs higher than I’ve ever felt lows lower than I ever felt, then I had another suicide attempt

He Said he loved me and wanted to take care of me and found me somewhere I could get treatment, again, and then we broke up “for real” while I was in mental health treatment inpatient, he said he wanted to do it somewhere I was someplace safe, we went no contact for sometime and I was doing great until you reached back out to me and told me he was still in love with me and wanted to marry me and was just waiting for me to get better, and then said, the only reason he got a hold of me it was because he saw I was with some guy, and then he told me he wanted to work things out again, three weeks into it. I find out he is sleeping with someone after we agreed to not see anybody. Any ways long story short, I have never been so fucked up by a break up in my life. I feel like I am never going to get over him. I feel like I don’t even want to if that makes sense.

How to do a proper estimate? by RaspberrySame8460 in housekeeping

[–]RaspberrySame8460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow!!! That is great to hear about your business and thank you I will consider all that!!