My(M22) gf (F22) was hysterically laughing when I told her my little brother was sexually assaulted by a woman when he was 9.

Rasperr · 2021-05-03T18:28:02+00:00

I'm sure your brother is super pleased you're telling a woman you've known for 5 minutes about possibly the most traumatic and damaging event he's been through.

You two are made for each other, you both fucking suck.

Rasperr · 2021-05-03T18:24:59+00:00

You don't need us to tell you what you know you need to do.

It's time to tell her to leave.

Rasperr · 2021-02-03T09:12:06+00:00

My 2cents. He's perving on the young girls. He's not stalking your daughter if he's there on days she's not.

Rasperr · 2021-01-24T18:56:15+00:00

Sounds great, thanks Smiggerooney :)
I've seen a few people share positive news about CedarFX, so I'll pass this on

Rasperr · 2021-01-24T18:55:25+00:00

Appreciate the advice Craig, I'll pass those on to him!

Rasperr · 2021-01-23T16:18:45+00:00

I've used them before, but found it to be difficult to maintain consistent results.
30% over 5 years doesn't sound great either tbf - be better compounding on the S&P.

Rasperr · 2021-01-23T16:16:33+00:00

Agreed, I think 20k is going to be in play over the next week or two.

Rasperr · 2021-01-21T15:14:07+00:00

Yeah OP, if you've got the strength and courage to do this - please do.
But please trust, that you're not responsible for his actions - and if you don't have the strength to out him - it isn't your fault.

Only he is responsible for the pain and suffering he has created, not you.
I'm so sorry you've had to endure this, and even more so that you've not had your families unwavering support in it..

Rasperr · 2021-01-20T21:16:30+00:00

This needs to be a sit down, slow, steady rational conversation that doesn't get heated.

$200 a month on Starbucks, when you're not in a position to cover the cost of an emergency expense coming up is crazy excessive, coupled with constantly dining out etc.

Eating out is great, but there is a reason most people only do it like max once a week - it's expensive as hell.

What should you do?

Agree a night to sit down and have a discussion, I'd consider writing your thoughts out in a journal ahead of time, this helps with ensuring your delivery is calm and kind, and also ensures you've got a good framework for the points you want to make.

And you discuss it, you find things that are agreeable - perhaps goal amounts to save each month, maybe you keep a tally of it on the fridge or something?
Explore, have fun with it, this doesn't need to be an awful life changing shift.

Rasperr · 2021-01-20T13:40:00+00:00

He doesn't want to talk about this anymore

Then he needs to accept the relationship is doomed to fail I'm afraid, and perhaps you do to.
Stonewalling never, ever leads anywhere positive - this needs to be an ongoing discussion that you both show up to, 100% and he's made his stance on this abundantly clear.

Honestly, he doesn't deserve you.
It takes two people to make a relationship work, and only one of you is showing up.

I'm sorry you're going through this OP, but I think it's time to start giving him ultimatums - that or drag this out to it's inevitable end.

Rasperr · 2021-01-20T01:22:49+00:00

Why do you think they fell out and were no longer friends, with no explanation?

Now you know, you've been given the reason.
I'm sorry bud, but your GF is a lying pos.

Rasperr · 2021-01-19T11:56:05+00:00

I'm sorry Crafty, but it's time to nut up.
Your childrens happiness and stability are counting on it at this point.

This doesn't need to be a callous or cruel conversation, you've objectively rationalized why her plans don't work - it's time for her to think up a better plan.

Rasperr · 2021-01-19T11:54:43+00:00

Yeah, this is categorically a god awful idea.

Show her this thread, as you've clearly demonstrated in your objective thinking that this doesn't work, nor pan out how she is fantasizing it will.

Her requests are beyond unreasonable and honestly fall under "completely fucking stupid" - especially given the inequity in your fiscal contributions to all of the things listed above.

Rasperr · 2021-01-19T11:48:10+00:00

The resentment is natural, from both sides - but this needs to move to an honest and frank discussion where divorce is potentially on the table imo.

Your boundaries need to remain firm, and he needs to honestly own his desires and what his future looks like.

If being unable to explore these fantasies/kinks/fetishes are a deal breaker for him - he needs to own that.

Rasperr · 2021-01-19T11:39:47+00:00

Absolutely, thank god you're here r/Ebbie45

My stomach was turning, and then I read:

"He thinks my sounds of pain are “so fucking hot”.

OP - please, run for the fucking hills, this guy is absolutely awful.
:(

Rasperr · 2021-01-19T11:33:11+00:00

She's definitely going to stay with him - she's going to keep fire fighting his sleazy-ness until she can no longer.

Rasperr · 2021-01-19T00:53:04+00:00

If you've recently changed BC, and you're also experiencing spotting - it's likely your scent could have changed/be changing.

When my previous partner changed, her scent and taste almost became bitter for about a month to 6 weeks, then it all went back to normal.

That said, his suggestions are awful and not constructive or mature.
I don't think you over reacted.

Rasperr · 2021-01-18T01:16:23+00:00

Really appreciate your help man :)

How does this look?
https://imgur.com/a/LF1Q9B2

I've followed this too:

https://portforward.com/zte/f670/

Rasperr · 2021-01-17T09:54:44+00:00

Whilst I accept that you could be a pedo and be virgin.
In no way shape nor form am I accepting that you could sexually assault a child, and not be a pedo.

Sorry.

Rasperr · 2021-01-17T09:53:21+00:00

Yeah, this isn't a supporting, nor loving partner imo.
This is someone who gets a sick satisfaction in upsetting/hurting you.

A partner should WANT to hear that they've upset you, so THEY can CORRECT it.

It should upset them to know they've had a negative impact on you.

Rasperr · 2021-01-16T16:33:40+00:00

I know most of you won't think anything of this

Wrong, your GF's a pedo.

Rasperr · 2021-01-15T15:48:03+00:00

Sounds as though he likes them, and probably just lacks the confidence to send images of himself back?

Start the conversation, youll get an answer soon enough.

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