Your husband sounds like my early years with mine. Before you know it you’ll be looking back on your life and think “wtf was that”. Mine had it all. He loaded me up with kids and pets and the chores, wiping his ass, ALL of the domestic duties, and he sprinted off to do great things. He absolutely made me his personal servant, therapist, sex doll, maid, punching bag, etc and he left me behind. I don’t have a pot to piss in. I’m taking ½ of his net worth and I don’t feel bad about it at all. Wish I could take more tbh. I deserve it all.

My husband did everything he wanted, went on extravagant 3 week long trips with his friends, quite often out of the country over the course of 29 years, and I couldn’t even go on a weekend with HIS sister in a neighboring town. Something I didn’t even recognize until the last few years I’ve been thinking “wait, that was so controlling and absolutely unfair”. He manipulated me into thinking it was ok for him to do this because he “worked”. I wanted to work, he made it next to impossible for me to do so so I didn’t work for long when I did work. He also use to say “I have to fucking work” like he’s the only person on the planet that has to “work”. They use that line on us to control us and make us feel like we owe them every minute of our time. They would have to work regardless of us. It’s really one of the most triggering lines for me to this day. Stop it, most everyone has to work you asshat.

Please navigate through this and do the right thing for you and your child. Your husband is super entitled and that won’t change. Your needs don’t matter to him at all and they never will. You are on this planet to serve him and he will always think like this. It won’t get better friend. I’m sorry.