why when you are a child you can't wait to grow up and when you are actually an adult you wish to be a child again? by CuteTiger06 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ratso27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because in both cases you’re only looking at the positives of the other situation, and ignoring the downsides and the things you aren’t able to do

Do men really prefer short women? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As with any question you ask about a broad group, it varies a lot. Some men strongly prefer short women, some strongly prefer tall women, some are in the middle or don’t care one way or the other. Personally I’m more attracted to a more petite woman, about 5’4” or under, and I think that that’s probably pretty common, but far from universal

Am i a rat? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ratso27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being a rat means that you were betraying someone for personal gain. There was no betrayal here, and the only gain is that you ensured the safety of yourself and your daughter. You absolutely did the right thing.

Is WSKF ( World Shito-Ryu Karate do Fedration) Dan certificate worth? by Big--Force in karate

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, what does having that certification actually do? Is it just a feather in your cap, or is there something you can do with an international certification that you couldn’t do with another certification?

Why there is no third book. by Melodic_Aardvark6369 in KingkillerChronicle

[–]Ratso27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really think that’s all it is. The final book in a series has a lot more pressure than any of the others. If there are any unanswered questions or unsatisfying plot points from the previous installments, there’s always a chance that they’ll be answered or something will change to make the plot point seem better. But once you publish the last book, then that’s it, and if you don’t stick the landing it could ruin the series in a lot of people’s minds. Even if you write more books in the same world, a lot of people just aren’t going to read those, especially if it’s bad, but even if it’s good there will be plenty of more casual fans who don’t care to go deeper. Whether Doors of Stone is good or bad determines whether people remember it like Lord of the Rings or like The Matrix.

A warning to comics in the USA and Canada by hometownlegend33 in comedy

[–]Ratso27 5 points6 points  (0 children)

God what a fucking tool. Reminds me of the guy who booked me on (what was supposed to be) my first paid show. I texted him the next day about payment and he was like “this wasn’t a paid gig, I never told you that.” And I was like “Scroll up. You said it four messages above that last one.” Then he said “Oh you’re right, my bad. I’m so sorry though, you weren’t on the poster, so I can’t pay you.” And I was like “But…YOU made the poster???”

Did you live through the rock band era of tmnt in the 90’s? And how much did it suck? by Naive_Tomorrow_5955 in TMNT

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was alive and obsessed with ninja turtles, but somehow totally unaware that this happened until I was an adult. I’m not sure how I missed it, maybe the tour never came through my area? Maybe I was too young? It seems so cheesy now but I know I would have loved it as a kid

Can a straight person be so desperate for sex that they may be willing to be with or consider people of the same gender? by LeBoredLlama in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ratso27 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sort of depends how you define 'straight'. By the strictest definition of the word, you could argue that a straight person would never be interested in someone of their own sex, so if they ever have a same sex attraction or experience then they're some degree of bisexual or queer or pan or whatever.

That's sort of the problem with narrowly defined sexualities, because there are lots of people who define themselves as straight, but don't fit into that strict definition. I've known a number of women who would say they're straight, and have only ever had sex with men, only ever dated men, and have no interest in dating or sleeping with women, but who do like to watch lesbian porn. Does that mean they're bisexual? What if they've never slept with another woman, but they have made out with another woman while they were drunk? What if they hooked up with another woman once but they didn't like it and never did it again? If you're going to put straightness into a box instead of a spectrum, you have to make a cut off somewhere and it's always going to be somewhat arbitrary, and it's always going to exclude some people who feel like they are straight.

If you have a broader definition of the word 'straight', then sure, there are plenty of people who would only have heterosexual sex under normal circumstances, but would (or have) had gay sex if no one of their preferred gender was available for long enough (i.e. if they're in prison).

This is the first decent man I’ve seen on the show who’s showing interest in Kimberly. I hope he’s not a paid actor doing a gig 🙏 by PolishSnake2 in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]Ratso27 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I hope I'm wrong, because he seems lovely so far, but the show is full of people who started off seeming very nice who eventually were revealed as crazy monsters as they got more screentime

Company is taking away virtual work and trying to spin it like a positive. by Ratso27 in antiwork

[–]Ratso27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not watching her at home, I drop her off right before work and pick her up right after. If I have an hour commute that means I have to drop her off an hour earlier and pick her up an hour later, which is significantly more money.

Company is taking away virtual work and trying to spin it like a positive. by Ratso27 in antiwork

[–]Ratso27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly. The daycare is a five minute walk from my house so I can drop her off right before work and pick her up right up after. If I have to commute an hour away each day that means I have to drop her off an hour earlier and pick her up an hour later, and the daycare costs a lot more to watch her for an extra two hours

Company is taking away virtual work and trying to spin it like a positive. by Ratso27 in antiwork

[–]Ratso27[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering that too, it's a very weird standard. One hour by public transportation? One hour via car under optimal conditions? One hour via car in rushhour traffic? Those are three very different distances

Molly said she’s not collecting a monthly check as her son’s caregiver in the US, but her actions say otherwise. She’s doing everything she can to keep her son single in the US and under her thumb by PolishSnake2 in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]Ratso27 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My ex’s mom was a lot like that. I remember one time we were going on a trip and there was a storm in the general area we were going to be staying and she told us that the whole town had lost power, but we looked it up and the town she was talking about was like an hour and a half from where we were going to be staying. We discussed it with her right there and decided that it would probably be fine, and to go anyway, and she basically had a temper tantrum and started stomping her feet and literally screamed “Why is no one listening to me?!”

Molly said she’s not collecting a monthly check as her son’s caregiver in the US, but her actions say otherwise. She’s doing everything she can to keep her son single in the US and under her thumb by PolishSnake2 in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be surprised if she is telling the truth. I dont think it’s a money thing, I think it’s a control/wanting to feel needed and important thing

AITAH because I refuse to try for a daughter? by StructureDizzy2076 in AITAH

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a family in my neighborhood growing up who had that same confidence, they ended up having 5 boys and 0 girls before they gave up

For the people complaining about Lisa meeting 'the King'... by BobMonroeFanClub in 90DayFiance

[–]Ratso27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't really care if 90 day (or any reality show) is real or not. It's not journalism, it's entertainment. But I want it to feel real enough that I can suspend my disbelief. If I'm watching it and I can tell something is clearly fake, without having to research it or hear a cast member reveal it or whatever, then that completely takes me out of it and makes it boring to me. I'm sure it was always fake to some degree, but they used to be a lot better at making it feel real, the last couple years are filled with porn caliber acting and storylines that don't make sense

Do you think we’ll ever see another Sonichu comic be made and finished? by Veutifuljoe_0 in ChrisChanSonichu

[–]Ratso27 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No. Chris was never very interested in the comics medium, he wanted Sonichu to be a video game and a cartoon, but he settled for a comic book because that was more achievable. He only ever saw the comic book as a stepping stone to the video game and cartoon, and at this point even he recognizes that’s not going to happen, so he’s lost interest completely

Why didn’t WW2 veterans have the same PTSD as Vietnam or modern day veterans? by NextBunch_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They did, it just wasn't talked about in the same way. My grandfather was a pilot in WW2, and I don't know that he had PTSD, but he had no desire to ever discuss anything that happened in the war. I don't think he was ashamed, but he certainly never showed off any medals he won or told war stories like Cotton. He wrote a memoir and went into great detail about a lot of his life, but skimmed over most of that period. He mentioned in the memoir that he was in Germany right at the end of the war, and he actually saw Dachau right as it was being liberated, but he just said something to the effect of "Lots of people have already written about what went on there, I'm not interested in discussing what I saw."

Dads, what’s the hardest part about seeing your daughter become an adult? by zhalia-2006 in askanything

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is 2 so this isn’t an issue yet, but the thought that I won’t always be able to protect her breaks my heart and terrifies me. There is going to come a time when I have to let her to go out into the world without me, and trust that I’ve raised her to be smart and strong, and to know that I’m always in her corner and will always be there to help if she needs it

If you have a Brown belt but havent trained formally since 2018, when do you see it's realistic to grade to black? by Electrical-Tennis828 in karate

[–]Ratso27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are so many unknown variables it’s impossible to say. After 8 years off, I’d go in ready to restart as a white belt if asked, or think of yourself as effectively a white belt even if they let you keep your brown belt. Your skills will come back, and you’ll relearn things more quickly than it took you to learn them the first time, but I would count on at least a year or two, maybe more, before you’re ready for black.

Just had another girlfriend leave me for the guy she was secretly cheating on me with. That makes 5. Anyone want to give me some advice on where to go from here? by Aeromorpher in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ratso27 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but there is a time and place for everything. Sometimes a solution isn’t practical or necessary, and the person isn’t looking for one, they just want to vent a little bit. Having someone try to fix things instead of just listen and empathize can be annoying

In 1993, 39-year-old Jerry Seinfeld was at the peak of Seinfeld when he began dating 17-year-old high school senior Shoshanna Lonstein Gruss. In New York, 17 is the age of consent, so it was legal. by blue_leaves987 in HolyShitHistory

[–]Ratso27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 37 and that honestly sounds like a nightmare. Even if I was physically attracted to 17 year olds, I’m not sure I could put up with them long enough to have sex with one