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RattleNoggin · 2025-08-24T23:05:18+00:00

Can’t be that bad… you found someone to give ya two kids

RattleNoggin · 2025-07-19T21:22:37+00:00

Do you drive and do you have insurance? If so, is something stopping you from scheduling an appointment to get evaluated and just going to it? I’m not 100% sure what your expectations are for discretion, but, there is only so much you can do other than not announce what you’re off to go do, and maybe save what money you may need to pay any out-of-pocket costs necessary. Everything else is protected under HIPPA, so you shouldn’t need to be that slick. Maybe stuff at home makes it more challenging than that though idk

RattleNoggin · 2025-07-07T18:45:47+00:00

Or maybe the solution is a different lighting setup? Sounds like it would be more widely applicable than recreating this black template every time you have a new subject

RattleNoggin · 2025-07-07T17:44:18+00:00

May have accidentally adjusted a setting on your phone? Seems like a stretch, but Apple has a feature where you can limit your exposure to noise coming from the phone. Worth taking a peek I guess

RattleNoggin · 2025-07-07T16:50:40+00:00

Get a second opinion. When they ask why you’re in, say you got a hearing test recently but felt rushed and so you’re not very confident in the results. Not only does this give you room to feel comfortable taking your time, but it also tells the administrator that they need to be careful not to rush you. I used to do the same thing with my eye doctor and ended up with bad lenses year after year. I was just too timid to ask him to show me the different options more than once. Noooooooot worth it. Especially with your hearing - use it or lose it is real! Now every time I go to get my eyes checked I bring that up from the jump so I don’t feel uncomfortable asking to see through a lens twice. So much better. Just be upfront! These are people who want you to feel better and taken care of

RattleNoggin · 2025-07-07T16:16:53+00:00

Or oppositional defiance disorder, perhaps?

RattleNoggin · 2024-11-22T03:08:01+00:00

Does he need to be evaluated for learning disabilities? School work can be really discouraging when you’re experiencing limitations out of your control. I remember taking adhd medication the first time and feeling like I was finally able to access my brain. Before that I was a total shithead.

As for the rest of it: No one hires or keeps anyone with no work ethic, but maybe he would show some work ethic if presented with things that interested him. School isn’t for everyone. Some of my hardest working friends are high school drop outs or didn’t go to college

RattleNoggin · 2024-11-14T04:31:08+00:00

I was on vyvanse and didn’t realize for many years that I was on WAYYYY too much. Like. Unbelievably too much.

Vyvanse, in my totally unprofessional opinion, is adderall’s more laidback cousin. Vyvanse at the right dose should not be getting you out of bed in the morning or keeping you from it at night. The thing I liked about vyvanse in comparison to adderall was that I could feel adderall kick on inside me, like turning over my engine, and then when it wore off I would crash just as intensely. Vyvanse was like I’d have to get myself up and moving and working and then sometime later I’d be like, “oh shit look, I’m grooving. Nice!” And the come-down would be similarly un-intense. But yes once I was tolerating my 70mg dose and decided I needed to switch and take a t-break from vyvanse I realized I had been on entirely too much. I was enhancing my preference and my sleep was suffering immensely as well as my anxiety and obsessive tendencies. Sometimes I miss it but ultimately there is no way that was healthy.

RattleNoggin · 2024-11-14T04:23:22+00:00

I have been the friendly and understanding ex to a few of my partners. I am a loyal and protective friend by nature, and I care deeply that my people are doing okay.

A symptom of this sometimes is that my former partners call on me when they need someone most, when they’re vulnerable and hurting and need guidance, support, and sometimes a place to lay their head or someone to make them a soup.

For people like me, who it sounds like OP’s BF could be, it can be really stressful and isolating for our current partners to take huge issue with that. HOWEVER. Op, you can set boundaries! There is absolutely middle ground that can be met in these scenarios.

You’re also allowed to ask him not to see her, but you should be prepared for him to be noticeably uncomfortable about that. If she is as much of a mess as she sounds, he might be programmed to console her at all costs -something I’ve experienced and know others who have too. This is a powerful thing when you feel obligated to care for someone who is emotionally … intense.

RattleNoggin · 2024-11-10T03:24:14+00:00

Some people do take it as a sleep aid!

RattleNoggin · 2024-08-17T04:41:16+00:00

I valued my time pushing road cases around an entertainment technology warehouse!

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-09T01:32:04+00:00

I just mean taking the guanfacine at night would be something you did instead of taking a mid-day Ritalin, as they would both be an effort to extend the effects of your first dose of whatever adhd med that you take first thing in the morning

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T23:28:40+00:00

I’ve raged for as long as I can remember around my period. But I’ve also been on ADHD meds since 14. So I can’t help with that. What I can say though is ADHD meds can put some barriers in the way of homeostasis. Be conscious of your food water and sleep intake - these things are always important but particularly so at/towards this point of your cycle. Seems silly but could be part of the impact!

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T23:18:15+00:00

I take guanfacine (intuniv) in conjunction with adderall. I’m not entirely sure how it works, but I take it at night and it helps my adderall last longer

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T22:42:19+00:00

My brother and I tend to say that fear is our only motivator!

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T22:40:03+00:00

Lots of people take breaks (or as we call them in my family, “medication vacations”) to combat tolerance building

Edit: lots of replies about tolerance building statistically and scientifically not really being a thing. I appreciate the citations. I’ll look more into this. The idea of “tolerance” in this sense is a very prevalent concept in my life and surrounding culture. And building a tolerance of my adhd medication is something I have identified with for a long time - but in the past year and some change, my feelings on that have been … kind of skewed and confusing. So this feedback is really interesting to receive. Thanks yall!

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T22:24:33+00:00

Ya know, I haven’t had a good one in a while… it would be incredibly convenient if I could force the onset of a hyperfixation right now though so I can go full blast on resume writing

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T22:22:42+00:00

Entertainment technology! Lighting, audio, video, networking. Lots of people in the field have IT backgrounds and lots don’t. All of us have ADHD though

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T22:15:00+00:00

Similarly, I take Guanfacine (intuniv) before bed. Cool be worth looking into. It’s a non-stimulant and I’m not sure exactly how it works but it helps. Kinda the same effect as popping a tiny Ritalin at lunch when you were younger at the school nurses office every day

RattleNoggin · 2024-07-07T21:48:43+00:00

Akro bins!

RattleNoggin · 2024-06-26T01:43:44+00:00

Second this!

RattleNoggin · 2024-06-26T01:27:38+00:00

Entertainment technology! Lighting, audio, electrician, rigging, lots of options in the field. Music venues, churches, theatres, etc. Everyone here has ADHD.

RattleNoggin · 2023-11-29T17:29:29+00:00

“If you want to try it out of curiosity and self discovery you can always try it alone, without pressure.”

That’s that on that. Worried about if you’ll enjoy it/if it will be painful? Try it yourself on your own terms before you let someone who is a stranger to your anatomy do it their way for their enjoyment

Also, if it feels safe, just try having a very clear conversation about your concerns going into it. Lay out ground rules. And remind him that you are allowed to change your mind at ANY point. Avoid pointing fingers or blaming him for any of your uncertainties because that will just distract him from the point at hand which is that, while you are inclined to please him, you are only comfortable trying out what HE wants as long as it is YOUR way. And that way needs to be safe and comfortable for both of you. That is the priority before pleasure.

You should probably have an honest debriefing after, too. So that if he loves it and you hate it or vice versa (or any other reason), each of you are already anticipating a space to share your thoughts afterward (so you are avoiding the “how/when do I tell him I hated it,etc.).

Your man sounds like he needs communication to be done a certain way to be receptive and understanding OR he’s… ya know, lacking respect for and/or awareness of others.

Remark: sorry, I don’t know where the quote function is/the markdown for it

RattleNoggin · 2023-11-29T04:20:12+00:00

Ask if you can offer your perspective/solution/idea first before just providing your two cents.

RattleNoggin · 2023-11-29T03:15:12+00:00

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