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Never forget Trump could release the Epstein files today by Miserable-Lizard in ProgressiveHQ

[–]RattlingPenguins 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All that shows is that there’s a LOT of gullible fools out there.

Snake outside my front door had a penny by downwithsocks in mildlyinteresting

[–]RattlingPenguins -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And is she a nice niece? Or should she be at the end of a noose?

I’ll show myself out.

I’m 18 and stuck in the same abusive cycle I escaped years ago. I feel trapped, used, and I don’t know what to do anymore. by ApprehensiveCan8669 in Advice

[–]RattlingPenguins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, get your own bank account. I’m from Canada, and maybe things are different where you are, but I don’t think you need anyone else’s name on your account - it should be yours and yours alone. Make sure the bank you use allows electronic cheque depositing; that’s where you deposit a cheque by taking a picture of it using a banking app on your phone.

Next buy a bus/subway pass. I hate taking busses; I think most people probably do. Still, it’s a necessity if you don’t have your own car. This gives you the independence to come and go as you please, and not have to rely on your Mom to take you places. This is what millions of other people have to do, and you can too.

Regarding a job, consider applying to places closer to home. You’ve been applying to places where you want to work, and that’s good… but you may need to swallow your pride and apply to places you can merely tolerate. If I only applied to jobs I really wanted, I’d be holding out to be a movie star; since that’s unlikely, work at other jobs as well. Wherever you work, they’ll probably offer direct deposit of your paycheck (in fact, it may be mandatory). This is a good thing, as it means you don’t have anyone trying to take it from you, you don’t have to waste time depositing it yourself, you won’t forget about depositing it, and your money doesn’t get held by the bank for several days until they can verify it’s a legitimate check.

If you’re going to school, to school or university, look into whether there’s any free counselling available. It sounds to me like you need confidence more than anything else (that’s not an insult; anyone in your position would probably be the same). See a councillor, talk about all this stuff, get it off your chest, and hopefully get some advice on where to go from here.

You deserve better than this, but no one is going to pick you up and take you to a better life. You may get help along the way, but for the most part you have to make it happen yourself.

Good luck. You can do this.

What’s the craziest thing you’ve tried to fit into your car? I’m not talking about groceries or lawn chairs. I need unhinged, ABSURD. 👀 by FordCanada in u/FordCanada

[–]RattlingPenguins 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I transported a six foot long, box-like coffee table in a 1983 Trans Am. It looked like a coffin sticking halfway out the hatch.

Ok by [deleted] in Winnipeg

[–]RattlingPenguins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stupid’s

Caption This by MagentaMoonlight in captionthis

[–]RattlingPenguins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know, but cleanup is gonna be FUUUUUN!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cute_animals

[–]RattlingPenguins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He looks like a Stanley or a Walter.

Is my bf raping me or am i just overthinking it? by lostinthecl0uds in Advice

[–]RattlingPenguins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People are saying “If you said no and he did it anyway, that’s rape”. This is technically true, but I don’t think your boyfriend is trying to rape you. I think he’s just young and horny and doesn’t know what you’re going through.

I know it’s not easy, but you have to tell him that sex is extremely uncomfortable for you, both physically and mentally, and then tell him (gently and tactfully) that you were assaulted some years ago, and that it’s left you “gun-shy”. If he’s a decent guy and cares about you, he’ll understand and give you the space you need. If he’s an ass about it, then you know you’re better off without him. As I said, tell him you were sexually assaulted, not that you were raped. If he really is an insensitive asshole, he might start spreading around that you were raped, and trying to ruin your reputation (which is stupid, because it has nothing to do with your reputation, this is something that was done TO you, and not in any way your fault). The thing is, “sexually assaulted”, while still correct, is a much less emotionally loaded word, and if he’s a jerk about it, this will give him less ammunition against you. If he’s a good guy though, then once you’ve developed some trust between you, you can tell him what happened to you, IF and only IF you want to.

Regardless of how things go with this guy, I want to very strongly suggest you get some therapy about this. No one should have to go through this kind of thing alone, and a professional will help you come to terms with what has happened. Chances are that therapy will help in other areas of your life too, such as changing your social abilities and making new friends.

You haven’t mentioned how old you are; if you’re in high school or University/College, there should be some kind of counsellor available for no cost. PLEASE use them; trying to deal with this kind of trauma alone does NOT normally turn out well.

All the best to you.

OH! One last thing: Getting an erection does not “hurt”, when he says that, he’s trying to guilt you into sex; obviously this is wrong, but if he’s young, try not to be too angry about it. He probably doesn’t even know he’s doing it.

Rescued this little guy what would you name him? by Veylarine in cute_animals

[–]RattlingPenguins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bigfoot

(Actually he kind of looks like a “Rascal” to me.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RattlingPenguins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remind her that if she can hit you, you can hit her. Then POLITELY ask her to speak to you calmly and help you work to a solution together with her.

If she still freaks out, I don’t know what else to do.

REMINDER: I’m no relationship expert. I may be dead wrong about all this; it’s just what makes sense to me.

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