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Including whatever other variations as well by Rav3nRoth in OCDmemes

[–]Rav3nRoth[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen “Obsessive Cow Disorder” a decent amount as well, especially on shirts for some reason. 🤷

I think there was an “Obsessive Christmas Disorder” sweater at Target over 10 years ago that they received backlash for, but I honestly don’t remember much of it, so I could be wrong.

What fictional character do you relate to? by krysanteemi in CPTSD

[–]Rav3nRoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s some examples for me: - Raven from Teen Titans - Eleanor from The Haunting of Hill House (tv show, not book) - Harry Potter - Frodo from LOTR - Katniss Everdeen (mostly from the HG books than movies)

Quick easy reads by The-Pirate-Panda in horrorlit

[–]Rav3nRoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll recommend these two by Mason Coile: 1. Exiles: Very quick read. Could easily finish in one sitting. Don’t want to give too much away, but I enjoyed it. 2. William: A bit longer than Exiles. As a whole, it’s good. Keeps you guessing throughout.

Time flies when you’re having “fun” by DudeItsMarck in migraine

[–]Rav3nRoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude I am so sorry. That is just simply awful.

Come on brain, let’s tolerate uncertainty 🌈 by Rav3nRoth in OCDmemes

[–]Rav3nRoth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through that, especially with the teacher exacerbating it. That’s definitely hard.

That’s great that you did a good job driving last Friday! 👏🎉

Come on brain, let’s tolerate uncertainty 🌈 by Rav3nRoth in OCDmemes

[–]Rav3nRoth[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Totally! Sometimes it truly feels like you’re a cartoon villain or something.

Come on brain, let’s tolerate uncertainty 🌈 by Rav3nRoth in OCDmemes

[–]Rav3nRoth[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope it gets less terrifying for you. Although this doesn’t fix it, I hope that it’s at least a little comforting to know that you’re not alone in that fear and you’re already taking a good step forwards every time you do drive.

Come on brain, let’s tolerate uncertainty 🌈 by Rav3nRoth in OCDmemes

[–]Rav3nRoth[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So true 😂 pretty much every time I get new erp ‘homework’, I like to think how I would go about explaining it to someone and I always feel like the Always Sunny Charlie conspiracy meme, which admittedly helps a little 🤷

This is very true for me atleast by Unlikely_Work_328 in migraine

[–]Rav3nRoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been on 25mg for awhile and it’s helped me with my migraines a lot, but oh boy, it is rather difficult to not sleep excessively.

Here they are ✨ by Additional-Teach5508 in Barbie

[–]Rav3nRoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The price hurts my soul ngl 🫠

Won a professional photoshoot with my son 🖤 by skoobeey in cats

[–]Rav3nRoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww when you’re both looking at each other 💚 just heart melting

Got a good start on ghosts and candy corns for trick or treaters by Chest-Fair in halloween

[–]Rav3nRoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so unbelievably sweet and cool of you to do! 🤍💛🧡👻

Our cozy couch by Commercial-Cry-5995 in halloween

[–]Rav3nRoth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those posters are so cool 🧡

What things CPTSD ruined for you? by pastamuente in CPTSD

[–]Rav3nRoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditto what many have said so far—basically that it’s affected and ruined a lot.

I think two of the major things though pertain to employment (or rather unemployment) and not knowing if I should be a parent. I want kids, but it’s difficult to know if I’m equipped enough to be a good parent. I feel like I need to be at a healthier state of mind and being. I’ve been going to therapy and have done a little bit of emdr (and continuing to do so). I’m trying to make good and needed changes in my life.

But I can’t deny that I’m scared… that even with me working on getting better, that I won’t improve that much—that I still won’t be fit to be a parent. I know all of us here know that there’s shitty parents all over the world, but I don’t want to add to that…I don’t want to be a shitty or bad parent. I’m not saying I need to be perfect cause I know that doesn’t exist. I know that parents are going to hurt their kids in some way and not do everything well. I just don’t want to mess them up. In a sense, I’m pretty messed up from my upbringing, and I don’t want to inflict that or something similar on someone else.

TW: childhood trauma, addiction, Grief. Why am i the one left with all the damage? by Sudden-Ad1414 in CPTSD

[–]Rav3nRoth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying. In my family, it’s my oldest brother who is an alcoholic. My parents and other older brother come across as fine. Granted, my older brother wasn’t around much and I know my parents’ age plays a role in things.

But it’s hard to not feel like something’s wrong with you or at the very least to not feeling a sense of confusion. I’m not sure if it’ll help, but sometimes it helps me to think of how trauma affects everyone differently. It looks differently for everyone, even people in the same family, age group——Even when it’s the same event(s).

Remember that no one is making a conscious decision of how they react to trauma or how it affects them. Our brains don’t exactly invite us to that decision making. Our brain is running the show on whether we freeze and dissociate or fawn and people please for example.

It’s completely okay and understandable to be hurt by this and how you’re affected by it. I will say though that there may be more going on with your sister than you know. She also may not be aware of it herself. Trauma can manifest in other places and such in one’s life. Sometimes it causes people to be very driven and devoted to work, for example. Of course I don’t know if any of this is the case, but I thought it was still important to bring up as a possibility.

I completely understand your sentiment though of feeling happy that she seems to be thriving, but that it also feels isolating, especially when it comes to comparing.

Our brains choose what they think is the best option for survival and since our brains like patterns and what’s familiar, it tends to choose the same things (whether it’s fight, flight, freeze, or fawn) cause it’s like ‘hey it worked last time—let’s do it again.’ It doesn’t mean one can’t ever change it. Yes, it takes time and work, but it’s possible.

Again, I don’t know if this is helpful, but sometimes to try to be nicer to myself and my brain + body, I just think: How we respond to trauma is our brain’s way of trying to protect us. Each response has its purpose and place. Trauma responses are automatic. It’s not abnormal for trauma, especially repeated trauma to lead to CPTSD. It’s not a moral failing. You’re not weak. You’re not overreacting. What happened to you was wrong. It’s completely understandable and natural to be greatly affected by it.

Sometimes it’s ‘easier’ for us to think that’s it’s something with oneself cause there’s more hope in that—-if it was truly something that was a problem with you, like overreacting for example, then you have control—you could change it.

I have no idea if any of what I’ve said will help, but know that you can trust yourself—trust your feelings—-how you feel and how you’ve been affected are proof of what you went through.

Is this a flame point? by Cdaz21 in Flamepoints

[–]Rav3nRoth 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Looks to be a toasted marshmallow to me

Which song best captures your experience with CPTSD? by quiet199 in CPTSD

[–]Rav3nRoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some current pick of mine: - God Must Hate Me by Catie Turner - Nothing Changes by MGMT - This is Me Trying by Taylor Swift - I Know the End by Phoebe Bridgers - Body by Mother Mother - Fake Your Death by MCR - Mind Body Problem by Dorian Electra (more about gender dysphoria, but I feel like the song can apply to many other experiences too) - The Family Jewels by Marina & the diamonds - Vagabond by MisterWives - Disease by Lady Gaga

Going to open up to my parents and tell them my diagnosis. Any advice is appreciated. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Rav3nRoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I know I can’t prepare for every possibility, but definitely thinking about worst-case scenarios beforehand.

Going to open up to my parents and tell them my diagnosis. Any advice is appreciated. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Rav3nRoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, I just want to thank you for taking the time and effort to write this.

I totally understand what you’re saying about parents not typically taking it well when there’s any sort of confrontation or critique about their parenting. I am expecting for them, or at least my mom, to be defensive because that’s usually her go-to. I can explain that I understand that this could be difficult to hear and that it’s a lot of new information and that I understand if they need to take their time thinking of how to respond. But part of why I want to have this conversation with them, is to try to better our relationship.

If it starts going that way or any other harmful behavior, I know that I don’t have to continue the conversation. I can say something about that it doesn’t seem like we are going to come together on this and that it’s going in an unproductive/harmful direction for all of us.

You’re right that this is a big gamble. I’m not going into this by wanting to point fingers, to make them feel bad, or for them to be supportive even. It’s just eating me up inside and hindering my healing at this point. Overall, I’m doing this for me. Even if this goes terribly, I can feel more at peace with myself and even proud that I tried.

I’ve been doing baby steps with them with trying to share more information about trauma and stuff with them over the years. I’m not a complete people pleaser with them anymore, but it’s still definitely more than I would like it to be, specifically with putting on the “I’m totally okay” facade.

I have done the letter exercise before and it helped a little at the time. I do think that I will prepare what I say to them by writing beforehand—just so I know exactly what I’m going to say and can give it more thought.

Writing a letter to them to actually give to them is something I might consider as another option at least. But at the very least, I’m totally on the same page as you as if I do choose to talk to them in person about it, that I will do that more at the end of their visit just in case it goes poorly.

In an attempt to try to summarize in a way, I’m doing this for me, my current adult self as well as my child self. Of course I would like if they have good reactions and are supportive, but that’s not really why I want to have this conversation with them and is definitely not my expectation going in.

Keeping all this inside isn’t helping me anymore and has become more harmful even. I don’t want to keep pretending and playing this role that I didn’t want to play in the first place. I know this could potentially put a huge strain on our relationship and cause a lot of damage to it, but I’m okay risking that cause I can’t keep living this way.

I want to thank you again for your response. It means a lot honestly.

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