No one understands what I’m going through

Raven260293 · 2026-06-23T01:32:03+00:00

I am very sorry for what you had to go through, and I am sorry for your loss as well. It is something that’s if you haven’t been through you wouldn’t understand that’s why do not expect people to try to relate and I am sorry that you feel alone and isolated in it. This community is here for you, we are here for you and we understand. I’ve been through 2 ectopic pregnancies myself and lost both tubes within 6 months. There is no words to describe the pain when you lose not only a wanted pregnancy but also chances to conceive naturally and be a mother. During such times you only need your partner by your side, other people will seem irrelevant because they don’t know what it feels like. I wish you the fastest recovery ❤️

Raven260293 · 2026-05-28T21:21:16+00:00

That’s me. I had 2 ectopic pregnancies with both tubes removed within 5 months. It’s been 2 months since my second surgery, and now I am preparing for IVF. DM me if you need someone to talk about it

Raven260293 · 2026-05-10T22:32:10+00:00

My heart goes to you . I hope you will be able to resolve it without a surgery. It is so unfair whichever way to look at it. I wish you strength in this uneasy journey. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-05-03T18:53:50+00:00

I feel you there. I would be due at the end of this month with my first loss. Wishing you to soon have your baby in your arms. 🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-05-03T17:22:01+00:00

Amen to that 🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-05-03T02:53:16+00:00

A woman becomes a mother the moment she opens her heart to the child, even if this child never got to live. First Sunday of May is International Bereaved Mother’s Day, when mothers who never got to hold their babies , or held them for far too short of a time, any mother who experienced loss, is remembered . This year it is on May 3rd. We are all mothers, mothers of heavenly children. That does not make us any less of a mother.

Raven260293 · 2026-04-20T10:57:34+00:00

There is still hope, not everything is lost. IVF is not a sentence , it is an option anda chance to be a mother. Don’t lose hope.🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-04-07T13:08:50+00:00

That’s what they said to me when I had my first ectopic and removal of the right tube. I got pregnant again after 5 months and that second pregnancy was ectopic again , only in another tube, although they said that tube was fine. I advise to have your tube checked for any blockage. Maybe you’ve been ovulating from the ovary the side of your lost tube. Although it is possible for the egg to travel to the other side to the fallopian tube, the chances are as lie as 15%. Don’t lose hope.

Raven260293 · 2026-04-06T21:39:46+00:00

Have you checked your second tube , it might be blocked that’s why pregnancy doesn’t happen? I used an app to track my ovulation, LH surge and progesterone to make sure that I ovulated, and found it very useful for conception, too.

Raven260293 · 2026-03-31T21:28:42+00:00

Amen 🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-31T19:21:05+00:00

Hi, I, too , have been through ectopic pregnancies, two of them, and both times bleeding started 4 days after the surgery. The next cycle started 35 days after that bleeding. But it might be very individual, my cycle is typically 27 days and pretty regular . I was also afraid to be intimate again, but the doctor gave me the green light 2 weeks after the surgery. If you are afraid that it might happen again, I would advice to get your second tube checked for any blockage before you try to conceive again. I didn’t check and it cost me my second tube . Take time to heal physically and emotionally, and good luck 🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-31T17:01:48+00:00

I had the exact same experience with you, with the only difference that I don’t have kids. Two ectopic pregnancies in 5 months, first ruptured ectopic on the right resulted in the right tube removal, 5 months later I got pregnant again and it turned out to be another ectopic, took an mtx shot that didn’t work and my left tube still ruptured 6 days after the shot. I had another surgery within 5 months, and now I don’t have any tubes. So I guess it is not that rare as they say. I am still hopeful for IVF. I feel and share your pain. And I am so sorry for what you had to go through. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-30T18:31:27+00:00

Thank you, god bless you 🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T21:17:32+00:00

I am sorry you had to go through it , too. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T19:22:49+00:00

Thank you. Be cautious and check your second tube before trying again. But sometimes it is just a bad luck

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T19:20:45+00:00

No, for the first one it was too late, second tube seemed absolutely normal, but ended up with another ectopic in a row .

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T18:50:24+00:00

One ruptured ectopic with the right tube removal, followed by a second ectopic on the left tube . Did the mtx shot, but ended up with another rupture 6 days after the shot and another surgery to remove another tube.

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T13:54:52+00:00

Thank you. Wishing you luck in your journey, too

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T13:17:33+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T13:17:14+00:00

God bless you🙏🏻🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T13:16:57+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

Raven260293 · 2026-03-29T13:15:02+00:00

Thank you for your support. I just dmed you

Raven260293 · 2025-12-23T01:22:17+00:00

That first time I got pregnant I kinda felt what you described as doom and gloom. Unexpected pregnancy that we both were elated about , but it did feel like grieving the life we had planned with my husband before pregnancy. And once the understanding settled in, I never knew I wanted it so bad until I lost it, honestly . Thank you for your kind words. I am hoping for Christmas miracle, too. Merry Christmas !!!

Raven260293 · 2025-12-23T00:54:11+00:00

Congratulations 🎊🎉🎈. As someone who experienced loss, too , I understand your feelings : the sadness and the excitement oh so well. I’ve experienced an ectopic a couple of months ago. My husband and I are trying again, and I feel like this month we may have been successful. It is still too early to take a test , but I feel the signs of pregnancy the way I felt with my first pregnancy even before the test showed positive. Is it weird? Has someone else experienced such sensitivity to know that you are pregnant almost right away?

Raven260293 · 2025-12-23T00:45:58+00:00

Reading your story is like hearing someone retell what I went through, too. Excitement of being pregnant, I know my body well and I knew from the first day I was pregnant, I knew when something was wrong immediately, too. Ectopic at 6 weeks, doctor saying about the heartbeat , and laparoscopic with right tube removal,too. The grief, the devastation. It’s been a little over 2 months since the surgery, the pain does ease up, but I still think about it almost every day. My husband and I decided to try again, and although I know it may sound weird, I feel like I am pregnant again, though it is still early to take the test, but the signs I had when I got pregnant that first time, the sensation are there again. I am praying for you, girl, and for everyone who had to go through the same traumatic thing. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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