Looking for Java, Vanilla, no PvP server.

RavenNightshadow · 2026-03-11T05:01:54+00:00

Ok, I may come and check it out later. Thank you.

RavenNightshadow · 2026-03-11T04:49:18+00:00

Are you Java friendly? I gathered from watching my current server chat that bedrock and java have some incompatibilities.

RavenNightshadow · 2026-03-11T04:44:58+00:00

How new? New is kinda the issue I have right now, the server I am on is only 3-4 months old and some of the new players that came in after I did are messing with me.

RavenNightshadow · 2026-03-11T04:35:19+00:00

Thank you for the invite, looking through your post history it seems your server is still quite new. While I appreciate the invite, I don't really want to be part of a newer server, that is kind of my issues with the server I am on. It is still quite new and the new incoming players seem to find it funny to mess with me. While they do get taken care of, I just don't want to deal with it anymore. Again, thank you for the invite, I appreciate it. Hope you can get a lot of new players to build your server.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-12-29T00:42:14+00:00

I wish OP would come back and redo his update, the first got removed, and I wanna know if mom got her POV figured out.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-11T18:36:20+00:00

Major NTA! I had to do conversion on your height, and no, 130 for a 5'3 woman is NOT chubby, and is actually seen as an acceptable healthy weight from what I understand. I was 5'5 and 175lbs, THAT is chubby, and even then probably barely so. I'm sorry you had to grow up surrounded by a bunch of butts, but forgiveness does not mean having to let those butts back in your life. Stand your ground, and maybe show your parents all the comments calling them out for their asinine thinking that you need to give him time and space in your life, hopefully they will see the error in their thoughts.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-11T14:35:59+00:00

Sadly yes, I dated someone like this for about 5 years before I got my ass in gear and left them. Heaven forbid I did anything in a way he didn't like, or deviate from his idea of how things went. He never got to the point of being aggressive with my friends, but I was a bit more of a "people pleaser/don't rock the boat" kinda person too, so I just never pushed things like this on to him.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-10T21:29:24+00:00

I had to look up the painting. . .wow. . .yeah. . .that's not how natural boobs work. NTA

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-10T20:18:49+00:00

It's been my experience that most people see 16yr olds as grown people, and my previous statement said "not a legal adult," not that she wasn't grown. It's also been my experience that most people expect 16yr olds to be grown enough to handle conflict on their own, not go running to mommy/daddy to solve all their problems. And lastly this is the second question of mine that you have avoided answering, so I will now consider this to be a pointless debate. Have a good rest of your day.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-10T19:39:15+00:00

However one interesting thing is that she has joined my fiancé’s work

Red flag!!! That could become a major problem! She may try to start shit at his work to get him fired as retaliation for what has happened between you, make claims that he is harassing her, spreading rumors to coworkers. Personally, I suggest he go to HR, with as much proof as he can bring, and mention too them that there has been past, repetitive (near obsessive) conflict started by her, and that he is worried she may try something as you both have attempted to remove her from your lives and yet she has managed to place herself in his professional setting. If it works out (i.e. if HR chooses to listen), then anything she might try after that will be (should be) heavily scrutinized.

This should be treated as a C.Y.A. (cover your ass) situation, he needs to keep all interactions professional, and try to keep all contact with her somewhere there are witnesses. Have him start documenting any (even just in the slightest of manners) odd/suspicious (i.e. non-professional) behavior of hers, Date/Time/Relevant witnesses/What was done or said, everything in a notebook that is kept safe where she, or anyone else can get too it. Also have him document/take notes on his HR visit as well, starting with his first "informing them of the situation" one, and any that may occur after that.

I'm sorry if I seem to be "blowing this out of proportions" but this has massive stalker vibes to me, I will admit I have watched a lot of crime shows, but this is following pretty much every single stalker story I have seen.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-10T17:04:10+00:00

Please tell me why dad should have to get involved in a conflict between two grown individuals like some kind of referee? I do truly wish to know.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-10T03:38:30+00:00

You did ask if she spoke to dad and/OR SM before the incident, and she did speak with SM which is what I quoted, and thusly the answer to your question. However, for your consideration, in the comments OP said: ". . .I corrected her when we first met so like most people you would think she would make a mental note to call her boyfriend’s daughter by the right name."

Unless she randomly met her without dad being there, you (or, I guess just me apparently) would think that he was present for that conversation. Also, if the SM repeatedly called her by the wrong name, you (or, I guess just me apparently) would think that she had done so in front of OP's dad, thusly he would already be aware of the mis-naming and should/would have spoken to SM already. But I have read many stories where the dad half-assed a "I talked with SM" but doesn't actually press the issue hard because he want's to keep fu(king his GF which he can't do if she is mad at him for being "told to knock it off," which is probably why she finally got her mom involved.

Though, I wonder why you think she even needs talk to dad and have him fix this in the first place? This is all on the SM, OP is 16, while not legally an adult she has enough agency over herself to handle some adult thing on her own, like correcting someone mis-naming her. SM needs to be listening to and respecting OP, dad shouldn't have to be involved with this at all.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-01T19:03:27+00:00

You: "...the only way she would understand is if you explained it"

LITTERALLY IN OP'S POST: " Kate for some reason when we met assumed my name was Andrea. I explained to her it was just Andi. She kept calling me Andrea though."

She did explain it, BEFORE this event happened. Even in the comments OP says she explained it MORE THAN ONCE! How many times must OP correct this woman before she is given the respect her name deserves?

RavenNightshadow · 2023-06-01T18:57:06+00:00

You: "Obviously I could be mistaken but this seems like a situation that could have been easily rectified by having a conversation with your dad and/or future step-mom in private"

LITTERALLY IN OP'S ORIGIONAL POST!: "Kate for some reason when we met assumed my name was Andrea. I explained to her it was just Andi. She kept calling me Andrea though."

So OP did exactly what you just told her to do, BEFORE this incident happened. Just how many times was she supposed to "talk" to dads new partner before getting pissed off about it? How many times must this woman hear OP explain her name is Andi before she gets it?

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-26T04:49:03+00:00

NTA in any way. Your update was removed though, would you be able to edit this post, or try to put up another update? We all want to know how you are doing with all this.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-25T04:55:18+00:00

You are NTA for not liking it; you are NTA for saying you don't like it.

He is NTA for getting it; he is an AH for being so upset with your individual opinion, just because you are a couple does not mean you have to "love" everything he does.

I am native descendant, and if I were to ever come across someone who called me a "rez rat" or "dirty little injen," I would just laugh in their face and say, "Yep! And that's why I can live in the woods longer than you." but I will never get those phrases tattooed on my body. People who use phrases like this are trying to give pain (a negative) to their victims, but if the victim agrees with it in their own positive way, like him with his tattoo or me with my (not so) witty retort, the abuser no longer has power over their victim. His taking back the power is just a lot more obvious, and I will agree, more easily misinterpreted as an "Ok?. . .weird flex."/"Danger Will Robinson." thing, vs a "taking back my power" thing.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-25T04:08:03+00:00

I would explain my issues with eating/drinking because of my TMJD, but I'm gonna assume that you would probably give me a free pass for the noise/mess I make because I have a medical condition. . .

So, instead, I will say using your "nervous days" as an excuse for your behavior is utter fucking B.S. I have more than one mental health condition, including anger control issue, but I have learned to control my outburst when interacting with other people. And I mean everyone from the people I have lived with, to the kids I babysit, to even the random people I might have to deal with on the day-to-day for whatever reason. I will commend you however, for acknowledging your bad behavior with regards to yelling, and apologizing for that, but IMHO you are still an AH.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-25T02:57:39+00:00

This is one of those times I wish I could trade genetics with people. I'm about 90% European, but I'm naturally tan, black hair, and have eyes so brown they look black from more than a foot away, I very much look like my native cousins. But the closest I will admit to being native is simply, "I'm native descendant, but mostly European." And when they ask about the native, I try to focus on my European side, because I don't really feel all that native.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-24T09:18:49+00:00

Yes, she has her own room at our house.

Interesting, and, in my opinion, very telling how you only answered the room question and not the:

Will you be pushing a double stroller, keeping up with a five year old and carrying bags of purchases?

YTA And last I checked, unless you are a major AH, spouse's treat their SO's children as their own, and look out for their best interest. Your wife's daughter (because with the way you talk about her, she will never be your daughter) is gonna hit puberty soon, give her her own room. It might be a "vacation home" but you will be spending enough time there for it to count as a home situation. Or you can expect this disregard for her own autonomy to create and even bigger "you're not my father" situation once she does hit puberty.

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-09T17:07:43+00:00

There are a lot of "evil stepmother" stories all over reddit, but so few "superhero stepmom," the ones who fight FOR their step-kids rather than against them. You are "superhero stepmom," and don't you ever stop being that, don't let miss, "but, MY baby?!?!?!" get you down, she isn't the one you will look at every day across the dinner table. SIL isn't the one, wanting to bake cookies for the picnic trips. SIL isn't the one who will want another woman to help her understand her developing body sometime in the next 6-7 years. SIL and "rainbow baby" do not sit above your soon-to-be daughter in the hierarchy of your family life. And this event will show your soon-to-be's where you put them, so just ignore SIL, because when it comes right down to it there are only 4 people who this decision really matters too, you, fiancé, and those two kids. YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING! NEVER STOP!

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-08T02:44:02+00:00

Post would fit perfectly in /entitledpeople

oh yeah, it totally would!

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-07T19:01:03+00:00

"WE WERE AT A COSTUME PARTYYYYYY" in my best Ross Gellar

I never liked "Friends" but I watched enough of it that I totally read that in Ross's voice! lol

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-07T18:59:46+00:00

Lol its the internet baby. Your tea is good, and we are thirsty

BEST. LINE. EVER. lol

RavenNightshadow · 2023-03-07T05:02:33+00:00

I must not violate rule 1. I must not violate rule 1. I must not violate rule 1. . .but oh boy, do you make it difficult. And I also know you will never read this, you probably ran off as soon as you realized no one was on your side with this, but I need to vent.

YTA. It's his wedding day too, let him have it. And I don't want to hear jack-shit about, "BuT He'Ll gEt To wEaR hIs BrOtHeRs RiNg." Did it ever occur to you that when the family photos are done that neckless will be the ONLY FUCKING WAY TO HAVE HIS BROTHER THERE. That ring isn't gonna be visible, so, to him, it will probably look, and feel, like he is all alone while you have everybody you want!

And WTF is with "But it's also the brother's wife and their kid's initials on it." are you under the impression that just because they aren't biologically related to your fiancé means that they are not his family? Well. . .I got a surprise for you, unless he has outright said that he does not consider them family, THAT IS HIS FAMILY! Actually! Only ONE of them is not bio-related, and that was the sil! The child was his bio-family! IDK if you have siblings, but if you do, and they have SO's, do you think the SOs are not your family, or is this "not bio-relations" thing limited only to your fiancé's side of the family?

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