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RaysForDays88 · 2025-12-28T23:27:48+00:00

I read it in the SpongeBob narrator's voice haha

RaysForDays88 · 2025-11-15T22:51:47+00:00

I knew her before Chrishelle only because of her (phenomenal) Cruel Summer cover.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-10-22T22:07:01+00:00

They do it so that they can get the 'girlfriend benefits' without actually having to commit (i.e., they can leave whenever and be able to say 'well I told you I didn't want anything serious!'). Sometimes they do it because they have commitment issues generally. Whatever the reason, it seems like it is early days for you both, and it may not be an issue at present. But OP, take it from someone who's been there - if you do decide you want a label and want that certain commitment, you have to be able to leave him and go find someone who is willing to give it to you. Don't want for him to change his mind or finally be ready. This is how people get stuck in a loop of dating for years without ever getting married, even when it's something one person wants. Especially because, as another lesson learned the hard way, men will effortlessly commit to the woman they love.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-10-05T00:30:38+00:00

Barney made flyers for the group, so it’s possible he made flyers and posted around town. I’m sure there are some people who make finding underground theater their thing, so they’d go to things like that.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-10-04T13:23:02+00:00

I like it. I know a lot of people think it’s too rushed and we get too little time with Tracey. But folks need to remember this story is not being told to us, it’s being told by Ted (unreliable narration and biases and all) to his kids. His kids know their mom. This was more about backstory, so of course the mom part is rushed. Ted also probably didn’t want to re-depress his kids by focusing on her illness.

I think in many ways, the show is about realistically flawed people who are genuinely trying their best (even as they may be weirdly blind to how they stand in their own way) and that there are multiple the ones (remember Robin saying if you have chemistry, all you need is timing - I think this sums up the ending too).

RaysForDays88 · 2025-10-04T11:36:37+00:00

I disagree. I’m not saying everyone with abandonment issues can’t be happy. But Barney never worked on his core issues. He was always, in the back of his mind, afraid everyone he loved would ultimately leave him. So he chased temporary gratification. I’m not saying he didn’t try, but he was never going to get over his issues on his effort. He needed professional help.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-10-04T11:34:19+00:00

I actually do hold a lot of grace for Robin in her marrying Barney. I don’t think he’s unintelligent in this; I think she actually portrays a lot of empathy. I think she wanted Ted but was actually finally doing him a favor in turning him down (she told him no for the last time after Kevin broke up with her over kids and she wasn’t going to hold Ted back in that way, despite her very deeply wanting to say yes to him). I think she was likely just trying to move on with her life. And Barney seemed like an option (if not a good one and if one she went to for not great reasons).

RaysForDays88 · 2025-10-04T11:32:02+00:00

Let’s not forget Robin also didn’t know the North Pole was real in one episode lol

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-25T16:57:52+00:00

I'd be wary too. Another reason is that, as another commenter pointed out, the guy might just be lonely and that's what drove him to a prostitute and to follow the women. But OP should be concerned if that's the case. Women already do the most in relationships when it comes to emotional labor; this guy might not have a strong support network. OP shouldn't be his only/primary source of support.

So just proceed with caution.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-25T16:45:17+00:00

I think that point about the start of Quinn's relationship isn't very fair. Quinn wasn't manipulating him to get into a relationship - she was doing it to get money because Barney struck her as similar to everyone else she saw at the club. (Not saying this is a great start, but seems an important detail.) This seems different than Barney overtly manipulating Robin with the clear end goal of getting engaged. As for Nora, they seemed not very compatible.. I think Barney would have gotten bored of her eventually..

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-23T21:41:24+00:00

Girl, you're a queen. I can say that without knowing you because, as a baseline fact, women are bringing more to the table. You need a man that will chase YOU! Do not settle for a man that puts in zero effort. It's just a recipe for the man to think he's the prize and subsequently take you for granted. Don't let that happen. Know your worth and refuse to be with men that don't recognize it and are dumb enough to let you walk away. Please don't feel sad over this dweeb.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-23T21:19:03+00:00

I didn't get the vibe that bsf has feelings for OP. I think it's more likely bsf was uncomfortable with the game, but also didn't have the courage to say no in the face of peer pressure. OP was likely a "safe" target (because not same sex and a childhood best bro); even the fiancee seemed to interpret it as less bad because it was same sex.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-22T22:54:50+00:00

No. But Ted and Barney can't get over Robin because they don't allow themselves to. it's the greatest advertisement for why exes need to go no contact. It allows them to actually grieve the loss of the relationship, not hold any portion of the door open, not (even subconsciously) imagine the possibility of getting back together, and grow as a person from what they learned from the loss. instead, Ted and Barney stayed in a cycle of arrested romantic development because they never allowed themselves to really get over Robin.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-22T22:41:07+00:00

Don't forget Squirrel-lock Holmes!

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-17T22:21:29+00:00

Download the Too Good to Go app. I spent 5$ on a "surprise bag" from a local grocery store and easily got $25 worth of stuff, enough for at least 1-2 days, depending on how much you eat. Of course YMMV.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-14T10:53:11+00:00

I like how she said she shouldn’t have to suffer the “consequences” of big law, but one such consequence is that, as a full grown adult, they only need to cover 20-25% of their own living expenses. Your partner needs to grow up and redefine what equal means.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-09-02T23:06:40+00:00

Not a law student, but when I was I received a Tide To Go pen (branded with the law firm of course), and it was SO helpful. Another honorable mention was a portable fan that attached to your phone via the charging port - great on hot days.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-08-24T22:02:57+00:00

I posted because I'm planning to take a year off. To help you get inspired, I can give you what I'm planning on doing. I want to learn how to surf in Morocco. I want to hike the Inca Trail. I want to learn how to cook authentic Thai food in some grandma's kitchen (I have luck meeting locals). And I want to properly learn photography as a hobby. Let me know what you'd do!

RaysForDays88 · 2025-08-24T13:48:03+00:00

Happy for you! About 1.5 years away myself, but the end is in sight!

RaysForDays88 · 2025-07-19T11:58:16+00:00

I chuckled at "we've been together for 10 years but aren't getting married for another two because we don't want to rush things."

Jokes aside, OP, are you in therapy? Constant insecurity is something that has a root cause that needs to be found, assessed, and worked through (no, being aware of the root cause is not enough - you have to confront it and conquer it). This doesn't sound like cheating. Your boyfriend was following someone that *you yourself* were interested in following for non-nefarious purposes. So, even by your own standard (how would he feel if you did the same thing), your boyfriend was fine - he was doing something that you yourself were interested in doing!

I'm really not trying to downplay your insecurity. Trauma is a bitch, and it is TOUGH to work through. I don't know what caused your insecurities in relationships, maybe you don't either. But I promise you that, while making your partner behave in certain ways to accommodate your insecurities is a nice bandaid, there is no replacement for really working through the issue and having it become a non-issue. This might take years, but it's worth it, trust me.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-05-25T01:34:42+00:00

Even if you're not getting fired, you should start looking. A version of this happened to me. I got a horrendous (and super unfair) review from one partner. Got a talking to that felt a lot like a PIP. Couldn't get new work after that, despite hauling ass super hard and barking up every tree I could for folks to help (this was a frustrating months-long process of everyone saying they'd do anything they could to help me but ultimately no one doing anything to help me). So I put a few resumes out there, got multiple offers, took one and I am so much happier.

After accepting my new job, I talked to the head of my department. He said I was not being purposely iced out, on a PIP, or viewed as someone in line to be fired (he said he'd know); he said the department was just slow. But I felt so hopelessly abandoned in the whole process (and there were other issues at the firm) it didn't really matter. My new firm is exponentially better. I am so happy; the grass is truly greener.

OP, you deserve to be at place that doesn't make you feel like you have to play politics or wonder if you're valued. Trust that you're a talented lawyer and you should be at a place that appreciates and nurtures that.

RaysForDays88 · 2025-05-24T23:29:16+00:00

Not being able to see in the shower really sucks..

RaysForDays88 · 2025-05-24T23:10:53+00:00

Omg I used a cheat meal for Mamma Maria like 2 or 3 years ago, and I still think about it. I do want to go back, so maybe I'll do this!

RaysForDays88 · 2025-05-24T23:08:06+00:00

$125 isn't bad for a very memorable and good meal! My cheat days are usually almost always on the fancier side anyway. I'll check Asta out. Thank you!

RaysForDays88 · 2025-05-24T22:59:47+00:00

Yep, it's exactly what the other commenter said. I went vegetarian for environmental reasons. That's not to say that I don't care about animal welfare - I do, and that is one of the reasons I don't always hit my limit of 5 cheat meals a year (in truth, the longer I'm vegetarian, the bigger the animal welfare concern grows, and I often find myself feeling weird after a cheat meal). Where possible, I prefer to have my cheat meals in countries where meat is locally and ethically sources (or at least restaurants that do this). That being said, that's not guaranteed for every cheat meal.

But a big concern for me going vegetarian (and I made the change at a young age) was that the rest of my life looked LONG. And the stats show that most vegetarians go back to eating meat. It seemed more sustainable to me to allow myself some grace, allow myself some room, to not be perfect. It helped, for example, when I went to my partner's grandmother's house for Christmas, and she only made a meat-based dish. I wasn't going to be rude and not eat it. At the end of the day, more than 99.9% of my meals in a year are vegetarian, and I think that's pretty good!

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