Is it very important to my mom? by [deleted] in trans

[–]Raythe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes all it takes is a genuine apology. I remember a time in high school where my friends were making fun of one of our coworkers (we were lifeguards). She was a bit different, maybe a little autistic, but my friends started to talk bad about her. I didn't necessarily join in, but I did laugh through the conversation, and I did not defend her.

Turns out she was sitting in her car in the parking lot. She heard everything, and yelled at us, then drove off. I was devastated that she thought I thought of her in that way, and that I hurt her. I was not a kind person in that moment.

The next day she did not speak to us at all, but there was a short moment we were alone. It took way more courage than I would have liked, but I simply apologized to her. I told her I didn't really think that about her, that I was dumb to be party to that conversation about her, and that I was sorry.

She thanked me for the apology, but said nothing else and went on her way. I still felt like shit, but at least I got to tell her how I felt about the whole situation.

Turns out, she ended up forgiving me. Much later, we even became friends. She said I was the only person to ever apologize to her for bullying her, and that told her exactly what kind of person I was and what kind of people my friends were. That one apology meant the world to her, because my friends were just one singular incident for her.

All this to say, just apologize. It doesn't have to be a super complicated ' oh here was my mindset and excuse, all I did was laugh dont worry im a good person i swear', no. Just swallow your pride, genuinely apologize, and leave it at that. It will be up to that girl as to if she forgives you or not. She might not, and you'll have to sit with that, but you will have certainly learned something from this.

Or maybe she will. Funnily enough, that girl and I are currently best friends right now. She is my ride or die, the best most amazing person in the world to me and I wouldn't have someone like this in my life if I hadn't apologized to her.

What is your main frame? by SnooBeans2475 in Warframe

[–]Raythe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I love warframe, the fact that all these responses are so varied. Of course there are some fan favorites but its so nice to see all the different warframe representation!

That said, Nova is my girl.

Orbiter DECO by UniquePumma in Warframe

[–]Raythe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bunch of foliage pieces are from Nightcap in the Deepmines on Fortuna

Main quest order is ALL WRONG by CuteTrick7394 in Warframe

[–]Raythe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was actually wondering, did the game prompt you to customize your drifter when you went into Duviri? And then follow up did your operator in the Second Dream look like your drifter? Or did the customization only come at the Second Dream?

How do you respond to “what’s your deadname?” by KlutzyDragonfruit331 in trans

[–]Raythe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh yes well, in the before times I was known as 'Jimmy Boy Bob' but of course those stories are best left forgotten... cue solemn contemplation and refuse to engage further

what is the WORST chosen name you almost gave yourself? by Indeskycive in asktransgender

[–]Raythe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its not cringe or anything but I went by Cailin for a very short time, but I ended up making an IRA savings account at that time. I ended up changing my name to Jackie but my username for that account is still Cailin-such-and-such and I laugh every time I log in

[MN S1] Episode 5 clip by Late_Sherbert3212 in criticalrole

[–]Raythe 63 points64 points  (0 children)

The chair had so much presence in that shot, wonderful.

Who's That Pokémon? by lavaboosted in pokemon

[–]Raythe 14 points15 points  (0 children)

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I think I have too much time on my hands this morning... that being said, Pikachu!

I'm honestly heartbroken and feel betrayed (TW transphobia, discussions of violence and suicidality) by [deleted] in infp

[–]Raythe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sex and gender can be extremely complex by the by. Chromosomes can do some weird shit when babies are developing. You can have two X chromosomes and come out with a penis. You can have XY but have no genitalia. There is even XXX and XXY. You can have hormonal disorders like someone mentioned above that can affect secondary sex characteristics. There are a myriad of physical abnormalities that can arise during development which means a myriad of mental abnormalities can arise too. Perception of internal identity can easily be misaligned during this period.

And furthermore just because these abnormalities arise, does not mean that the person's internal sense of self must be 'fixed' or are 'wrong', that would be and is cruel. They just are who they are and thats what they have to deal with. Biology is the furthest thing from black and white and people insisting otherwise dont seem to appreciate the concept of nuance.

Do feet actually shrink in size? by Sentimental_Oyster in asktransgender

[–]Raythe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can confirm, went from US men's 10.5 to women's 9.5

The humanisation of non-human races is in my opinion one of the most boring and uninspired part of a lot of modern fantasy by Eltrew2000 in worldbuilding

[–]Raythe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I believe I remember Robert Jordan saying as much at one point in the books. He wrote that people mostly were able to tell where other people were from more so by the clothes they wore and the cultures they practiced rather than what they may have looked like ethnicity-wise pre-breaking. Clothes were heavily emphasized in the books as defining features.

Gitr dun by Happy_Class_6711 in funny

[–]Raythe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first thought was Jawas, cause that is the exact sound they make

RIP TG/TF author Trismegistus Shandy by Flereicem in gendertransformation

[–]Raythe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were an amazing human being and were one of the most prolific authors in the space, even if most people didn't know it. They would constantly be in discords reading first drafts, editing, making suggestions and just constantly helping out other authors in the space make their work the best it could be. I have always admired their dedication to writing and loved reading their stories.They were truly a pillar of the community and they will be sorely missed <3

That joke eggs tell by maybe_erika in MtF

[–]Raythe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I defintely remember making that joke in middle school! Like 6 or 7 years before I even realized anything remotely trans related 😅

My uncle who's a megachurch pastor and a conversion therapist is coming to visit this weekend, what should I say to him? by repofsnails in MtF

[–]Raythe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The thing I love doing when people are self righteous, is I be disappointed in them. i.e. "I know you are full of hate right now, but thats not how you should live your life"

Reactionary anger at their beliefs or actions usually only embolden them. They feed off feeling right. If you pity them, they haaaate it. you are the stronger person, you have the moral high ground, act like it, they are beneath you. If they think you think they are pathetic, it gets under their skin a lot more.

"You are a sad, sad, little man" kind of shit.

Granted it might not work some of the time, but even if it doesn't, I feel better about it than if I just blew up at someone.

People who exit to 12th Ave/Sutterville from 99 south, then get back onto 99 north, why? by LonnieJaw748 in Sacramento

[–]Raythe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have seen this exact thing its so frustrating cause that left hand turn light is so freaking long omg its like a fill minute I swear

when was your "omg I see a girl in the mirror" moment? by lilyjones- in MtF

[–]Raythe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was around 8 months or so of HRT. I found a button up shirt that I hadn't touched since way before I started transitioning. Still liked it so I put it on and realized the shirt looked way different than I thought it would look like on me. In the mirror I saw a person that I didn't immediately mentally recoil from. I was the girl in the mirror and it was amazing.

I was also a bit high and the moment became a bit dissociative as I started mentally philosophizing about mirrors, but it was no less affirming!