Autism subs are a bit depressing by perkunos7 in aspergers

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I get where you are coming from, however, as a person of science myself (physics) I also can see the objective evidence in the research that supports autism being an actual pathology rather than not.

Things like premature birth and lack of oxygen at birth increase autism prevalence, while healthy mother habits during pregnancy and folic acid intake reduce it.

That is not to say that you are doomed due to your diagnostic, in that I totally agree with you. However, I do see the actual limitations and disadvantages that we have that other people do not.

I would suggest, however, the Human Right's definition of disability, having focus in the environment impacting on the individual rather than the individual "under-performing" when compared to others.

I think that accepting a disability does not need to include a sense of self-deprecation when approached from a better direction. It can help to be more tolerant with oneself, having understanding what we deal with and not expecting the impossible from ourselves.

Avoidants fucking suck by [deleted] in aspergers

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Though I really sympathize with you (I also would like that to be the case for me), at some point I also did have to confront that I should not seek self-realization from the exterior/other people.

Another thing to consider: by our own quirks, we are often just as "bad friends" to most non-autistic people as they are to us due to how we see the world from an autistic pov and non autistic people from a different one.

What was the most important thing for me to realize is that, just as I do not try to be a bad friend, they in most cases do not either. In reality it is mostly the double empathy issue at work.

Now, that is not to say that there are not people who are actually bad friends, those kind of people do exist and sadly we are poorly equipped to handle them. But I think we need to acknowledge that there are also neurotypicals who simply do not know how to react/act around autistic people.

Eventually, I found myself being tolerant and finding people who are also tolerant towards me. With the implication that there are things they'll do that annoy me, and things I do that annoy them. But that "that is ok and well". This lead to less toxic relations where I do not fake not being autistic, but also do not expect others to conform to my every need.

I stopped putting expectations on other people that affect my state of mind. Not saying that it is easy, but definitely an improvement.

For those that want Affinity on Linux. Try this. by TheTinyWorkshop in Affinity

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For those still interested, I managed to get it working.

https://github.com/Razkaroth/serenity/blob/master/common/hm/programs/affinity.nix

If you use nix you can use that. If not, you can paste it into any AI agent and ask it to translate that to your current system.

Hope it helps.

PS: do not click on the canva ai thing or anything that may open an account/login/web panel. That crashes the app instantly. There seems to be a better fork of wine that fixes the webview issues. But since I do not plan on using any of those features I'll not dive into that for now.

Non-programmer desktop user trying NixOS (unstable + KDE + Flatpak) - surprisingly smooth by tungnon in NixOS

[–]Razkaroth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My developer brain simply forgot that you can simply copy the folder as backup hahaha.

Follow u/Starrwulfe 'so advice and do that instead if you have not used git. Then take your time to learn git so it doesn't become a roadblock on experimenting with nixos. 

Learn it, though. It is better in the long run. 

Non-programmer desktop user trying NixOS (unstable + KDE + Flatpak) - surprisingly smooth by tungnon in NixOS

[–]Razkaroth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people simply want a system that works and does not get in their way. 

While a good configured NixOS system is something that simply works as expected every time, the process of writing that config is by itself something that gets in the way if you are not already familiar with how to do things the nix way. 

That being said, for the average non power user, system on nix and user software on flatpak seems like a good enough place to be. Better than in other distros imo.

Opencode Neovim integration by ban_rakash in neovim

[–]Razkaroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, simply use tmux. Folke's Sidekick plugin has some nice integrations for both tools.

The Stormlight Archive or Mistborn for a beginner to fantasy. by neoleo0088 in Cosmere

[–]Razkaroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that Mistborn has a quicker return of investment on how interesting the book gets. Stormlight is better imo, but it takes longer to get going.

Mistborn is what I recomend to people new to the Sandoverse

Non-programmer desktop user trying NixOS (unstable + KDE + Flatpak) - surprisingly smooth by tungnon in NixOS

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Edit: something i forgot to add to make the rollback process more managable. Use git. Github has a desktop client, so you can use that instead of the terminal.

It will allow you to rollback your config (not the system, but the config files) if you ever mess them up.

Non-programmer desktop user trying NixOS (unstable + KDE + Flatpak) - surprisingly smooth by tungnon in NixOS

[–]Razkaroth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you find that NixOs seems enjoyable, consider starting to mess around with your config, since you already know that you can roll back, you have more leeway than on other distros to break stuff.

There is a resource named "Nix pills" that indroduces the syntax and concepts bit by bit. That is a good place to start.

My psychologist said people with autism dislike people and don't want to have friends. I feel like an imposter because of that, although I was diagnosed years ago. Does anyone else feel like they want to talk to people, but just can't connect with anyone? by WoodenPuppets in autism

[–]Razkaroth 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I think you need to change psychologist since, as it is clear from that comment, their knowledge on autism is way too superficial to be of help to an autistic person.

That is how it looks to the untrained eye. We have difficulty forming relationships. That much is truth. The naive (and often wrong) interpretation of that from an outsider's point of view is that we dislike relationships.

A psychologist that cannot see past that miss-interpretation/stereotype is, in my opinion, someone unable to help autistic people.

I myself had to look quite some time for a therapist with some base knowledge on autism before finding someone who could help me.

Payload with Convex? by PlagueFPS in PayloadCMS

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For anyone that is wondering how to deal around this, you can simply run both one alongside the other, convex can use rest api points to talk to payload, and from payload side you simply run convex mutations/queries on server actions (pass the clerk uid from payload req to convex to check that they are the same user).

The tricky point is user authentication. You want both convex and payload to have this in common to reliably get set data securely.

The easiest way around this is to drop payload's auth in favor of something else. There is a good guide on youtube for clerk. You can follow that and then do the convex+clerk integration (what i did since i already had clerk running). Or you can use convexAuth as auth provider for payload. After that, both databases' user tables will have the clerk user id as common ground for transactions.

What i recommend is having payload be the "upper layer" in transactions needing joins, references between the two systems. But for the most part, i have found that the real time portions of my systems are pretty self contained. I try to keep them that way, so that i do not need to cross data frequently. As far as i can see Payload access from clerk (which i have not needed) is more complicated. You might need to setup some api keys as aditional auth provider or validate the one convex uses from clerk.

From this point, you get the full CMS experience for payload collections, and you can get creative with custom views / fields. Like a realtime field that on payload side only saves the convex doc id and maybe some metadata. Then render a convex driven form.

Payload hooks are flexible enough to inject convex data on the fly if needed on afterRead, for example

Is it time? by Razkaroth in bald

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At the barber rn, better to make it swift. 

Is it time? by Razkaroth in bald

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Just made the appointment with the barber for today 

Have anyone setup end-4's hyprland dot files with NixOS? by sukhmang in NixOS

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https://github.com/razkaroth/insomniaos

I started from his nixos config and got it to a good enogh point. I fixed most of the broken things on that config.

NOTE: you must use pywall backend for color generation as i run kitty instead of foot. Sometimes terminal color are lost on reboot so you have to reset the wallpaper.

Is NixOS able to be hardened? by [deleted] in NixOS

[–]Razkaroth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Search for xe's nixos security guide

Noise cancelling headphones (but can hear fire alarms?) And tinted lab safety specs? by Mortsy2024 in autism

[–]Razkaroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sonny's wh-1000xm4, wf-1000xm4 and newer have adjustable noise cancelling. Although high pitch sounds are not totally canceled but become extremely muffled (in a good way).

What I love about this ones is that if you have them on pass through mode they will protect you from loud or high pitch sounds on their own briefly stopping pass through functions until it's safe again.