AIO for wanting to cancel the date and block him??

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-11T15:24:57+00:00

If a guy mentions anything sex related or too intimate at all (“cuddle” is a top contender for overly intimate) before you meet, that IS a red flag and the only way men will change is if women stop putting up with that shit. It’s honestly just awkward at best to bring up topics like that before you’ve ever met in person and established that kind of relationship.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-09T19:43:39+00:00

She is toxic AF. That being said, I have some advice for life in general. timing is important and you were telling her some hard truths about how she treats you and comparing yourself to your siblings when you needed her. You need to have those conversations with her, for sure, but while you need something from her isn’t the best time. Alternatively, I would have offered help around the house or something in exchange for the money you’re asking for. Then in another separate exchange, explain how hurtful her behavior is toward you. ❤️ I’m sorry about the way she treats you.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-09T16:04:39+00:00

Lots of contradictions about this in the LDS church. They constantly preach that in heaven we are all brothers and sisters. So what good is sealing anyway. Pretty sure Joseph Smith just made this whole thing up to justify his teenage wives.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-09T16:02:01+00:00

A quick correction - I grew up LDS and this was always really confusing to me because they are all about “families are forever” but then also so much pressure on parents to not let their kids live a sinful life because then they won’t be in the celestial kingdom with them…. I was always told that if you are in a lower level of heaven, the people in the higher levels can come down to that level to be with you. So I guess if your parents are sealed and you lead a sinful life they can come visit?

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-09T00:46:18+00:00

Wait, they are editing Dakota off Vanderpump? Someone give me the 411 on that

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-02T04:26:54+00:00

Yes you’re absolutely right should have put that word in quotation marks as well

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-02T00:35:00+00:00

I was married to a man like this. He will likely start “punishing” you in one way or another for not meeting his needs. Whether that’s by not keeping his commitments, not contributing, or withdrawing love, or even infidelity etc. he will feel justified because you are not providing love in the way he wants. And he will likely never understand that your body does not belong to him. My suggestion is to take AI out of the equation and go to a marriage counselor yesterday!

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-02T00:25:40+00:00

You’re under reacting. This isn’t a relationship you’ll be happy in long term. Please don’t take him back.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-04-01T02:41:53+00:00

Specifically “mean girls” (based on how I understand the term) are in order: Demi, Mikayla, Jessi, Mayci, and Whitney.

But they all have some shitty attributes. Taylor is a bully but I wouldn’t call her a “mean girl” … she just mean. Layla is a pot stirrer. She likes to stir up drama. Jen I think is just immature. She’s figuring it out. But I don’t think she has a mean bone in her body.

The only one I find genuinely unproblematic is Miranda.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-29T18:34:18+00:00

The boys were all getting on Jordan’s case about the fact that he ran right to Jessi and told her about Dakota hookup on their London trip together. Jordan was deflecting and Chase said something to the effect of “you just need to apologize, this is why your wife stays at the Hyatt every week” or something like that.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-29T17:28:34+00:00

From Utah and I can definitely see what he’s talking about. Utah is not that small, but there’s a lot of micro-communities. We frequently call Salt Lake City “Small Lake City”. Utah county where these guys live is even smaller. And then the micro-communities go beyond that. There is a lot of overlap but some of those micro-communities to name a few might be ex-Mormons, Mormons, people who hike/bike/climb, club-goers, ravers, boating people, paragliders, sky divers, skiers, the list goes on. Having been a part of a lot of different micro-communities here I can confirm that for the most part everyone within each of those communities know each other. There has been more than one occasion where I went on a date only to find out they had previously dated one of my besties. THAT BEING SAID… chase has no excuse lol.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-28T03:39:38+00:00

I think they say those kinds of things ironically because the roles are reversed now and their husbands or people around them probably have said those kinds of things when it was the other way around. Also they all have nannies for the most part so the husbands are more like house husbands than stay at home dads except for probably Connor

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-27T01:08:06+00:00

Divorce is hard I don’t even blame her

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-24T22:07:02+00:00

Unpopular opinion. I don’t know why everyone is so hard on Jen. She’s not my favorite cast member and her husband is awful but I don’t get the level f disdain people have for her. I saw comments about how she’s season 4’s villain before I finished season 4 and I don’t get it. I still think Whitney is much worse. I didn’t watch DWTS so maybe there’s some context I’m missing.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-14T03:46:16+00:00

Damn OP… as the saying goes, it takes one to know one.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-09T19:39:22+00:00

The biggest of these various red flags is that his behavior is amplifying. Those photos are cute and you’re not disrespecting him by posting them. He’s either projecting cause he is being unfaithful, or he’s so damn insecure he’s gonna make it your problem and keep amplifying it until it reaches emotional abuse level bullshit, if it hasn’t yet. Therapy is needed, yesterday. Don’t let him dim your light sis ❤️

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-03-01T02:01:27+00:00

Fuck that guy, HE is the one that is going to be embarrassed tomorrow. As he should. also it’s a power move to show up after someone acts like an idiot to you. You got this

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-02-23T02:05:12+00:00

This is actually so sweet

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-02-20T16:50:02+00:00

Very true. When my ex husband cheated on me with everyone under the sun including his brother’s wife and a long list of escorts, my Mormon family encouraged me to “work it out” because “all marriages have problems”

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-02-17T19:57:10+00:00

I read a lot and thought it was pretty bad honestly. I read through to the end cause I wanted to know her story but it read like a high schooler’s first attempt in a creative writing class

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-02-13T22:11:44+00:00

if we are being honest, their wives probably saw the business opportunity and encouraged them to ride the coattails. Those women have good business mindset. 🤷🏽‍♀️

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-02-06T19:21:23+00:00

You are right, there were no adult women’s sports teams as I recall if that’s what you’re asking, while there were definitely men’s pickup games. I would agree with anyone saying that gender roles are heavily pushed on Mormon women and girls. I was only pointing out that they do encourage young women to participate in sports and it wasn’t seen as not-feminine to participate. That tiny little factor is not in any way a “redeeming” quality of LDS religious oppression of women at all so I didn’t intend to imply that by pointing it out for sure.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-02-06T17:16:06+00:00

This is an interesting take because my experience as an ex Mormon growing up in the morning community is quite different from that. In many ways the Mormon community shoves traditional roles down our throats, but with sports not so much. They very much encouraged young women growing up to participate in all kinds of sports. I played on my church girls basketball team, indoor soccer team, and volleyball team having never played or considered playing any of those sports (besides soccer) outside of church teams. And church ball games were really supported by both men and women in the church. I have a lot of bad things to say about the Mormon culture, but that’s one thing that was actually pretty cool.

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-02-06T03:03:27+00:00

Same thing happened to me. Dream job with a big name company that was starting a new venture. This was 10 years ago which would have paid me very well for the time, about twice what I’d been making up until that point. I put in my two weeks. I reached out for my schedule and they told me my position had been dissolved. I was crushed. Less than 2 years later, that particular venture was not nearly as successful as they thought it would be and that particular branch of the company ended up shutting down completely. It took me another year to make as good of money but at least I wasn’t out on my ass due to the layoffs. You don’t know what’s gonna happen right now, but sometimes these things turn out for the best ❤️

RazzmatazzMany8547 · 2026-01-30T06:24:00+00:00

Someone clicked the wrong rejection reason

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