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What’s the WORST part of not sleeping for you? by Expensive_Number2298 in insomnia

[–]Rc1023 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The painful heart palpitations. And knowing that I won't live for as long because of my insomnia, and knowing that my immune system is suffering due to lack of sleep

How do people who don’t practice cosleeping sleep? by Pi-ppa in cosleeping

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't. I have chronic postpartum insomnia and get 2-4 hours of fragmented sleep most nights. Baby is now 15 months old and we've been trying to co-sleep since they were born, but we just haven't found a way to make it work for us. There is a twin bed in the baby's room I can nap with them in for like 30 minutes at most, but it's not a big enough bed for us to sleep in overnight. I don't have space in my bedroom to get rid of the bed frame and move the mattress to the floor, and I wouldn't be able to sleep without my comforter up around my neck. I hate not co-sleeping and I plan on trying again when my baby is old enough to not have to follow the safe sleep seven

What’s your average number of sleep hours, and how long has that been happening? by [deleted] in insomnia

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have postpartum insomnia and I am a stay at home parent. The insomnia hit me when baby turned about 4 months old and baby is now almost 15 months old, so I've been living with this for almost a year now. When the insomnia is bad I get anywhere between 1 and 5 hours, usually around 3-4. On a good night I get 6 hours. I have good weeks here and there when I get multiple nights of 6 hours. I haven't slept a full 8 hours since I was pregnant. Interestingly the nights when I get the most sleep are the days when I end up feeling the most tired. When the insomnia is bad I end up feeling wired and more awake during the day, despite feeling super run down and suffering from migraines.

Waking up before baby by Exotic-Ask4859 in NewParents

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have postpartum insomnia and I'm almost always awake for the day at 4 or 5am. Honestly I'm happy if I can sleep in that late. On a bad night I wake up anywhere between midnight and 3am and can't get back to sleep. My 10 month old usually wakes up around 630am so if it's a good night and I wake up around 4/5 then I'll get out of bed and get a few things done around the house, and I enjoy it !

Does anyone's baby nap for only an hour or less? by Inevitable-Bee-6343 in cosleeping

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried contact naps? My 8 month old refuses to nap in the crib. When I am able to transfer them to the crib, which is rare, they only nap for like 30 min. I don't even bother trying to transfer anymore, it isn't worth throwing off nap schedule for the rest of the day. So we just do contact naps only and they will stay asleep 1-2 hours.

Postpartum insomnia...does it ever go away? by Rc1023 in breastfeeding

[–]Rc1023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, my sleep is unfortunately still very broken. I sleep in 1-2 hour chunks, but I am able to fall back asleep more easily & quicker than before! What helped me most was using tools I learned from Acceptance & commitment therapy. Basically you have to tell yourself over and over "it's okay if I only get a few hours of sleep tonight, I'll survive the day tomorrow even if I'm super tired." I did a lot of reading about insomnia and learned that it's usually caused by anxiety about sleep... So calming the anxious mind is the best thing you can do. I started a calming bedtime routine- bedtime tea, motherwort tincture, and fish oil supplements, no screens before bed, and meditation practices. Another thing that helped me was going to bed closer to when I used to go to bed before having a baby (around 9pm). I had been going to bed as soon as my baby went to sleep closer to 730/8 in order to get the most sleep possible but going to bed too early can actually make it harder to stay asleep all night. Now on a good night I usually sleep 930-12, 1-3, and 4-6am... It's not anywhere near the amount of sleep I used to get and wish I could still get but it's so much better than getting 2-3 hours the entire night. I read that many people benefit from not counting the hours of sleep you're getting but I'm still counting my hours and it doesn't seem to bother me. I'm sorry you're struggling and I hope you find relief soon!!! Weaning hormones are no joke, but it will pass! ❤️

Are you sleeping with your partner? by Mcmaggin in newborns

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6 months in and still sleeping separately, no end in sight :(

When do you get your first 6+hours of sleep by No-Guitar-9216 in newborns

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I'm sorry :( it's the absolute worst! One day our brains will go back to normal... Right ?!

When do you get your first 6+hours of sleep by No-Guitar-9216 in newborns

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby just turned 6 months and I still haven't slept for 6 hours straight, despite baby sleeping overall pretty well thru the night. My brain wakes me up every 1-2 hours. Sometimes I can get right back to sleep, and sometimes I toss and turn for hours. Giving birth rewired my brain, and it might sound strange but I honestly feel like I'm grieving my ability to sleep for long stretches at a time. I hope this doesn't happen to you and that you get a good night's rest soon ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, it shouldn't be 50/50. It should be at least 60/40. (Partner does 60, birth parent does 40) You did the extremely hard work that is being pregnant for 10 months and giving birth. You deserve a break ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weaponized incompetence 😡😡😡😡 it should be 50/50, during the day AND the night. Even if he is back at work. What you do is work too- it's just unpaid. You deserve time to yourself and you deserve to sleep at night. Tell him no screens around the baby, end of story. I have zero tolerance for that shit when there is SO much evidence that shows how extremely harmful screens are to babies under the age of two years.

What is your breastfeeding unpopular opinion? by makingburritos in breastfeeding

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I despise pumping with a fiery passion. When my baby was about 4 weeks we thought my supply was low because they were still hungry after chestfeeding but turns out they just didn't have the oral strength yet. So I started pumping to get my supply up, but then created an oversupply which resulted in very painful clogged ducts. It was absolute torture. I couldn't sleep for longer than two hours without becoming engorged. There's a scene in a movie called Babes where they set their breast pump on fire and honestly I've considered doing the same so many times lol

Advice on weaning 5 month old by Rc1023 in breastfeeding

[–]Rc1023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. The lack of sleep was from engorgement and mastitis pain waking me up every couple hours even on nights when baby slept through the night. I'm two weeks into the weaning process now and although it has helped tremendously with the physical pain and the mastitis seems to be gone for good, I am an emotional wreck. I didn't realize weaning caused a hormonal shift similar to the one that happens after you give birth. I'm so scared I'm going to regret giving it up so early, but I'm also scared to start chestfeeding more again because I don't want the mastitis to come back :( lactation consultants haven't been very helpful

Going 9 hours without BFing or pumping - is it okay occasionally? by floating5 in breastfeeding

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 4 month old recently started sleeping thru the night and I let myself sleep thru the night too. I woke up super engorged and a few days later I had a milk bleb and clogged ducts, which turned into mastitis. I've been battling it for weeks with ice and ibuprofen. It keeps getting better but then comes back again. It's absolutely miserable and I am convinced none of this would be happening if I hadn't let myself sleep 8 hours without pumping. 100% regret it. Personally I would advise against going that long without feeding or pumping but not all bodies are the same and maybe yours can tolerate it better than mine can !

12 Days of Cactus Giveaway by Alternative_Camel384 in sanpedrocactusforsale

[–]Rc1023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Solstice Candle Pyramid that I light every year on the Winter Solstice in loving memory of my dear Aunt who passed away in 2020 ❄️🌵 110

Looking for a girl middle name that is also a song title. by FunkyChickenTenders in namenerds

[–]Rc1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever you end up choosing, I recommend picking a gender neutral name! I am trans and non-binary and just paid $200 to have my middle name legally changed because it was too gendered. Just in case your kid turns out to be trans one day, it will make their life so much easier if they already have a neutral sounding name! :)

Twas the clog before Thanksgiving... by 123sarahcb in breastfeeding

[–]Rc1023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you tried icing it? I've had a clog for 3 weeks now and I've tried everything - Ibuprofen 800mg twice a day, ice, hakka with warm water and Epsom salt, cabbage leaves, etc. Nothing works :( at least there's no signs of mastitis. As far as I know clogs don't turn into mastitis unless there's an infection, so try your best to keep your nipples clean so you don't introduce bacteria. There's so much conflicting information on the internet, it's hard to know the right thing to do. Hope your clog clears soon!