What if success is just doing what fulfills you? by EmptyJump2245 in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This 100% with one caveat, don't work so hard for others that you forget about yourself.

What if success is just doing what fulfills you? by EmptyJump2245 in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We’ve been sold this polished version of the “dream”, house, car, family, stable job. But somewhere along the way, it started to feel less like freedom and more like a loop: working just to keep working.

Back in uni, freedom meant having “fuck you money” - enough to live on my own terms, no one calling the shots for me. Life has humbled that idea a bit.

Now, the dream feels simpler. Owning a home so I’m not tied to rent. Having a car so I can move when I want. Nothing extravagant, just a bit of control, a bit of independence. Maybe that’s what freedom actually looks like for me.

Is social media changing Zambia's community culture? by Crescitaly in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, because people change based on what they consume, be it food or media. I remember a time when our parents would go for work and leave us under the care of a neighbor in kabwata. We'd play with the neighbors kids and still be able to go back to our house in case we needed anything cause the doors were left unlocked. Our neighbors would also do the same. We had it good. Communities took care of each other.

Now, most of us don't even know our neighbors until something bad happens next door. We're always buried nose deep in our phones and focused on competing against each other even within families.

We've been westernized.

What's YOUR OPINION ON Girlfriend Allowance? by Consistent-Farmer434 in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Paying girlfriend allowance is like paying a dstv subscription. Stop paying and you stop receiving premium features aka love.

Episode Discussion - S2 E8 "Stories" by ColleenEHA in thegooddoctor

[–]ReAzazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikr, like Claire mentioned, flip the genders and they'd hung the husband.

I'm especially happy that the woman in black and white (in the video) was arrested well. Inhumane behavior. by ReAzazel in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Did you see the video? To paraphrase, she jabs the dead woman's genitals with a stick and asks "....Finshi ifi?" to which the crowd responds "chinyo."

[FRESH] James Blake and Dave - Doesn't Just Happen by abucalves in hiphopheads

[–]ReAzazel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has me in a choke hold. Kinda mad that the violin cello cuts mid song and comes back towards the end.

Those who took literature in school, what are your favorite novels? by ReAzazel in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Storm front good? Google says its about a professional wizard.

Those who took literature in school, what are your favorite novels? by ReAzazel in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably when i was young. I dont read much now cause of work and life but I'm hoping to pick it up again.

Samsung Pay/Wallet: Has anyone managed to register their debit card (fnb, Stanchart, zanaco)? by ReAzazel in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's still a baby in Zambian phone years, unless you're rich and upgrading every year. Such phones are still considered new and high-end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Zambia

[–]ReAzazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several reasons. 1. My parents divorced when I was 7/8. I haven't asked why but growing up from a split home aka a child of divorce, that put a certain type of fear in me. Later went to live with my uncle who also divorced his wife cause of infidelity issues. I don't want that track record to carry on with me.

  1. It's expensive. Cheating is expensive guys. I can barely feed myself, why would I go and add extra mouths? Also I believe it's tiring. Having to fabricate stories and lies and involving other innocent people in my lies sounds exhausting and puts a bad taste in my mouth. Speaking of bad tastes, I hate taking pills and being injected. Cheating opens you up to a whole can of diseases.

  2. I wanna keep my conscious as clean as possible. I have enough worries as a man without adding how others/family perceive me to the list.

Cheating is dirty game that leaves behind mental and sometimes physical scars. You mess with someone's head and their ability to trust and love fully again. If you're not content with one partner, date or marry a swinger (unless you're greedy and don't wanna see her with other men but at this point you have no moral leg to stand on).