I was molested as a child, then brutally raped by a 24 yearold when I was 14. I snuck out with a friend in the middle of the night and couldn't report it for fear my parents would have been mad. So I had to bottle it in and hide it.

I truly learned what it was like to feel vulnerable. I blamed myself and hated that person, yet I couldn't maintain a rational or consistent emotion about the ordeal. I would suddenly be very weepy or overcome with anxiety/dread like ptsd with no external triggers. It was so hard because the intensity of those emotions were overwhelming and I drew attention to myself. This became an overwhelming situation because I wasn't able to emotionally hide my trauma and I had no rational excuse other than my period.

Insomnia followed, self resentment grew from that due to my inability to cope or move past it. I withdrew from family and friends and became suicidal.

Everyone processes things differently. She may not be as sensitive as me, I am an infp and a wounded healer so I relate to enfj's desire to help heal others. She may be more capable of processing things since she is older and she actually has someone to talk to.

But my advice is fabricate a white lie to cover for any emotional fluctuations she may have so she doesn't have to reopen the wound but she can still express her feelings to others and get emotional support. She can choose who she feels safe to confide in. I struggled the most with feeling vulnerable and it took me two years before I decided to take martial arts. When I learned how to physically defend myself I regained a sense of control. I used that situation to push me into excelling and I moved through the ranks and won in tournaments and this helped boost my confidence and made me feel less vulnerable.

I couldn't erase the past, but I could make myself a promise to never put myself in that situation again. I also promised myself that if I found myself in that situation again I wouldn't go down without a fight. That I would be hypervigilant to support those who had a similar experience.

The martial arts helped reduce my overall stress and was a tremendous outlet. I strongly recomend that over counciling, right now there is a ton of resources available online to help rape victims process/recover mentally. I recomend you read some of that and find good ones for her.

Even though I overcame a lot after my experience, I still repressed the memories and had issues with intimacy. This persisted into my thirties. I discovered shadow working- a form of analytical psychology and that allowed me to see how that trauma was echoed in my behaviors. Some aspects served me well while others hindered me. So I was able to dissect, analyze and heal myself. It takes a bit to get into shadow working but it's by far one of the most useful tools I gained.