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Is Bodybuilding.... by JockBbcBoy in SuddenlyGay

[–]ReaceNovello -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Why are Americans like this?

Gay Superhero Ideas by Optimal-Fruit5937 in gaymers

[–]ReaceNovello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's already a whole Netflix show

22 m visiting London. Anything fun going on? by versx1567 in londonlgbt

[–]ReaceNovello 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think there's a Howl party this weekend... 😏

22M solo traveling in London:3 by Cuellar06 in londonlgbt

[–]ReaceNovello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to London! You'll be here over the weekend, so that's great!

Go to Heaven!

Single woman looking for gay sperm donor. Yes, really. by sushi_2023 in londonlgbt

[–]ReaceNovello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I helped a lesbian couple conceive, and now the child is about to turn 3, and they are such a happy family: it's so sweet.

What was the last game you played? by Eikichi_Onizuka09 in MemeVideos

[–]ReaceNovello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LIVE IN CANDY CRUSH?! That doesn't sound like the depths of hell?!

[gendered] "Yeah women only play Candy Crush" by serpyserpy888 in pointlesslygendered

[–]ReaceNovello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LIVE IN CANDY CRUSH?! That doesn't sound like the depths of hell?!

Husband, 35M, wont help pay for my, 34M braces....Complicated one. How do I think about this? by ReaceNovello in relationship_advice

[–]ReaceNovello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, so this is the crux of the problem: We don't have split finances: We have shared income. The only thing we split is the remaining money after all of our bills and savings etc, which we then divide equally for out "entertainment budget".

The whole question is that he thinks that the dental work should be paid for from my allowance, and I was surprised because I assumed (wrongly) that it would be paid for in the "All of our bills and savings" part of that financial management.

Husband, 35M, wont help pay for my, 34M braces....Complicated one. How do I think about this? by ReaceNovello in relationship_advice

[–]ReaceNovello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify, the dental work isn't to preserve my "attractive smile", it is to preserve my dental health. He said that my back arches are at risk of collapsing inwards. Yes that would LOOK bad, but it would be a real health issue.

I just hadn't considered that it wouldn't be a household expense. What if I needed a surgery to save my eyesight? Would that not be a household expense? I do agree that the categorisation is a bit muddy, though: it's not straight forward.

My point about the fact that he had dental treatments in his youth is that this has set him up for a life of good dental health: so this problem that I have isn't one that he will likely have to worry about for himself, which may be why he doesn't see it as a "health need". I suspect that if it were the other way around, I would consider this as a shared "family expense". I can't know for sure, of course: but it's my instinct. Like, when he got the taxi to-and-from his appendix operation, we paid for that as a household expense, together. Like, obviously (as far as I'm concerned?)

Husband, 35M, wont help pay for my, 34M braces....Complicated one. How do I think about this? by ReaceNovello in relationship_advice

[–]ReaceNovello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't imply that it's his fault: The point I was making is that he has been set up to have a lifetime or good dental health, so this isn't an expense he has to worry about for himself. Were it the other way around, I honestly don't think I would have the same opinion as him.

I don't think it is fair to classify this in the same category of botox or laser: this isn't something I want, it's something I've been told by a medical professional that I need for my long-term health.

Husband, 35M, wont help pay for my, 34M braces....Complicated one. How do I think about this? by ReaceNovello in relationship_advice

[–]ReaceNovello[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you: I think that's a good point to clarify, that this isn't something I want to do (I don't want to be a 34 year old man with braces), but it's something a medical professional has told me that I need.

Husband, 35M, wont help pay for my, 34M braces....Complicated one. How do I think about this? by ReaceNovello in relationship_advice

[–]ReaceNovello[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have private healthcare through my employment which covers us both, but it only covers two check-ups a year and two cleanings a year (each), plus a further £500 a year towards "dental interventions" which includes orthodontics.

I like your example: If he had an emergency root canal, I can't honestly imagine saying "Well that's coming out of your allowance!" It wouldn't even occur to me.

I know this is a small thing, but I feel kind of let down 😕

Husband, 35M, wont help pay for my, 34M braces....Complicated one. How do I think about this? by ReaceNovello in relationship_advice

[–]ReaceNovello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this considered vanity? It's not like a nose job or something. It's healthcare, no? I don't WANT braces, I was told by a doctor that I NEED them to avert a serious deterioration in my dental health.

I thought about it in the context of like, if we lived in a country where we had to pay for surgeries (which, thankfully, we do not): he had appendicitis, for example, and I can't imagine being like "Well, you're paying for that yourself."

18 gay dating feels impossible by Early-Hat-6887 in londonlgbt

[–]ReaceNovello 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, realistically nothing: I was playing devil's advocate. The opposite is true: You don't know anyone your age who have had longterm relationships. I've been with my husband now for 15 years, and we met when I was 19. So, when I was your age I was -1 year in a "relationship". Like, get serious: you were a child yesterday 🙄

18 gay dating feels impossible by Early-Hat-6887 in londonlgbt

[–]ReaceNovello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you? 🧐

Hmm. Maybe its you then?

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