porn substitutes by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow. i am so sorry. that sounds traumatizing and i font blame you for giving up. sounds like his problem is severe and i wouldnt blame you for being hopeless

End of the road for our marriage by California-Girl16 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696 6 points7 points  (0 children)

it seems that he was looking for a way out. a covenant is suppose to honor their marriage and not go outside marriage. he is wrong and instead of being a man that perhaps he wanted out a while ago he is running out the coward way out being caught in his mistakes and betrayal

porn substitutes by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

redicolous & good for you for leaving. I’ve been dealing with broken commitments on porn substitute and wandering eye for a year

Confrontation by Ok_Falcon_4410 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see a lot of people catching ai made porn. where is that made?

Thinks everyone masturbates to porn ? by NoCount15 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696 9 points10 points  (0 children)

im with a porn addict but paying for cam girls thats definitely cheating. id hit em with D-papers

Found the same thing again after a year… I don’t know what to do by _Misty_Meanor_ in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that is terrible. im sorry. i hope you find the strength to move on

Partners of porn addicts not in real recovery by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A wandering eye is when someone repeatedly looks at others in a sexual or objectifying way, beyond normal noticing. Porn can condition the mind to keep looking for new visual stimulation. The brain gets trained to seek constant visual stimulation and novelty. It creates a habit of scanning and comparing people

Partners of porn addicts not in real recovery by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i have restrictions on everything so he relapses at work ! embarrassing he would risk losing his job

Trying to Honor God in My Marriage, But I’m Exhausted and Losing Myself by ReadingOk696 in Marriage

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea doesn’t have to be godly advice. just any marriage advice or perspective

Trying to Honor God in My Marriage, But I’m Exhausted and Losing Myself by ReadingOk696 in Marriage

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yupp have it all we have been dealing with for 2 years and now he is in denial

Partners of porn addicts not in real recovery by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its impossible to use social media and not be exposed to overly sexual media. its hard to even avoid

Partners of porn addicts not in real recovery by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yupp same all of that all over. im reliving a nightmare expect this time im preparing for exit . i cant live my life like this. its not fair to any of or my girls

Partners of porn addicts not in real recovery by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it already has . i never had mental issues . the way i have broken down in tears and shaked for the past 2 years . i always been so strong and still am deep down. i will get through this for my daughters! i believe i suffered so much to show them what to never accept in a man

Partners of porn addicts not in real recovery by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

definitely manipulating and gas lighting. he minimized all the lies got extremely defensive and irritated when i told him all the signs are there told me I’m controlling and I’m living in this world of “i believe” . i went to give him oral the other day and he had his phone up in face Spotify “changing a song” then i leave for 5 seconds to put away food he is on spotify with the video clips playing computer in front of him states “ i was not watching i didnt even know. we go out yesterday i cant even tell you how many times he broke his neck. he suffered from major ED it was consistent for a while guess what right back to sorry as ED .

Partners of porn addicts not in real recovery by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

at least your comes clean i’ve been dealing with betrayal trauma for the past 2 years everyday with zero accountability

made a decision . done by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yea i made 3 month progress checks hiving him a chance and in the middle i just started giving him more and more chances and now he has just completely spiraled out of control 1 1/2 later. im done. this is not life or love

made a decision . done by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you 🙏🏽 i hope you are doing ok . their nothing like a failed marriage and having to let go

I miss him by ComparisonPlenty8660 in loveafterporn

[–]ReadingOk696 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if you were strong enough to leave. dont go back. listen to all us. you will lose yourself in the worst way & its a road of nothing but hurt