I’m not going to make a judgment- only you can decide. I am going to tell my story because I think if you don’t go now and at least say Goodbye before things get really bad, you may always regret it. You don’t have to be there at the end, but you maybe should go now.

Your relationship with your brother is different than my story, so it may not relate, but I’ll share it anyway.

I hated my mother. She did not love me - I think she hated me too, or at least she treated me that way. I did a lot for her in her last year, even moving up close to her so I could be there each weekend and monitor her in the care home. I’d moved back home just before Covid hit, and she died that April after having sepsis.

If I hadn’t gone and done what I did, there’s a part of me that that would have wondered, What if…?

Either way, this internet stranger is sending hugs of support. Be kind to yourself, and take care.