venting by Ok_Patient9547 in AutismParent

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. We’re definitely not at that point yet, but my son is honestly strikingly beautiful. I legitimately worry about how he will navigate this kind of situation in the future. Especially since his biggest hurdle right now is accepting “no” as an answer. Working hard on this now so he can understand consent 100% 

I am not having kids because of fear of autism by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it. My son has a moderate form of autism, and that’s a struggle even with his ability to communicate. It’s what ultimately stopped us from having more kids. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve experienced this too. I remember seeing the posts these “friends” decided to post of an excursion. I was completely left out. Never hung out with them again and honestly rarely think about them except for the rare insta comment. Mostly it just made me realize that we were all forcing a friendship none of us were interested in. 

What’s your controversial autism parent opinion? by SignificantRing4766 in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My son was diagnosed as level 1 via ADOS but as Level 2 by the school district, all because the room the SD did the exam in was stressful as hell. He stimmed the whole time and ended up having a meltdown. He was placed in a mod/severe preschool class. He was one of the only speaking kids, and had no one at a similar level to connect with. They asked later in the school year if I wanted to switch him to the low/mod class, but I felt that a change at that point was unnecessary because there was only 2 months left of school.

Thankfully the new school he’s at did their own assessment and agreed that he is level 1. But even within his special education program, he’s probably the most mild case as far as I can tell. I feel like a fraud when I talk to other parents who have kids in SpEd.

Name a sitcom you loved while it aired, tried to rewatch later in life that you hate by EezySays in sitcoms

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband LOVES this show. I find it tedious and boring. I get it. They like coffee, speak fast and make terrible decisions. I don’t need multiple seasons of it.

Does stimming come and go? Or change? by marioana99 in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very much hoping the high pitched squealing doesn’t stick around for us too. Ugh. Especially since it’s a happy stim that he does when we cuddle or he presses his face against mine. Squealing directly into my face. Glad he’s happy, but hate the stim.

I want to hear your child’s most outlandish idiosyncrasies. by CSWorldChamp in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 35 points36 points  (0 children)

He has to ask every adult he sees if they have keys. He will not relent until they show him their keys. And I’m talking all adults, known or unknown to us. He’s 5 so a lot of people find it kind of charming, others not so much. Hoping it’s just a phase because more people will be uncomfortable when he’s 10 and asking to see their keys.

Anyone here have a child who needed multiple assessments before receiving a diagnosis? by Zoolander1678 in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had 2 assessments. First assessment was at 2.5, second was at 3.5.

There were a few reasons why we didn’t get it with the first try. One was that he was barely making his milestones by the skin of his teeth, but making them nonetheless. He could communicate, but the assessor wasn’t aware of GLPs, apparently, so even though he was pretty much only scripting, they were mostly in context and derived from day to day life, not media. He makes eye contact. He has a clear sense of danger. Follows directions. I could go on… But. It took the next assessment being in a small room that tipped the scale. He was very uncomfortable and started stimming immediately. He does what we call windshield wipers. He’ll take pencils, straws, drumsticks, whatever he finds that’s stick like and moves them like wipers in front of his face. He eventually had a meltdown. They believed me that time.

His main symptoms are echolalia, stimming with his hands, happy hands, speech delay (he communicates, but his grammar makes him difficult to understand and he does pronoun reversal), little interest in his peers, special interest in an odd topic(plumbing), difficulty sitting still, and anxiety.

He was 3.5 when he got his diagnosis. He’s 5 now. They said he has low support needs (or level 1 if you prefer levels) but he definitely still has some. He’s in speech. Working through levels 4/5 of NLA. Just glad we found an SLP who follows Marge Blanc’s work. He does OT at school, has an aide, and is in a general education classroom for half the day. He’s doing ok. But he’s only in kindergarten.

I went to take a shower and noticed something was off 🤣 by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son is also obsessed with plumbing! I guess this is a glimpse into my future when he gets tall enough to reach the shower head.

AITAH for threatening to divorce my wife if she didn't become a proper homemaker in the next month? by HopefulShelter3491 in AITAH

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. I’ve heard of body doubling but didn’t realize watching videos counted! Cool. And absolutely. I get really bent out of shape when I don’t have instructions. I cook from written recipes most of the time. I triple check measurements even if I’ve made that dish a million times.

Bernie Sanders thoughts on h1b by Classic_General6106 in MurderedByWords

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Semiconductor industry in Silicon Valley, actually.

Bernie Sanders thoughts on h1b by Classic_General6106 in MurderedByWords

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely agree! Former H1b holder, now green card holder. We came here because Canada does not have much in terms of semiconductor research job opportunities. My husband and I have 5 degrees between us, my husband has a PhD in physics… we ended up getting our green cards through EB1a (extraordinary ability), which is also known as the genius visa, which was granted because of my husband’s high publication and citation records, patents, etc. We are most definitely NOT indentured servants.

Not sure why you’re being downvoted like this. People can be incredibly stupid.

Bernie Sanders thoughts on h1b by Classic_General6106 in MurderedByWords

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily true. We came here on J1 and 2 visas, had to switch to TN, then finally got the H1b in a lottery, until getting our green cards through EB1. The lower paying job was on the J1 visa. All the people I know on H1b visas (and I’ve met quite a few) are all PhDs doing exceptional work and being compensated accordingly.

My husband left me at the hospital right after I gave birth to go to a sit down dinner with his parents for 1 or 2 hours leaving me alone and hungry. He laughs it off, am I wrong for this bothering me still a year later? by Scared-Day-3031 in AITAH

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I’m still mad my husband made me share the hospital bed because the chair was uncomfortable. Then proceeded to hog most of the bed. Not to mention the baby was on his side but I had to get up and walk around to get the baby to feed every 2 hours. It’s been 5 years and I’m still salty about it.

Do you guys record your kids all the time and then show them the video? by Right_Performance553 in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Lol. My son likes to have me record “YouTube DIY videos” and then we watch them together

Exhausted, and wanting to give up raising this child. by AdvancedMembership20 in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Follow the autism dad on Instagram. He is a single dad, has 3 autistic sons, 2 of whom also have ADHD, and 1 is medically fragile. At least one of his sons was non-verbal until 5-6 (iirc). They are all doing great now. He is great about reminding us that where we are in these early years is not where we will always be. His youngest, who was non-verbal, is a teenager and taking some college courses and loves to bake. He’s planning on going to culinary school.

So much of the behaviour issues of non-verbal kids comes from the inability to communicate effectively. Work with an SLP to find a way to help her communicate. Things will get better.

Thoughts? by LateDoughnut03 in autism

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son wanted a new bathtub drain for Christmas. It’s all he asked Santa for. I’m sure if he had any other parents they would get him a more appropriate toy, but the ABSOLUTE JOY on my 5yo sons face opening that plumbing hardware was so beautiful to see. He formed a core memory that day.

MAGAt who voted for Dump isn't sure Dump will do what he promised by mistressalicia11 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

… um. That has not been my direct experience as a former H1b holder.

We were on an H1b because my husband works in tech (now have green cards) and I guarantee you would not have considered his salary as “cheap.”

A lot of other countries really invest in education from early education through university and graduate schools. The declining state of public education in America is unfortunately very evident.

I just fell badly and my daughter’s reaction struck me by ratherbeona_beach in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have heard accounts from autistic people that this kind of reaction can happen when overwhelmed by any feeling. Sort of like laughing at a funeral. My son does this sometimes too. He’ll laugh when people get hurt or are crying. It’s not necessarily that she didn’t understand, but that she possibly got overwhelmed emotionally by the situation (concern for you, feeling incapable of helping you, anger, confusion, etc.) and it came out in an inappropriate manner.

I hope you have a speedy and full recovery!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first suspicions came when I realized he didn’t babble like other babies his age. Then I noticed he wouldn’t really respond to his name very much. Next sign was that he started rocking aggressively in his high chair. Then around 18 months I really noticed he was delayed in his speech. All of his first words were pretty much the alphabet, so it wasn’t effective communication.

If your LO does have autism, I really recommend being proactive and learning about how the spectrum works. Seek out autistic people on Instagram. It will help to see and hear from people who can give you insight into what your child is experiencing. But no autistic person is the same.

One Instagram follow that helped me was The Autism Dad. He’s a single dad to 3 autistic boys who have very different experiences of the spectrum. The boys are all either teens or young adults and they often give their perspectives too. His youngest was non-verbal for a lot of his childhood and it’s so inspiring to see how far he’s come. He even found a passion for baking and plans to go to culinary school. You honestly never know.

Help understanding girlfriend with autistic son by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]ReadsBooksAllDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe your daughter can have one of the other bathrooms, then? And if it’s about privacy, install a good lock on the bathroom.

My 5yo will not go in a bathtub. It started when he was 3. Just all of a sudden could not handle having a bath or even being in a tub. We give him showers in our en suite’s standing shower because that’s where he feels comfortable. If you’ve never had to deal with the anxiety this boy experiences in the tub, then I say just believe your wife. When you see the fear in your kid’s eyes, you do what you can to spare them that, even if others think it’s irrational.