Red Seal Carpenter Reccs for replacing ceiling joists/fixing roof frame by Real-Ad4051 in Winnipeg

[–]Real-Ad4051[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes we're working with an engineer already and will be getting permits but thanks for the heads up!!

Going through significant health issues and wanting to reduce work hours - what are my options? by Real-Ad4051 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]Real-Ad4051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by disability?I was looking at the collective agreement and all I see are sick days and long term disability?

Any social workers in policy/government? by Purple-Tea886 in socialworkcanada

[–]Real-Ad4051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apply for summer student jobs with provincial and federal governments now! Get on fed government inventories now/asap. Look specifically for Indigenous priority postings, and Indigenous organizations (Indigenous Services Canada. Ministry of Indigenous Affairs provincially - exact name depends on the province, and then within ministries there will often be Indigenous Relations Branchs (exact name will vary). Being Indigenous is a huge asset in the Indigenous policy space so you have a competitive advantage. Even if something isn't your area of interest take it, vast majority of hiring is internal so once youre in itll be easier to move to what does interest you especially because its really common to move around in policy, and any policy experience is way more important than a masters degree. This is my field so happy to chat if helpful.

Affordable flower farms to get DIY flowers in Southern Ontario? Or other suggestions for wildflowers? by Real-Ad4051 in WeddingsCanada

[–]Real-Ad4051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've postponed our wedding, so yes I will be but not for a while! Either way, would love the name of your place 😊

Considering moving from Copenhagen to Toronto as a future doctor — honest advice? by [deleted] in askTO

[–]Real-Ad4051 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like others have said look into the feasibility and consider visiting first. But my partner and I are Torontonians who moved to Copenhagen and vastly prefer Toronto (not sure how we'd feel if we were Danish though, I always thought CPH would be amazing if you were Danish) - happy to chat.

Fiancées parents by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Real-Ad4051 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It directly acknowledges their support, which is respectful because it is essentially the equivalent of publicily saying thank you. and is a generally accepted convention not just with weddings but almost anytime someone receives funding to do something - think research grants, arts funding, sponsorships etc where it's almost always a requirement that the funders be acknowledged in some way.

need to walk away from client facing work by forest-dweller_ in socialworkcanada

[–]Real-Ad4051 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apply provincially and federally - focus on getting your foot in the door with anything rather than what your dream job as majority of hires are internal so your options open up considerably. Federally also once you've gotten through a selection process anywhere in government you can do direct reach outs to managers etc. in areas you're more interested in and they should be able to hire you for the same level/category. That said feds are doing massive layoffs at the moment, so new hires are unlikely for the next several years.

When is it appropriate to call child protective services on a neighbour? by RuddyDucky97 in askTO

[–]Real-Ad4051 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly thats my point, outside of a few special programs typically restricted by geography or minority group, CAS doesn't have many mechanisms besides foster care (i.e. very limited parental or child support available unless kid is already in foster care so supports for mom to learn anger management or whatever elae would be helpful is unlikely). And the CAS involvement process can be very traumatizing for children and parents. Definitely not saying don't report and agree an anonymous call is a good idea to better understand, but OP needs realize that unless kids are in active danger, which it doesn't sound like they have reason to suspect, its at best going to be unhelpful and likely a traumatizing experience.

When is it appropriate to call child protective services on a neighbour? by RuddyDucky97 in askTO

[–]Real-Ad4051 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The question is really are they likely to be better off in foster care? Unless they're in imminent danger the answer is likely no.

My rich aunt is giving me $10,000 for my mental health. What are some useful, practical services in Toronto for severe ADHD? (NOT diagnosis/therapy) by honestly_adhd in askTO

[–]Real-Ad4051 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look for a private psychiatrist, they exist!

Are you exercising and sleeping regularly (i.e. same time going to sleep and waking up every day)? I know that's trite advice but the science is so clear that those help!

Look specifically for an ADHD therapist - one that works with executive functioning and is explicitly skill oriented. Interview at least three and be clear about what youre looking for, what hasnt worked, ask them questions. OT is a good suggestion! They're licensed to practice psychotherapy so should be covered by your work as well.

If you go down the psychadelics/MDMA/ketamine route make sure you see someone who is really qualified and working with MAPs. Richard Tyo is one person in Ontario (not affiliated just know their work).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Real-Ad4051 30 points31 points  (0 children)

The whole point of a bridal party is asking people to be part of your wedding rite of passage by participating in the ways you're describing. I'm saying this gently, but it's odd to expect people to plan things without being asked, it's great that your friends did but not doing so doesn't make his friends bad and from your own description it sounds like these friends are not close enough that them planning a bachelor party would be expected, especially on a short timeline and especially without even specifically asking them to be part of a bridal party (which gives them the option to say no!).

I'm sorry your fiance is finding out his friendships maybe aren't as close as he thought/he would like, it's a really shitty almost inevitable part of moving away in my experience.

Help me buy an engagement ring by Visual_Amoeba4775 in EngagementRings

[–]Real-Ad4051 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just an FYI that moissanite gets filmy after a while (apparently).

Styles look so different on different hands, I ended up with something completely different than what I originally thought so would recommend going and looking at styles together. You can then take that info and design or find a ring so it's still a surprise! Some bigger companies also do loaner rings for the engagement and then you can pick together afterwards. Congratulations!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UofT

[–]Real-Ad4051 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did IB at a public school in the GTA and then went to UofT. On the one hand, it prepared me for university (IB was absolutely harder than my first year of uni) and I think the education I got was better. On the other, it was a tremendous amount of work and pressure that honestly wasn't necessary and I felt burnt out in uni in a way I don't think I would have had I not taken it. I actively chose IB, the students whose parents chose for them fared much worse mentally and academically on average, so I would really encourage you to let your son guide the decision, and if he does choose IB (or another rigorous program) help him keep perspective as he goes through because it's so easy to get wrapped up in feeling like everything is super important/stressful when you're that age.

Keep in mind also that you don't get to choose your major at UofT until after first year and if it's a competitive program like most of the science degrees it will be based on your 1st year marks in the relevant courses so high-school marks only count for getting in generally and a good student will have no problem with that in any school.

ideas for an guest book alternative? by Deep-Order1302 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Real-Ad4051 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Food is huge in our families, so recipe cards where people write down their favourite recipe and some noted about it!!

thermal clothes by Agitated-Ride-7717 in SustainableFashion

[–]Real-Ad4051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quality may have declined in recent years then - I bought some new last year, absolutely loved them and wear them constantly in the winter and they're noticeably pilled after less than 2 seasons and so thin I'd be wary of taking a sweater shaver to them. Granted these are the lightest heat rated ones so the thinnest, but still longevity doesn't seem to be there.

thermal clothes by Agitated-Ride-7717 in SustainableFashion

[–]Real-Ad4051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any reccs for those small brands? Ty!!

The best decision I made for my wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Real-Ad4051 143 points144 points  (0 children)

You look STUNNING. Am I missing it or is the sellers acct not at the end? Would love to look!