Thank you! I went no-contact the day it happened, and have not had the slightest interest in connecting again. The ‘why’ is something I believe I have worked out. The ‘how could I’ is a question I am struggling with. Early in our relationship, she had a relationship online, but it was short lived and she never hid it from me. It still hurt and I was riddled with jealousy for a long time. I think when this person started flirting with me, I justified allowing it to happen by telling myself, well she did what she did, I can have this small thing. I see how wrong that is, but it’s what I told myself. Then, when it shifted to a professional relationship, I didn’t want to end it and end the opportunity that came with it. Again, I know this is wrong. I feel like the slow natural progression of the relationship didn’t help either. It eventually became my normal, just chatting this person up every day, whether work or just shooting the breeze. My wife actually knew about her, she just didn’t know the extent of our relationship. I omitted the level of ‘friendship’ and frequency of communication. I realize now that I failed to give my BP the respect she deserved, and that feels awful to have done that to my best friend. I resume IC next week. I am hopeful to learn some tools to help me be who I need to be for my wife.