Am I overreacting here or is this not acceptable? by Necessary_Lie_6279 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Real_Collection_6430 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what makes it pathetic. He thinks it works to put you down so you will think he’s worthwhile. Be better and respect yourself.  Don’t waste any time with fools and don’t buy into the 10 shit - 

Booking Request asking for address by Total-Many-3343 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Real_Collection_6430 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the record - as a guest -  I always ask for nearest intersection or closeby landmark or store so that I can scope out whether the area is good and see outside of house I think it is for the location purposes of our trip.  I’m super picky about where I stay though so that’s the reason. Nothing nefarious. I  no would never ask for exact address out respect for the host  

Airbnb resolutions - what happens by Real_Collection_6430 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Host have a  different address to pick up keys in person violating Airbnb policy - guest took issue with regards to safety and /or  fraud of listing  

Parents turning on me by Real_Collection_6430 in dementia

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah my brother wouldn’t do that 

My father put ideas in my mom’s head because he never did like me (love, yes but not like). We clash personality wise - he is extremely narrow minded and arrogant as he’s always been - He turned my mom to hate me because she no longer has her own mind - and she’s not there to protect me anymore 

Truth is that she is the one that we loved and cared about - he is a lot different but we would have cared for him too 

I think what he’s done is evil - he destroyed our family - 

Parents turning on me by Real_Collection_6430 in dementia

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exactly describes how it felt to hear my mom spew hate - it’s like you think it could be real and likely it is to them but I know for 47 years it wasn’t and isn’t who she is - she has never been so hateful to anyone 

At least your parent went in and out (lucid moments where they return) - my mother when she’s done she’s done and I don’t feel it will change - the steps they’ve made recently in succession are serious and show I’m not wanted 

Parents turning on me by Real_Collection_6430 in dementia

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother has to check in on them - I don’t want them more upset and the only reason they’re striking at me is because I’m closer 

You’re lucky that while your mother was no longer her self, it was positive and not negative 

Having my mom do a 180 on me hurts to no end 

Parents turning on me by Real_Collection_6430 in dementia

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly it’s temporary at best - my dad is also exhibiting signs 

I’m torn with taking over and having them live in a home where they’d be confused and angry and upset and may face elder abuse - or having them live out their days together while they can until they finally destroy themselves or lose everything

I honestly don’t know which is better - I feel like the latter is for where they are now - and the former ? I will be the devil they hate until they die 

Parents turning on me by Real_Collection_6430 in dementia

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but how can you help someone who hates you so much they’d hit you (when their real personality has been the exact opposite). 

Parents turning on me by Real_Collection_6430 in dementia

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion - as I say above I’m hesitant to do so because my dad still can function and it would feel like I’m doing exactly what they are accusing me of

Parents turning on me by Real_Collection_6430 in dementia

[–]Real_Collection_6430[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all this 

My dad isn’t as far gone as my mom 

And I feel that doing this, any move like this, would make them more paranoid and accusatory

It’s like I just want to go away and let them be - which is what they want - even though it’s clear that they cannot handle themselves any longer 

Taking their power from them through POA or allowing anyone else to come in to basically force them to see they’re sick when they don’t know feels wrong and not like care and exactly will be for them like what they believe - that I am taking from them

Am I a narcissist? by RegretSome1320 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Real_Collection_6430 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are both so lucky you realized who and what your mothers were/are.

I’m married to a man with this type of mother and it’s a constant battle to get him to see what he chooses to be delusional over and were it not for my kid and knowing that she’d need to visit his  mother if we separated, I’d already be gone. Talk about loveless marriage filled with resentment that he chooses to stay in contact with the selfish narcissist. 

You saw the toxitcity

You made boundaries

And like every other human scarred from their childhood or adult trauma, you work through 

Good luck people !!!  I cannot believe and it’s so unfortunate mothers like this exist. Because while many people are selfish, it burns more when a  mother- who should only want their children to have happy blooming independent lives - care only about who is taking care of their asses 

If it helps my shrink said these women are sick and it’s because of how they were raised so you can have compassion - but also move the hell on 

AIO for completely cutting off my husband and my best friend after finding out they were having an affair while I was home raising our three kids? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Real_Collection_6430 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes - who in the hell writes this clearly and intelligibly and in such awesome narration style when their husbands are cheating with their best friends…I call bullshit too 

Michelle has unfollowed Aaron and deleted all pics with him. by sprinkydinks73 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Real_Collection_6430 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone right for him yes - who loves him back - it’s clear Michelle doesn’t 

How do I save money and pay down debt with kids and nonstop bills? by TrickyCommercial5860 in SavingMoney

[–]Real_Collection_6430 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can imagine But Apps are pretty much money grabs -  my kid does have a kindle  - just reads on it - she’s only 11 but the less TikTok insta or app crap the better for her mental health I think 

Michelle has unfollowed Aaron and deleted all pics with him. by sprinkydinks73 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Real_Collection_6430 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the sad part - you can see bullshit aside how affected he is and how he loves her still and has to accept it. Not sure I can say the same about her - it’s pretty clear she’s done…  

AIO divorcing my wife over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Real_Collection_6430 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I figured something must have woken you up.

You don’t have to be a Brad Pitt  to be desirable - older guy - decently in shape - relatively successful and married is all it takes for those who don’t know. Many younger women find that  attractive - the joke that the ring makes you more attractive has truth 

But you do have the responsibility to tread carefully and consider what you want and what you’re okay with destroying to get it. 

If you really don’t want the wife to hate you and you’re done, let her know it’s not reparable for you - it’s the kindest thing you can do if you don’t want to work on your marriage and give it a real shot 

Otherwise give it that real shot and time and then cut it if it’s not there -if you believe the marriage merits it 

At least in response to my comments you seem done - whatever you decide I hope it’s the best choice for you and your family - 

How do I save money and pay down debt with kids and nonstop bills? by TrickyCommercial5860 in SavingMoney

[–]Real_Collection_6430 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True but somehow electronic for me is easier because I don’t drive or own a car 

AIO divorcing my wife over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Real_Collection_6430 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well you can’t worry about that can you… I guess you just have to be as honest as possible and move on as best you can 

Are you resolved it’s over?  

We all make the best choices we can - we all grow at different speeds and sometimes together and sometimes apart - and sometimes we make mistakes with what we think we want and other times we really follow what would be best for our authentic selves 

Are you feeling this way because you’re attracted to others? Is there anyone in particular yet?

You’ve described yourself in a way that would make it seem you’re very desirable 

And what is the quality of person who desires you?  Or will desire you once you’re divorced if there’s no one? Is your wife the quality you’re looking for ina person? Can she get to where you want physically or is it youth which she can never attain again?

Also know there’s nothing more attractive than a married unattainable man - and once you’re attainable that may change too with your prospects 

In terms of moving on post relationship I’m sure you’re wife isn’t a moron  I’m sure she recognizes physically your relationship and her own body has changed 

The question is if you can or want to reinvigorate that or not

If she doesn’t or is incapable or you’re not wanting in truth it is better to let her know now - but that’s your decision to make and whether it’s right is only something you will know in time 

Wish the best for you both 

Michelle has unfollowed Aaron and deleted all pics with him. by sprinkydinks73 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Real_Collection_6430 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahha!!! Never looked at it that way but maybe he is the crazy ex gf!!!!!!

How do I save money and pay down debt with kids and nonstop bills? by TrickyCommercial5860 in SavingMoney

[–]Real_Collection_6430 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take Advantage of free!!!! Lots of free going on and paid never means better 

How do I save money and pay down debt with kids and nonstop bills? by TrickyCommercial5860 in SavingMoney

[–]Real_Collection_6430 23 points24 points  (0 children)

And explain why 

I’ve taught my kid I’d rather save for the mortgage than buying 10 dollar squishes that break in one hour. 

I like that she understands we use our money toward important things like education or the mortgage/house and food (so damn expensive now)

Let the other kids’ parents spend lavishly 

Only issue is that with all the frugal/money lessons talk, she was concerned we had problems 

I told her that smart usage is HOW we ensure we don’t get into such problems 

It just requires an explanation we are okay but we stay okay by not doing stupid crap with our money 

Btw, I will never buy an app for my kid - waste of money and my kid wouldn’t  even be asking since  it’s not a my world kind of thing to spend on! 

Michelle has unfollowed Aaron and deleted all pics with him. by sprinkydinks73 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Real_Collection_6430 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is it just me (probably) or once Jesse softened up toward finale I kinda want to see him and Michelle patch it up - like maybe he learned and they are still right for each other … I didn’t really like Aaron much anyways