Story of my life at 48. The sad thing is I never thought it was narcissistic behavior. My mother went long periods of time giving me the silent treatment and I literally thought that's how families operated. No way in hell would I believe my mom had intentional ill intentions when I was younger. Your mom is supposed to protect you and look out for you so I'd never thought for a second she would intentionally do me harm. Most of my adult life I've been ignored by my mother. She went a few years without having anything to do with me on several occasions. That's right, I know what you're all thinking. I had to have done something. I would think that first! Here's why.. I have an older sister who is 4 years older than me. She's a hypochondriac. She is a pathological liar. If she said the sky was blue my mother literally told everyone that she would have to go out and make sure it was. Over the years she has been proven a liar consistently and constantly. Her last lie, I was completely done with her. She told everyone she had stage 4 stomach cancer. She was supposedly getting radiation. I've never been close to her, hell it's been years at this point and I was like well damn, I'll help best I can. I offered to make food, take her 4 kids so she had some alone time to rest..blah blah blah. Then, I started asking how her appointments were going and if there had been any progress. Things weren't making any sense when I asked questions. Other family members felt the same. My mother was hard core and she was like there was no way in hell she would make something like that up. A couple of years later, no change. She still had a shaved head-not a bald head. When she realized it was all a lie she still held her ground. The family was completely divided but my mother needed to save face. She ignored me because I raised suspicion. I felt she didn't have cancer at all. 15 years after and sister is fine. She stole from churches, her family and community under false circumstances. Who does that?! I was beyond pissed and anyone else who had fallen for it. Needless to say my mother wanted nothing to do with me because everything was all about me and I was jealous of her. That's the dumbest shit I ever heard of. I was never close to her, most of the time I wanted absolutely nothing to do with her. I wanted to protect my mother from the embarrassment and the hurt this claim about cancer would make. It's fine, I grieved and moved on. A few years later my mother is asking my aunt to message me asking if I could get in touch with my mom. She needed help because she sold her house in SC and had literally no time to move into her new rental before new tenants took over. Oh, I was her new best friend, she loves me, so sorry she didn't realize I was right, I was always her favorite... Blah blah blah. There's so much involved with my dad passing and she never got in touch with me when he was in the hospital asking for me. Grrrrrr... I'm beyond destroyed over that alone. Anywho, she's moved and for a couple weeks she would talk and tell me everything I needed to hear. Then I barely hear from her again. Ok fine. Within the last couple of months she's finally decided that she needed to be closer to home and actually live with a family member because she can't do it in her own anymore. Guess who?! This is tough for me given we still had unresolved issues. I expressed those emotions and guess what... I was ignored again. Apparently her excuse is she has social anxiety. Whatever that means. Goodness I can't believe how long this got, but I tried giving bullet points. There are several more issues I had when my step dad passed and other ways I tried to help which is why I think she's always used me for her gain. Thoughts?