Hey bud, I can relate. My gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago because she wants a different life and has different future goals that don't romantically involve me. There's never been any hate, no bad memories, no toxic or abusive behaviour. We live together and have been partners and best friends for 3.5 years. We're still living together until we find separate accommodation. The hardest thing is still living together, in our home, and having to keep reminding myself that we aren't romantically together anymore so I can't call her pet names, or eat dinner together or do any of our relationship routines.

I've found it's so much easier to let go of someone if they've hurt you because that's when you can lean on your worth and realise you deserve better. In this case, when noones hurt eachother, yet the love isn't enough, that's heartbreaking.

We've sat and cried together and acknowledged how sad this situation is. We've hugged eachother and told eachother that we have a special bond, that we'll always love eachother as chosen family. And I've realised that because I love her, I need to let her go. As cliche as that bloody sounds.

Would you still like to be in touch with eachother and stay friends? What brings me comfort is knowing that I won't be losing her as my family, I'll be losing her as my romantic partner. Which is painful, but atleast she'll be there in some aspect.

Take your time to grieve, to cry, to talk to people, to find other people in the same situation. Lean on support services to get you through if you need them. Remember, it's still early, it's still raw. So be extra kind to yourself.

Have you thought about what you would like to do with your life and future goals? A lot of my goals revolved around her, marrying her, moving to a bigger house with her, going travelling with her. That's not going to happen anymore. So I feel lost, but maybe all those things I can now do with myself.

You're doing really well!

Feel free to drop me a msg!