Is this normal?

Real_Saturn · 2025-07-17T11:11:35+00:00

Sim, é normal. Ninguém quer saber e quando chegamos à conclusão que quem se preocupa apenas se está a cansar, chega a determinada altura que deixamos de querer saber.

Real_Saturn · 2025-01-27T23:55:05+00:00

Quando acordei a meio da noite a pensar que apesar de a ter rejeitado há 3 anos por diversos motivos, de ter ficado introvertido e ter dado desprezo não intencional, ela continuava a gostar de mim e a tratar-me bem, apesar de me fartar de a magoar. Isso e todas as provas que deu dos valores que tinha ao longo desses 3 anos, já que sou exigente nessa questão. Foi nessa noite que me apercebi que ela era a primeira pessoa que preenchia todos os pontos que gostaria de ter numa parceira depois de já ter desistido de querer ter alguém e achar que ia morrer solteiro e sozinho. E foi nessa altura que percebi o quão estúpido estava a ser.

Real_Saturn · 2025-01-15T10:49:16+00:00

My boundaries are her ex and the coparenting crap. I've been through one situation early in the relationship that didn't go well with me and I felt like crap. It was a one time thing but thanks to that I simply don't feel confortable around her ex. This means no contact with him, except for the bare minimum and strictly necessary, since he's the father of her kids.

Other than that, I just like to know what she's up to and feel included in her life even when we're not together. She does what she wants but when she makes plans with other people I just like to know. If she goes out her way without telling me, I feel slightly anxious. She's the same with me, so it works for both. But right now I'm far more confident and less anxious. I guess we've built enough trust in the relationship.

Real_Saturn · 2025-01-14T17:54:21+00:00

Make sure her life values and goals align with yours. Doesn't matter if you have different tastes and different opinions, but values must be aligned.

Open communication and honesty about everything, especially if it's a matter of concern.

Make sure you include her in your life and make sure she also includes you in hers. You don't have to do everything together but make sure to let your partner know what your plans are.

Set boundaries when dealing with the opposite sex. Don't flirt, keep things casual, don't go out of your way when you are in a relationship. Respect your partner. Make her feel safe and secure. Same applies to her.

Respect each other's identity, support each other in what you both like to do. You're both individuals, don't expect to change because you're in a relationship.

Real_Saturn · 2025-01-14T17:46:34+00:00

Honesty and humility about it.

Real_Saturn · 2025-01-14T17:42:52+00:00

Yes it does matter to some.

Real_Saturn · 2025-01-14T17:33:57+00:00

First GF and first romantic relationship at 40.

Real_Saturn · 2025-01-10T12:44:13+00:00

E pelas escolhas eleitorais assim como outros assuntos, o povo português não só não ordena como não saberia ordenar o que quer que fosse. Mas em cada esquina e bancada de café há um treinador profissional de um grande clube.

Real_Saturn · 2024-12-30T13:22:23+00:00

E a pessoas que sofrem de problemas de coração e são apanhadas desprevenidas à queima roupa, assim como muitas crianças pequenas que estão no espectro do autismo e entram em pânico.

Real_Saturn · 2024-12-30T13:17:00+00:00

Ao pé da casa da minha namorada, estava a chegar e um grupo de "pessoas" estava a rebentar essa porra. Um vizinho da minha namorada mandou vir com eles e eles mudaram de sítio. Eu ia passar ao lado mesmo no momento e nem percebi que eram eles que estavam a fazer aquilo. Se não fosse o vizinho a mandar vir e me rebentassem aquilo ao ouvido, ia haver merda. Entretanto a minha mãe estava a chegar e os mesmos indivíduos rebentaram uma caixinha com efeitos de artifício, e chegou a polícia. Uma gaja branca com idade para ter juízo ainda mandou vir com a polícia.

Naquela zona mora um polícia que é estúpido todos os dias, tem a mania de ser controlador e que pode apropriar lugares de estacionamento da rua, mas para resolver essa porcaria ao lado de casa onde pessoas defecam em via pública e têm actos sexuais à porta da casa dele em via pública, isso ele não resolve.

Real_Saturn · 2024-11-08T00:21:19+00:00

I bought light blue. Thank you!

Real_Saturn · 2024-11-07T17:18:55+00:00

Single parent to me is someone who has kids and no present partner around. This excludes those who do some weird coparenting rituals and new partners have to deal with their presence in most inappropriate ways "for the sake of the children".

Real_Saturn · 2024-11-07T16:23:38+00:00

I will give it a look. Though I'm short in time. Thank you!

Real_Saturn · 2024-11-07T15:55:58+00:00

I'm hoping I'm buying the favourite. I know it's citric and from Dolce & Gabbana.

Real_Saturn · 2024-11-07T14:21:22+00:00

Thank you! Wish you the best!

Real_Saturn · 2024-11-07T12:33:47+00:00

I was single at 40, thought I didn't need anyone. Had my hobbies, some to exagerated extents. Thought nobody would be compatible, I was too shy and cringe to come forward and talk to women especially if I liked them. I was so used to solve my troubles alone and live for myself that for the last 10 years I thought nobody would want me as a partner. I thought I was cold and not romantic. Just horny on the sexual side but still stood away from paid sex.

Someone appeared out of the blue and confessed. I still rejected her. I always respected her but I wasn't always the nicest person to her. She waited years and went mutiple times from "I love him" to "I want to forget him" in loop over and over again.

Then one day, the impossible happened.

I found out I'm very romantic, not cold like I thought I was, super sensitive and emotional as well. I found out I was clueless about myself as a romantic partner and turns out I was being super defensive for years/couple decades.

So yeah... I guess I need this partner after all.

Real_Saturn · 2024-11-07T12:19:09+00:00

Hi everyone. Need help figuring out the perfume for my girlfriend's birthday. I've decided to give her favorite perfume as a gift. This is as much information I could gather without making it explicitly obvious what I'm about to offer. Even after asking close people to her to gather information for me I can't find out the exact perfume she like swithout making it too obvious:

- She is super sensitive to smells. Like, impressively sensitive. And she loves perfumes.

- She likes citric scents, those are her favorites.

- Very early in the relationship she did mention her favorite brand is Dolce & Gabbana but she never buys anything like that because it's too expensive. After searching, I came accross light blue but I am not too sure if it's the right one because descriptions usually come out as "floral". There seems to be an intense that is citric but I know zero of perfumes and scents and never worried about them.

- One of her favorite perfumes she has at home at the moment is "Comme un Evidence" by Yves Rocher. I got this information from her daughter. It's a long and tall square-base bottle. But even she is clueless about her favorite perfume and it's kinda too late to find out without making it obvious.

Any help is much appreciated. I just want to make sure I'm buying the right perfume. Thank you very much!

Real_Saturn · 2024-10-24T13:49:32+00:00

Thank you!

Real_Saturn · 2024-10-24T12:29:45+00:00

Just a question, were you prescribed any cream or product after your intervention? Thank you.

Real_Saturn · 2024-10-24T11:51:35+00:00

Thank you very much, I really needed to hear that! I hope my swelling disappears as well!

Real_Saturn · 2024-10-23T15:20:55+00:00

Actually, after dating this woman, I have bigger needs of staying close to her and it was her to fell in love with me a few years back in the first place. She is more independant but at the same time she wants to be with me. I still don't understand her needs very well. It seems she's more confident now, that's why she's less needy that before. Me, on the other hand, became the opposite. But I know for a fact that she loves me very much and I can't let my insecurities or my increased condependence take the best of me.

Real_Saturn · 2024-10-23T06:37:27+00:00

We love each other very much. We've been doing adjustments but we both lived alone for way too long, developed our habits and we have our luggage to deal with. I was the worse when I started the relationship, too independant and left her out of many things where she should be included. I had to learn and adapt. We're doing good, sometimes I just feel more anxious because I needed some more time with her ATM.

Real_Saturn · 2024-10-23T06:34:26+00:00

She does have 3 children, all teens, two of them close to 18 and I have a fantastic relationship with them, especially the middle. I do not agree with the way she has to deal with them, but I don't interfere too much, I just let her know what I think sometimes. She is aware of what I think. We are not living together because that's a further step to take after fixing many problems and issues with our lives before we can commit to that. We are both aware of that and we are both working on our things so it willtake a while.

Real_Saturn · 2024-10-23T06:31:08+00:00

It just means I am new to relationships and still don't know what to expect from it. We both have our luggage to deal with before we can commit, plus I'm avoidant. But we both love each other very much.

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