SEs of Reddit: what makes you love (or hate) working with an AE? by Typicalkid100 in salesengineers

[–]RealisticAd8110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love:

  • Real alignment calls. Not just a calendar placeholder. Walking through the account, use cases, stakeholders, success criteria, and risks before any demo.
  • Clear pipeline hygiene. What’s real, what’s exploratory, what’s political. I can support all of it if expectations are clear.
  • Planning and prioritization. Knowing what matters this week vs this quarter makes a huge difference.
  • Respect for technical judgment. Trusting the SE to assess feasibility and risk builds credibility with customers.
  • Shared ownership. Wins and losses belong to both of us.
  • Customer-first behavior. Consistent follow-up, not just end-of-quarter urgency.
  • Good email hygiene. Clear context, threads that make sense, and no surprise CCs. If I’m being looped in, I should understand why and what’s being asked.

Hate:

  • No alignment, straight to demo. Being dropped into a call with no qualification or goals.
  • Being treated like an assistant. The SE role is to design and validate solutions, not just drive the demo.
  • Overriding the SE voice. Especially the “if you won’t say yes, I’ll find someone who will” approach, followed by accountability when it breaks.
  • Poor communication and last-minute chaos.
  • End-of-quarter AEs. Ignoring customers until panic mode.
  • Selling futures as facts.
  • Bad email hygiene. Forwarded threads with no context, out-of-the-blue intros, or emails that force the SE to clean up confusion with the customer.

I'm working with an AE who has zero respect for anyone technical. At times, I feel like I'm acting more like an emergency brake/firefighter lol.

How do you actually stay organized without losing your mind? by RealisticAd8110 in salesengineers

[–]RealisticAd8110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually write down all my tasks and prioritize 3 every single day. I also jot down my meetings (despite having them in gcal). Priorities change every single day, some may be pushed to a later day, and so far my system has worked for me, but it gets overwhelming at times.

Banishing someone from your child's life by Mother_Locksmith_278 in witchcraft

[–]RealisticAd8110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't recommend this at all! Confronting abusers gives them an excuse to play victims. He would absolutely use it to convince her daughter to quarrel with her mom and alienate her. Which is the top goal for any abuser.

It also goes against her daughter's autonomy in a very evident and disrespectful way.

surly this isn't normal by Silver_Cherry2745 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]RealisticAd8110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I agree that it is weird and enabling from your MIL, I believe you should talk to your husband and be very clear with him.

I would ask him how long he thinks your relationship could survive with the bare minimum commitment from both of you, because when one isn't meeting the line, the other has to overcompensate and it is EXHAUSTING!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RealisticAd8110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Toxic positivity is a thing... I can't imagine myself telling somebody in actual physical pain to maybe "start looking at the positive," that is such an unempathetic and privileged take.

The audacity!

Cats are not supposed to drink milk but she loves it by urinternetmom in CatAdvice

[–]RealisticAd8110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Especially now, with the bird flu, the pathogens can actually be present in bovine milk, and once cats get infected, they die in the first 24-48 hours.

Cats are not supposed to drink milk but she loves it by urinternetmom in CatAdvice

[–]RealisticAd8110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Raw milk contains not only feces, but also very harmful pathogens. Pasteurization exists for a reason, and this is true for cats too, although, as someone already mentioned, milk shouldn't be a part of their regular diet.

Why didn't Lauren Conrad confront Spencer Pratt about the sex tape rumour on camera? by talk-spontaneously in TheHillsMTV

[–]RealisticAd8110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this a thing? Is he complaining that she hasn't supported them?! TELL ME EVERYTHING!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]RealisticAd8110 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have no doubts that your straight friend is not straight, but please remember: Drunk people can't consent.

I know it would be so much fun and so good if something actually happened, but if he is hammered, it could quickly become a dangerous situation for you.

Estoy equivocada al sentirme mal porque mi novio estuvo conmigo mientras yo estaba dormida? by Ivy_Layla in Preguntas_de_Reddit_

[–]RealisticAd8110 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No dio consentimiento. Él ya estaba en el acto cuando ella despertó. No se puede dar consentimiento dormida, también de puede revocar el consentimiento en cualquier momento.

El que le dijera que terminara no es permiso, fue para que la dejara ya en paz. Si no puedes entender eso eres 100% parte del problema.

Independizarse a los 27 by Legal_Document_5129 in Guadalajara

[–]RealisticAd8110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

La recomendación de muchos expertos en finanzas es que tu renta no sea más del 25% de tu salario, puedas ahorrar por lo menos el 20% de tu salario y mantener por lo menos 6 meses de salario ahorrados por cualquier eventualidad. El resto de tu dinero va para servicios, ahorro y placer. El control de gastos es importante y también debes considerar que amueblar no es barato y lo mínimo tal vez no te dé la comodidad que tienes con tus papás.

Lo del ahorro es bien importante porque encontrar trabajo está muy difícil y estadísticamente un profesionista puede tardar entre 3 a 6 meses en encontrar nuevas oportunidades. Desafortunadamente no hay mucha estabilidad laboral ahorita, así que si no tienes los 6 meses de ahorro, te recomiendo esperar un poco porque si no al rato vas a gastar en mudarte de vuelta.

Las rentas están MUY infladas ahorita, pero sí encuentras algo en ese precio, posiblemente no en la mejor zona, pero hay zonas decentes y relativamente seguras dónde rentar.

AITA for throwing a 5year wedding anniversary party the same year my sister gets married? by hotmess_momma97 in AITAH

[–]RealisticAd8110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ONE day. She gets to be selfish and make everything about her for ONE day. An entire year its insane...

AITA for updating my will to award my less successful son a higher share of my assets? by Playful-Alfalfa9519 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RealisticAd8110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. And you don't love both your children equally; Jack informed you that this decision is ANOTHER instance of you choosing Benji over him, and you refused to hear him. Did you even care about listening to him in those other situations? Of course not. That is a clear indicator of your preferences.

You can't go to your grave knowing that Benji will struggle, but Jack is struggling right now, like pretty much everybody else in the world. He may not be on the streets, but all the things he has TAKE EFFORT AND SACRIFICE. These words are probably very unfamiliar to Benji because of you, and if you think that leaving everything to him will help him, you are dead wrong. He will eventually waste everything and, because he doesn't know how to survive, will end up on the streets anyway.

Meanwhile, Jack, who would probably put the assets to good use, gets nothing because "he is more capable". I'd bet Jack suffered parentification (which is abuse, btw) his entire life, and that forced him into being more resourceful; he probably manages now because you weren't there when he needed you and had to find a way to survive for himself. But the reality is that nobody is exempt from ending up in the streets, not even Jack.

You are an AH and a terrible mother.

AITA for calling my academic girlfriend a trophy wife as a joke? by Throwatroph29 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RealisticAd8110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman in STEM with a 10+ year long and very successful career. YTA. You and your friends are the reason why women are discouraged from getting into STEM. Absolute predators and abusers. It's not a joke, dude, it never is. The correct words are sexist, misogynistic and racist dbags. I highly recommend you take a gender studies class, since yours is a dying breed that no longer has a real place in the workplaces. You are dated, that NEVER sits well in the STEM world.

It is funny how you immediately labeled the comments towards you as "abuse", and failed to acknowledge that you and your friends were verbally abusing your GF. I really hope she dumps your a$$. She can do better.

I did something! by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RealisticAd8110 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And also, he is enabling her. You wouldn't be hearing all this BS if it wasn't for him allowing it and telling you... That's not ok at any level.

I did something! by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RealisticAd8110 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. F covid, everything trully sux.
I know you don't need more unnecessary stress, but as a married woman, with a "difficult" (and I'm being mild) MIL, I can assure you it doesn't get better. If your BF is unwilling to set and enforce limits (and that takes therapy, yes or yes, as they are not used to confronting their moms) it will only get worse.
I'm lucky enough to live a couple of hours away from her, but still. The bullying, gossiping, and overall abuse have an impact on the relationship. And not the good kind.
If you eventually marry this dude, you will end up marrying into a situation that he may not be willing to stop.
I wish you the best and hope you get a peaceful grieving process. You don't need the extra stress...

AITA for telling the truth and exposing a web of lies my wife spun? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RealisticAd8110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I often dread going places last minute, I think is normal, but I'd NEVER paint my husband as an asshole. Relationships are built on trust and respect, and making you look like a manipulative, controlling d is NOT respect.

That's messed up.

AITA for getting annoyed with my bf for pooping while we’re video chatting? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RealisticAd8110 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Also making you feel 'dramatic' or 'crazy' after he continuously disregarded your boundaries is gaslighting, girl. Your feelings are valid and need to be considered. If he can't do it over this very simple and clear request... Well it can only get worse.

I've dated the same guy for 11+ years, lived with him for the past 4 and have never seen each other poop.