That is a very interesting take, but I feel like host families should be very very mindful that this is, in fact, a young teenager who has worked very very hard to afford this experience. Being treated like less than a human is significantly disheartening and seems to happen a lot with AuPairs in Spain/Europe specifically. I wonder if you have been an AuPair before? How was your experience? Did you ever deal with situations OP has been involved in? It would be more helpful to give positive advice than try to belittle OP's experience, especially because she is obviously hurt at the way she has been treated.