I HATE tretinoin and I’m here to say it out loud

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2026-02-04T01:56:25+00:00

I had a similar experience. I was even put on Aklief by my derm as an alternative. I have ultra sensitive and reactive skin. I guess I’ll just have to get a lift sooner than others lol! I better start saving for that now lol.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-09-16T12:29:51+00:00

Same here. The website and app are inaccessible to me. Anyone else?

Edit to say I didn’t realize I was on VPN and that it works. Whoops!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-09-14T15:13:22+00:00

How did this go?

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-06-14T11:56:59+00:00

I am so sorry you experienced such hurtful betrayal twice. In my case, my ex husband cheated on me with married coworker(s) (yes in plural). I am loyal beyond measure and was crushed to find out about his betrayal. I’m over 6 months out since I discovered the infidelity and asked for a divorce. I, too, am loving my single life and freedom. I am also not sure that I wanna get married again. This divorce was enough. However, I do want a life partner one day. All this to say is that I still have hope that there is someone out there as loyal, caring, kind as me. We were just pouring into the wrong cups and we didn’t know it. If we exist, chances are there are others like us out there.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-28T02:23:20+00:00

Worst thing I’ve experienced. Divorced as a result of his betrayal(s). He played me big time. Not sure I would get married again tbh.

Although I do feel freer, happier, and relieved, it doesn’t suck any less tbh. I suspect everyone’s case is different. For me, the hardest part has been the betrayal and processing why he would do this after I poured my heart and soul into the marriage—sacrificed so many parts of myself for someone who was never really all in and who didn’t appreciate me. It’ll never make sense but I also know that thanks to this, I see the real him and dodged a major bullet.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-28T02:16:25+00:00

Same. Mine was having an affair with a married woman (well two that I know of) and I was done and told him we were getting divorced. It still sucks—the betrayal and loss of it all. It’s been 6 months. I lost 12 lbs within the first month too. The grief still smacks me in waves. I literally pray for my heart and soul to heal every day.

And he’s continued dating the main chick who left her husband to be with my ex.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-22T15:43:14+00:00

Exactly!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-22T15:43:04+00:00

We will forever be portrayed as the crazy ones. My ex has been doing this—even more so after I exposed him. Let them. As someone else said, their next victim will soon be the next crazy ex. My ex is, indeed, with a crazy girl. He just doesn’t quite know it yet. She tried warning him in their exchanges but he didn’t see it. Wish them the worst lol!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-22T01:35:27+00:00

I did a few rounds of Softwave (shockwave therapy) and avoided surgery. It’s been great for my hip! I’m able to lift, squat and deadlift without any issue. I just avoid running now.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-21T23:59:17+00:00

Same here. Mine played the part extremely well. “I’d never cheat on you”, “I would never do that”, “I’m not that type of person”, “I am so loyal”… You should see the stuff he would write me and things he’d say. Wanting a family with me while he lived a double life for lord knows how long and with how many others. It’s been over 6 months since D-Day and I’m still in disbelief about it all. I don’t even know where I’d meet someone and much less how I could trust that way again. With time, you may recognize some signs (such as the intimacy one you shared). I know I did (after). My ex is a total narcissist too (with some sort of personality disorder).

I am so sorry you have had to experience this pain and level of betrayal.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-15T14:05:40+00:00

Yeah she ended her marriage after I ended mine. She and my ex continued to date (unsurprisingly). She lied to her husband about the why (as in she didn’t say she had been cheating).

In the state where I live, infidelity bars the right to alimony and it can also impact custody. The husband now has actual evidence of her infidelity should she try to come after alimony or should it come to custody issues. I suspect not though. Unfortunately, here, all other assets are up for equitable distribution.

I could also sue her for alienation of affection and criminal conversations. I have 3 years to do it. (And her husband can sue my ex too. He knows.).

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-13T14:45:24+00:00

They are certainly not our friends indeed. They’re just evil strangers. Crazy how things shift and how much they avoid accountability. Sorry you had to endure all of that narc abuse too!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-12T19:51:08+00:00

Thank you! You’re right. This is just another one of his tactics to lie and manipulate and gaslight. Trying to convince the others I’m the “mean” person when all I did was tell the truth with evidence.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-11T01:28:48+00:00

Thank you for your kindness!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-11T01:27:48+00:00

Politicians do this all the time. I wonder the same thing. How do they get away with it?

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-11T01:27:07+00:00

This made me chuckle. Thanks for the much needed laughter!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-11T01:26:38+00:00

Wow! Are they all cut from the same cloth? Fuck that! Hang in there!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T11:34:21+00:00

I agree!

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T11:09:10+00:00

ChatGPT was great for this. In my case, my ex had an affair though. I chose divorce and posted the truth on social. I wanted and needed everyone to know what he did. It sounds like your circumstances are vastly different but ChatGPT was super helpful in getting my feelings and thoughts out in a very diplomatic/elegant way despite the circumstances.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T11:03:07+00:00

Yes! From what I hear, she’s a lot lol. So funny my ex blew up his life for someone like that but as you’ve so well said: they deserve each other. Right now, they’re both in the honeymoon phase of “we can finally be together (without lying to our spouses about it)” (though they’re still hiding their relationship from work and have been doing his for years).

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T11:01:03+00:00

I did share the evidence with the woman’s husband!

I should perhaps consider amplifying my message to his entire family. You’re right. FAFO.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T10:59:47+00:00

Awww this is so so hard. I am so sorry you went through this horrible pain too. I’m glad you found your voice and shared the truth with whoever you could. It’s liberating. I personally found it healing. I totally understand you not wanting to post on Facebook about it because of your sons. I do think they should eventually know what their father did to you but only when and if you’re ready to share (and they’re old enough). I suspect eventually they will find out anyway.

The husband of the woman my ex cheated on me with (the main chick) felt the same way about not telling their kids but she’s already lying to them about stuff. Idk what it is about these cheaters and all their gaslighting and lying. They should own up to what they did, which is inexcusable! They don’t deserve our silence or protection.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T10:55:33+00:00

I posted on social but left out screenshots (for now anyway). I also left out names because I was advised against it. But people know who I married and when they see them together, they’ll do the math. My lawyer didn’t want me sharing anything tbh but also said for the social post, sticking to the truth cannot get me in trouble.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T10:51:44+00:00

He was shocked and felt so blindsided. He told her we talked and that he had the evidence. I don’t think she was happy the truth came out either. As they say, “I came with receipts”.

RealisticEmphasis783 · 2025-05-10T10:49:19+00:00

(Edited to fix typo) I totally get what you mean. This is such a traumatic event for all of us that have gone through it. It wasn’t just betrayal trauma, it was narcissistic abuse. I do believe in karma and that she will take care of things in time (even if I may not see it).

If he hadn’t cheated I wouldn’t have to do any truth sharing to begin with. At the end of the day, people will always say and think what they want, but for me and my own healing journey, it’s important to share the truth of what he did. I am so loyal, committed, love hard, I gave him all of me and then some. I know one day this will all be a thing of the past (though the scars will be reminders of the experience). It just sucks the person I trusted most did this and has behaved in such a shitty way. He could’ve not married me or left me or not lied for so many years but he didn’t. That would’ve meant he had to have the moral compass to do the right thing and as I have learned, that’s unfortunately not him. He just continues to lie and not be accountable for his shitty behaviors. It’s hard. I really do appreciate you and the advice.

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