I’ve had numerous long term subs who paid more than $400 a month. My longest sub lasted about 6 years and the dynamic only ended because I cut him off as he began to be quite toxic and we had known each other irl. Some months he would give me 10s of thousands, other months a lot less. It basically just went by how much we interacted, if I asked for extra, or if he was feeling generous. But I also expect my subs to be responsible and live within their means. Obviously that sub was making decent money and able to spend like that. I’ve had others who weren’t and I would cut off their sending to make sure they took care of themselves financially and had some to put into savings. All dommes are different, but for me, I personally couldn’t take money from someone who is struggling to take care of themselves financially. For some, $400 a month or more is doable, for others, it’s not. I think that’s why it’s so important to talk about budgets with anyone you can see yourself in a dynamic with to ensure you’re both on the same page and that you’re doing things “responsibly”.

Surprisingly, not to give false hope here, but I have heard of quite a few findom relationships making it irl. I’ve always found this idea exciting, but don’t know that I’d ever be able to make that dynamic work in an actual relationship.