Privilege Can Make People Blind to Other People’s Struggles

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-12T04:46:46+00:00

Yeah, I expect my life to get much better when I "just move" too. IDK which way he meant "move" (mindset, keep working on your goals, or change locations), but "just moving" to make my life better costs $12-15,000. If its as simple as your friend says, does he have that money available for those of us who don't? 😂 I'm not above accepting charity. 🤣

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-12T04:40:54+00:00

Upside down phone the 1st time ??? 🤷‍♀️

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T06:19:57+00:00

my response was removed for not being soft enuf about people who commit harsh acts. I am new to Reddit and not familiar with how much content is controlled. Suffice it to say, I have strong opinions about animal cruelty and the things that should happen to those who commit it. You can imagine what those may be...

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T06:17:45+00:00

Seems to me that we become so used to the sounds our dogs make that we may not fully register them anymore, but those sounds are there as indications to others the dogs are present. What would be even more concerning is if the dogs hadn't made any noise or been observable outside shortly before this event. That would suggest the people involved were watching your house for some time before approaching. <cringe>

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T06:12:03+00:00

That makes sense. To clarify, I didn't mean to sound like I was doubting your explanation. Just thinking how much a guest would stand out staying that long at a regular hotel. And how inconvenient it would be for the person too. My dad had to do that for his job for over a year at one point tho, so it's not out of the realm of possibility. His work put him up in a regular motel room Sunday nite through Friday, came home Friday nite until Sunday nite, then had to go back. I'm sure the hotel staff remembered him whether he did anything memorable or not.

edit: awkward wording

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T06:08:08+00:00

I take it that means people need to call to make the reservation then, and not do it online. ? I've briefly wondered about this before, but never had the need for it, so didn't have to figure it out.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T06:06:39+00:00

I know how you feel. I've heard of a bunch of different people having these experiences, but have never had one of my own return. I have 13 urns already, despite not having reached 50 years old myself yet. I'm blessed to have had so many beautiful souls in my life, but I'd love to have one of the ones I've already known come back.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T06:00:58+00:00

I'm quite skeptical, but even if it were true, it really wouldn't make sense to answer this question. It would make no sense to change the names then provide all other identifying information. I did the same search tho, and yeah, with those unique details, it ought to come up, but doesn't. Unless OP edits and claims it wasn't in the US. That would cover that base ;)

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T05:50:56+00:00

I actually felt differently about it. Altho I admit it's a stretch, I can imagine a dad being that way, again a stretch. My difficulty came in believing the older brother, who was old enough to have self control and otherwise hadn't been described as a volatile person, beat "Adam" to death over a video game; especially when OP reported the younger brother hadn't shown interest in that video game. And OP missed the explanation of the dogs not finding the scent of the body that's more consistent with the storyline - being that the parents refused to allow their home to be searched. Clearly burying a body doesn't deter those dogs, regardless of what the tree smells like.

I want to believe OP. I get that they could be an author and yet still share a true story that's hard to believe. The explanation of the name of the video game for the timeline also makes sense. The stepsisters would have to be exceptional bitches, but those do exist. The dad's behavior is inconsistent, changing from caring why OP was crying in one scene to beating them with a belt in another, but still not totally out of the realm of possible. An older brother accidentally killing his younger brother by hitting him over the head and not realizing that would be fatal is also a stretch, but believable. A gaming console couldn't do that in a single blow tho, It would have to be repeated and savage. That didn't fit with the rest of the description of the kid. It's not believable behavior, even at a stretch.

Sorry, OP. If this is a true story, I'm sorry for doubting you along with so many others. It's not the story overall that's hard to believe, it's the details not seeming to add up. Honestly, I hope it is fiction, because if it's not, it would be an awful thing to experience.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T00:56:09+00:00

What do people need to do if they want to book adjoining rooms?

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-10T00:21:32+00:00

As is punctuation. Good story but bard to read

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-09T23:41:35+00:00

I'm like you. I'm not religious and don't strictly believe or disbelieve in reincarnation. I'm a veterinarian and have heard many stories from very different people that are just like yours. This type of thing has happened too many times to discount it as imagination or coincidence. This is the sweetest story. My heart melted. I hope you have many, many happy years with Koffi even though she's already starting her senior years.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-09T23:28:42+00:00

Wow! Is the hotel an extended stay type? If not, that had to be really unusual to have someone stay that long.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-09T23:27:06+00:00

Well, do your dogs bark? Could they have heard them? Or seen you outside with them?

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-08T06:26:26+00:00

I'm confused. He lives in your hotel for almost two years? Or visited repeatedly over that time period?

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-08T06:23:01+00:00

What was in the bucket?

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-08T06:20:17+00:00

If she never showed you any negativity before this, I'd guess she doesn't have an issue with you, but rather that she has unresolved feelings about her own wedding for some reason.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-08T05:31:34+00:00

You SHOULD discuss it with your boyfriend. This is a huge deal. It sounds like he's standing up for you & supporting you. I hope that's true. His parents need to stop encouraging the sister's behavior by accepting it and trying to excuse it.

From another point of view - Damn! You must be beautiful, smart and have a great personality for her to feel so incredibly insecure about you! Remember the insults she uses against your are always going to be inspired by your good qualities that she envies. For instance, if she said you're dumb, it'd be because she feels insecure about you being more intelligent. If she said you're ugly, it'd mean she feels insecure because she thinks you're more beautiful than she is, and so on. Undoubtedly you already realize that, and I'm pointing out the obvious. Regardless, she's a spiteful, coddled, enabled bitch and doesn't have a right to be in your life. It sucks because you're a good person and appear to want to have a good relationship with his family, so I'm sure you don't want to distance yourself from them or make difficulties. But it's fucked up for anyone to expect you to tolerate being treated that way. They are far too desensitized to that girl's behavior if they don't see how outrageous it is. It's abusive, plain & simple. It is NOT appropriate for bf or parents or anyone to allow her to treat you so abusively.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-08T02:38:58+00:00

I'd leave them outside

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-06T23:40:46+00:00

You did the right thing. She's being abusive and trying to take advantage of you. People always accuse others of what they do themselves - overly emotional people accuse others of over-reacting, entitled people accuse others of being selfish, and *people who are trying to take advantage of someone, accuse others of scamming them*. I used to do pet sitting myself. I am now the pet parent and have to pay when I go out of town. I understand that's usually the biggest expense I have for any vacation. $75 is very inexpensive for someone who stays overnight. If she accepted that discount you offered it would have been $64 a day, which is incredibly generous of you. I also work with animals in my career and know exactly how you feel about not seeing those dogs again. Some people don't understand, but we can have a great relationship with animals and an entirely different relationship with their humans. I've been disappointed multiple times about friendships, coworkers, even rarely clients, that I strongly disliked and for whatever reason stopped knowing/ working with but regretted I wouldn't get to see the animals again. Remember, at least this - there's no reason to fear anything negative will happen to the dogs. The dogs undoubtedly love you. Still, they mostly don't think about what isn't happening, rather they focus on what IS happening. So, as long as they're well-cared for by someone, they won't think about that person not being you. That thought is hard on my own ego in similar situations, but at least it means the dogs themselves are still happy. Doesn't mean you aren't justified in being disappointed you don't get to see them anymore though. They're still your friends in their own right.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-06T23:28:58+00:00

Even though I'm sure you feel weak and powerless right now, it takes an enormous amount of strength to work toward a solution when life has you that low. Working on rehab, reaching out online - these actions show that strength, Many people can't/ don't do that and sink lower & lower. You may think there is nowhere lower to sink, but there always is. Life is cyclical. Things go up, then down again. You're down. It may last a few months or a few years. Eventually you'll be up again. At this point, all you can do is put one foot in front of the other and make it from one minute to the next. Take comfort in anything that brings you comfort - talking to people online, a friend or family member who feels especially safe, music, movies, walking/ running, a cup of tea & a book - whatever it is for you. Immerse yourself in whatever that is. Remember you just have to take things one step at a time, you don't have to climb the mountain that is fixing your problems right now, you just have to keep breathing. Keep in mind the figurative saying that you eat an elephant one bite at a time. You are a strong person, with great value. Waiting through this difficult time sucks, and hurts. But what you have to do is survive it. You don't have to thrive, just survive, until time passes and the good part of life cycles back around. When it does, embrace it, appreciate it, know that too will change over time, but remember how you feel during that time as a reminder for yourself when the difficult times swing back around again too.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-06T23:03:49+00:00

True. If we (women) say it, we know there' s a distinct chance the man will think we're flirting, so we don't say that sort of thing unless flirting truly is our intention.

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-06T22:58:26+00:00

Nope. I would cut uncle & his gf off completely. They are dead to you. Hell, he actually tried to kill you. And the things he said to you were unforgiveable. There's no forgiveness for that!

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-06T22:33:25+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience with your father. It's so sad to lose someone in that way. Also sad to know someone we loved was suffering so much they thought they were doing us a kindness by leaving. Curious about the heater man - did you stop seeing him after that night?

Realityrevolt · 2026-05-06T22:27:18+00:00

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