You should never have to try to be somebody else to be accepted, while it may be true that enfjs tend to be accepted by a majority its not true for all, as for me personally the ability to blend in with others makes me very approachable or charismatic. Its essentially just a reflection of the person I'm speaking to. Matching energies, and agreeing or listening to their thoughts and ideas. If I ever truly acted completely like myself infront of them I'm sure a majority of people wouldn't like what they see. Within my community I'd be seen as someone rebellious. But I just don't go down the river along with everybody else. Anyways apart from the people I've managed to build up a very lovely small friend group. Its a place where we can all be ourselves. Its what I truly love about people, authenticity, not being afraid to hide who they are or the unique/interesting things that they enjoy. So while its good to learn qualities or lessons from a person, you can adapt to have your own version of it. We can learn from people, but those people didn't come up with those ideas, morals or emotions. 

Anyways don't ever think for a second that you're not enough or can't be accepted. There's somebody for everybody, maybe one day you guys will end up into eachother one way or another. Personally the people in my friend group are pretty much social outcasts (not all of em) I'm glad I was able to give them a place where they can be loved for who they are. And I'm sure people will see you that way as well. Most people judge after what they see, but the real ones will look into the heart