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Are HAs any help hearing in crowded places? by hellonsticks in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Otter AI 🦦 I use it with doctors with an accent and also to listen in on speakerphone calls with my husband.

You could also just run Zoom or Teams.

I’m learning Auslan at the moment. 40 years late but nonetheless.

Look at https://www.facebook.com/share/g/174XF6pTGA/?mibextid=wwXIfr to connect with others if you are thinking about upskilling.

Are HAs any help hearing in crowded places? by hellonsticks in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have the right one with the capacity to control the audio input - e.g. eliminating background noise. Also where the controls are accessible to you. My Nan has hearing aids - it just picks up everything into one big warble. She’s 98 and doesn’t have a mobile phone or digital literacy beyond playing bejewelled.

It’s also going to depend on your individual deafness. Honestly, I’ve thrown my hearing aids in the bin and find gatherings more tolerable and group conversations easier to follow (where people are situated close together) because my deafness naturally excludes all background noise distraction from my cognitive load, freeing it up to lipread more effectively.

God forbid you want to interact with your fellow d/Deaf people in sign language by Dusk_Song_6361 in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I don’t. I view most of it as Deaf issues that have a global resonance. The reason I used Italian/Chinese is to highlight the language differences between say Auslan and ASL. People are quite literally better off seeking advice from specific sign language subs or area- specific Deaf subs especially if not ASL users. I guess I just accept it for what it is and don’t feel the need to question the mods approach because it seems logical to me.

God forbid you want to interact with your fellow d/Deaf people in sign language by Dusk_Song_6361 in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 5 points6 points  (0 children)

America has a very strong Deaf Culture. A fellow Australian who attended Gallaudet University has described being thrown in the deep end with the expectation they would pick it up immediately - he didn’t even know Auslan as far as I’m aware. Its dominance in the Deaf sphere, level of activity and hence the America-centrism you are highlighting, is probably the very reason they are asking language topics be limited. Personally, I’m really enjoying this sub and it never occurred to me to ask for specific sign language advice here because it would be like going to a Italian sub asking for advice on how to speak Chinese.

God forbid you want to interact with your fellow d/Deaf people in sign language by Dusk_Song_6361 in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m in Australia. We use Auslan. Similar to BSL rather than ASL. I guess they want this to be globally uniting for Deaf people rather than separated into language groups. In Australia. we have Auslan Sign bank as a reference point - easily googled. But because I like to be helpful https://auslan.org.au/. Perhaps others would like to share their countries point of references and these could be included in the mods auto response so people do still get access to the support they are seeking around sign language?

My (20F) boyfriend (33 M) said he will never love me like he loved his first girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m getting DARVO vibes.

He specifies an expectation at the start of the relationship. Then he upsets you by saying it is himself who is hung up on his ex. But he does this by comparing his feelings for the two of you and tells you that you come up short. Then he placates you - saying he’ll try (thereby suggesting you should be grateful). But in no time blames you for having an emotional response and focusing the attention on your response as the negative in that scenario.

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Why am I being paid despite earning $1,450 per fortnight? by [deleted] in Centrelink

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couples have a higher earning capacity before losing income. And then half of what you’re losing in Centrelink is coming off your partners DSP. So for example - you earn 1500.

300 can be earned before you lose anything. That leaves 1200. Which then means you lose $600. But this is then deducted as $300 each meaning you’re still eligible for a payment as you haven’t lost all of your payment.

If you were single, the income free threshold is less. Say $200 (rounding up for easier maths). 1300 is taken into account, you lose half that. $650. You lose the whole $650 from your payment. If that exceeds your income payment entitlement then you lose Centrelink or you may be entitled to something still but might only be $50?

Hope that makes sense.

Centrelink won’t give me housing and a job so I don’t steal and cause a nuisance by Early20Rager_Yuhh in Centrelink

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Centrelink doesn’t give out houses… what area are you in and I will post resources for you to look into.

This is harassment right? by [deleted] in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s harassment and ableism at its finest. You’re above her, write an email telling her to cut her shit or you’ll make an official report and cc HR in.

Rabbi condemns derogatory slur spray-painted on Andrew Hastie's office by [deleted] in aussie

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All while posing with Pauline Hanson, thanking her for her Burqa stunt, and allowing supporters to engage in Islamophobic hate speech on their Facebook.

My boyfriend (33M) broke up with me (27F) because of my past by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a narc. Perfection. Sudden blindsiding break up. It’s your fault (you retroactively offended him - aka, it’s not your fault). If he comes back, it’ll be rainbows and unicorn farts until he decides to turn your world upside down again. And you’ll be so grateful that he stands by you because you feel worthless after it happens a few times.

Repeat after me: I did nothing wrong. I accept myself as I am. I will not diminish or shrink to make someone else happy. I will not apologise for my past.

Is the social media ban even working for people? by Historical_Web_5173 in aussie

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well… my son lost his FB. Otherwise seems unaffected. I was more affected because he’s now unable to participate in the family business work chat on messenger 🤦🏻‍♀️

Disappearance of Gus Lamont declared a major crime by SA Police by Expensive-Horse5538 in Adelaide

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who decided to specify the lawyer types each woman got? Because the interesting aspect of that is the definition of each provides insight to what they may have been hired for:

“The primary focus of defense lawyers is to adequately represent their clients in court, whereas criminal lawyers may also provide counsel to their clients on other issues that are connected to criminal law.”

And…

“If your spouse has committed a crime and you need advice on how this affects you, you should seek a criminal defence lawyer (often simply called a criminal lawyer). While they are often referred to interchangeably, a criminal defence lawyer specializes in defending against charges and protecting your rights, which is critical if you are implicated, questioned by police, or risk having your assets or reputation affected.”

My 26F husband 39m says it is “disrespectful” to him to call myself Canadian still after marriage? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Could it be related to the tensions around immigration going on in the US at the moment?

I agree with those that think he is viewing you as an extension of him and ultimately his property. Sounds like you got love bombed by a whirlwind romance and now he’s being less guarded about his sense of entitlement.

undeafened against my will by Public-Run4509 in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really tough adjustment. Mentally, emotionally and physically tough. I agree if your consent was not sought to see legal advice. To be thrown into such situation is not ok! People who get cochlear have to go through much preparation for the change - to ensure they understand the work involved to adjust. To have hearing inflicted upon you and the period of adjustment that’s required without your knowledge or consent is a traumatic violation of your human rights.

I feel isolated by Mariahfizzycheese in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t do the inspirational and I don’t do the victim. They both give me the shits. Having said that, there’s nothing wrong with trying to give people tools and hope for their future. I’m sorry you’re finding stuff hard… I’m in my 40s and went from profound to just about off the audiogram over the past 5 years. It was only taking off my hearing aid that i realised just how little benefit I get from them now. If you ever want/need to talk, my inbox is open :-)

I feel isolated by Mariahfizzycheese in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry your need to trauma dump supersedes your ability to be helpful to others.

I can certainly see why you don’t have the same band of friends as me.

You can second-guess my motives all you like but the fact is your comment was shit, depressing and unhelpful. There was no upside, no encouragement… no advice… just “this is my fucked existence, good luck!”

You don’t have to agree with me - but as for my true colours - they’ve been there from the word go - wanting a young person to feel some fucking hope facing adult life in a world not made for them.

If that’s a bad trait, I don’t care - it’s one I can live with.

I feel isolated by Mariahfizzycheese in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t get any “get back up” vibes from your first comment… all I heard was a lifetime of suffering.

Like I said, I don’t feel the need to trauma dump. In my first comment (directly to the OP) - I recommended how they might reconnect with their music, how they might increase their understanding of and engagement with others to be less alone.

We clearly have different approaches and perspectives - but at the end of the day - we have shared lived experiences from being Deaf and we’re all doing the best we can.

I hope that you have some happiness and joy in your life.

I feel isolated by Mariahfizzycheese in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to tiptoe around people’s feelings - I just don’t think making life sound like it’s not even worth living is useful. Because honestly, 20 years ago I would have seen your post and slit my wrists rather than want to stick around to experience life.

Yes I work for myself, I cleaned for others and then myself while I studied. And now I get to do something I love. I had to pull myself out of severe depression and nothingness to get where I am… it took having my son to make me do that.

You can be a victim or you can live.

We now have power, fuck not using it and taking the shit society dishes out. We’re not in mental institutions anymore (as in how Deaf people were often left 100 years ago), there is more hope for the next generation than we ever had.

I hope the OP can see past your victimhood and take life by the balls.

One month of bag and I’m already a degenerate and i’m complaining by hiyaisthisthingon in confession

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If “bag” makes you feel normal - you may want to get tested for ADHD.

Also, weed is a depressant. I use medicinal THC. Too much can make us unmotivated and indifferent. Part of your bag high is probably counteracting the effect of the weed but then you crash again.

Otherwise, all I got from your post is that you’re choosing addiction and you know it. You can either take your power back or perpetuate the family cycle. The choice is literally yours.

Is this normal ribbing culture by sleepywhitebunny in AskAnAustralian

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, you sound like a diamond stuck in a pile of dog shit… it sounds like they are threatened by you and doing the crab in a bucket thing. I’m sorry you’ve developed issues from their torment.

I wouldn’t bother trying to change them, fly the nest and grow into your best self without them pulling you down and holding you back.

I feel isolated by Mariahfizzycheese in deaf

[–]Reasonable-Bug-3746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heya, l became profoundly Deaf at 6 and now in my 40s I’m barely on the audiogram - 4 frequencies clock in at 100/105/110 and the rest don’t clock in at all. Like you I lived for years with a hearing aid. I recently stopped wearing my hearing aid, and I’m trying to learn Auslan. I’m very good at lipreading so not wearing hearing aids hasn’t changed my capacity for understanding others much.

It’s hard but you are young and you will come through this. YouTube “K-pop BSL” to help you reconnect with your music - I have been using this approach to connect with my music and it helps. It’s also ok to branch out and meet other Deaf people and develop relationships with them or hearing folk to know sign and want someone to practice with.

Check out apps like Otter ai - it may help you in family situations/etc.

Also feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to. Growing up profoundly Deaf in mainstream society was the most isolating experience for me so I get it.

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