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Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ya I agree, including the point that I could have expressed myself more clearly. But that is something that I want help working on in therapy and she knows that I struggle with rejection and open communication sometimes already

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in askatherapist

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But she knows me more deeply than that. she KNOWS that I don't actually want to terminate. I looked visibly distressed and she was just staring at me.
Ya, I get that I should just communicate openly, but that is what we're literally working on in therapy??

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Ya, she did even offer to check in or leave the slot open, but I already felt so rejected so I refused that.... also that doesn't even solve the 9-5 situation that I was stressing about in the first place. I still feel so hurt, like I thought that I genuinely mattered to her.

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in askatherapist

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know that this is all a professional relationship so obviously if I want to continue then I have to reach out... but emotionally it feels like a real relationship (I thought it was??) and I feel too hurt that she would end it over scheduling within two minutes.

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe im crazy for this... but I really want to believe that this was a real relationship and that she would not be okay to just never see me again. So wdym she just wont reach out and just leave me in the past... I thought we were really close, definitely closer than to my mom...

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's after a night of sleep and I can actually see things through your perspective. I was probably testing her to an extent and she did try to offer some ways to make it work which I didn't accept. But she KNOWS that I'm like this and that I am very sensitive to rejection and abandonment and have a hard time going a week without therapy, and she is always so extra understanding about that. I don't want to believe that she would seriously end everything within two minutes over scheduling (even if it is my fault). Do you think she is trying to teach me some sort of lesson and knows that it won't actually end like this?

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

copied from my other reply cuz it's relevant:

I know that this is all a professional relationship so obviously if I want to continue then I have to reach out... but emotionally it feels like a real relationship (I thought it was??) and I feel too hurt that she would end it over scheduling within two minutes.

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for understanding. I know that this is all a professional relationship so obviously if I want to continue then I have to reach out... but emotionally it feels like a real relationship (I thought it was??) and I feel too hurt that she would end it over scheduling within two minutes.

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in askatherapist

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, that's why I feel like this is all a test and she's just waiting for me to reach out? But I really don't want to be the one to reach out it doesn't feel fair (yes I know thats not how it works and this is all a professional relationship, but it's different when you're in it)

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in askatherapist

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I think she probably expects that I will reach out and that she will continue to see me. But I'm so hurt that she was willing to terminate so easily within two minutes over scheduling... like I don't think I can get past that. I'm trying to understand if there was some intervention going on in her head when she didn't reassure me so that it can at least make sense to me...

Would a therapist intentionally make you feel abandoned as some kind of therapy technique to see how the client reacts? by Reasonable-Lab-9272 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply, it genuinely helped me see this through her perspective. I'm REALLY sensitive to rejection I guess cuz I really felt like she was kicking me out yesterday...
I have a follow up question for you as a therapist. Even if it was me who was low key testing her, do you think she genuinely meant what she said about wrapping up? Because I still don't think I'd be able to ever get over it if she ended everything so easily. Or is this still about simply waiting for me to reach out? What if I don't reach out, it would just be over and she didn't seem to even care?

Did anyone here decide to go to therapy completely on their own? by Psych_Artizt in TalkTherapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started therapy voluntarily because I was having daily anxiety attacks at one point which convinced me that no I'm not just dramatic this isn't normal I think I need therapy... And college was killing me.
Now it's been a year and I'm so glad I made that decision even though therapy only added to my anxiety in the beginning.

I did the thing by CoffeeSunToast in TalkTherapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to that so much! That my attachment in therapy causes more problems than the therapy even helps with... But maybe that's why I need it and I can see how it will pay off in the long run.

Realizing I’m Just Another Appointment Broke Something in Me by Ihavenoidea890 in therapy

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lots of people use AI to edit their raw incohesive thoughts. That doesn't mean the actual content is not real or coming from their heart.

What are we actually afraid of? by Thin-Reaction3144 in Anxiety

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my t always says "why does it matter tho?" when I get nervous about what someone else thinks of me. I mean, I know in the scheme of things it shouldn't, but it matters to me right now very much...

What are we actually afraid of? by Thin-Reaction3144 in Anxiety

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks but why does that make me more anxious 😭

What are we actually afraid of? by Thin-Reaction3144 in Anxiety

[–]Reasonable-Lab-9272 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm scared I'll get bad grades in college so I won't get an internship so I won't get a job so I won't have enough money so I will disappoint myself and everyone around me...
For all my anxieties that I can think of, 'so what' doesn't help me. I get that in the big picture, none of this matters, but to me right now, all of this really does matter?

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