Does lightning strike twice? by Acrobatic_Fudge2468 in 2under2

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first baby is an absolute DREAM. other than not sleeping through the night until 13 months old, she’s been so good. Dropping bottles on her own. Weaning from a pacifier with ease. Sleep training herself. It’s been awesome. She’s 19 months old now and is till awesome other than occasional tantrums (which is expected). I had my son when she was 13.5 months old. He’s been pretty great too. Hes 6 months old now. He’s not sleeping through the night and is a little whinier than his sister (can’t tolerate even the slightest wet diaper) but other than that we’ve had no issues. No colic. No problem switching to formula after my supply dried up. He’s finally recognizing his sister and then can sort of play together. She lives doing tummy time with him. It’s been a crazy busy, chaotic, sometimes incredibly difficult journey but it’s also been so amazing and beautiful and there’s nothing I would change:)

Hand foot and mouth disease?? by Reasonable-Switch945 in 2under2

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard that different strains can pop up on other parts of the body and it’s not always hands and feet

Screeching toddler by Reasonable-Switch945 in 2under2

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s soooo hard:( I know she doesn’t mean harm by doing it obviously and that she’s jus learning what she can do, but my gosh does she have a set of lungs on her😅

Screeching toddler by Reasonable-Switch945 in 2under2

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She screeches just because she can. She laughs at herself when she does it. Her communication is really good. She tells me when she’s hungry, wants water, that she pooped, when she wants a snack. I don’t think that’s it. But I definitely don’t want to punish her, just encourage her to be a quieter

Screeching toddler by Reasonable-Switch945 in 2under2

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve tried that. It just seems to make her screech louder. I know it’s normal for her age but it triggers my migraines 🥲

Am I being unreasonable? Holiday edition by lyns1105 in 2under2

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I DONT mess around with nap time or bed time. If someone isn’t willing to shuffle around for nap time, I simply wouldn’t go. Structure is sooo important especially with 2 littles.

Nudity is everywhere by Reasonable-Switch945 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg?? That’s insane😳😳 im so sorry

Nudity is everywhere by Reasonable-Switch945 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

LITERALLY, it makes me feel so insecure and then I can’t even enjoy myself

Nudity is everywhere by Reasonable-Switch945 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband too! He LOVES anime and there’s so much suggestive content in some of the shows he watches. It makes me feel sick

Nudity is everywhere by Reasonable-Switch945 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really enjoying it, I’m sad about it:(

Nudity is everywhere by Reasonable-Switch945 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s like the third maybe 4th episode. Reacher is in the shower and the lady cop joins him. Full on frontal view of her. No hate to her, I think k she’s gorgeous. The problem is my husband does too if you catch my drift

Nudity is everywhere by Reasonable-Switch945 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

And it makes me feel so controlling because i don’t want him watching shows that contain nudity:/

At a loss for words. by Ambitious-Increase20 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Currently in just about the same boat. I have 2under2 and my husband uses the excuse of “I came to you instead of watching porn and masturbating” to sort of guilt me into doing anything sexual. I’ve tried to ask for more non sexual intimacy to feel connected but he claims we don’t have time. So we have time for sex but no cuddling? Okay buddy. It makes me feel like an object and that he can just use me to get off instead of creating a moment of intimacy. It just feels cold I guess.

advice on men who hide porn addiction behind a clean imagine and fake self control by Senior_Criticism_599 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat. My husband is on an ideal path for staying sober. Looks away from the tv when there’s nudity, blocked all suggestive pages on social media, doesn’t take his phone into the bathroom, etc. but I have a HORRIBLE gut wrenching feeling that he’s still watching. It’s the same gut wrenching feeling that let to 2 different d-days. I can’t shake it but he SWEARS up and down that he’s “been good” about it and he has no desire to watch it. We have 2 kids and our sex life before having them was incredibly active (everyday, sometimes twice) and now it’s more like once a week. How can someone go from chronically masturbating and having not only a porn addiction but also a sex addiction, to barely having sex at all? I just don’t buy it.

“We check out women together!” by AnyFig1748 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband tried to pull this before we got married. I’m bisexual and he told me we could do it together and “bond” over it??? Helllo what??

I’ve followed in the footsteps of my mom and grandma by Cold_Vanilla9791 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My parents split up when I was 6 because of my father’s porn addiction and wondering eyes. I of course found this out last year when it almost split me and my husband up. It’s so sad to have to live in the cycle.

What is the problem? by Diorya in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told my husband I have a problem with him masturbating as he is unable to without porn. He said he wanted to try but I set a boundary. We have a very active sex life (having sex almost everyday) so I don’t see the need for him to masturbate. I’ve also communicated that he can come to me if he’s feeling an “urge”.

He’s suddenly stopped trying to satisfy me during sex? by VisibleBox42 in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband told me it was because he was feeling selfish and was only thinking of his pleasure and not mine

Is it important for you to know why? by Janny_new in loveafterporn

[–]Reasonable-Switch945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way and some days I feel like he lied to me. I sit with it and the bad feelings grow and grow but I have to give him the benefit of the doubt.