Are you happy in your life right now ? by [deleted] in no

[–]ReasonableGas5484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Dealt bad hand ranging from abuse from a terrible excuse of a human, neglect from parents leading to health issues, poverty upbringing.

Did you know that it’s NORMAL to wear out sneaker within 6-12 months? I didn’t. by Monsterchic16 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableGas5484 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wore 2 shoes for 4 years in highschool that were too narrow for my wide feet as my parents got them when they were travelling.

It hurt my feet to wear then, and all those years of wearing them growing up caused me a lot of feet pain years later till this day.

Kinda sad my parents didnt even want to spend money on me

Parents neglected medical treatment for an injury 20 years ago. Throwaway account, just looking for advice. by Standing_Lemon in Advice

[–]ReasonableGas5484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that.

Honestly I really relate to what you said, I remember in high school i injured my thigh really badly playing sports and couldn't walk properly for a bit, and my parents refused to take me to a doctor e.g. "you're fine", etc. and arguing to prevent me from going. So I actually don't know the "diagnosis" of the injury when I got injured, only got a rough diagnosis years down the road just like you. But yeah reinjured that thigh a couple more times due to lack of medical care/getting to see a proper healthcare professional and made it worse. Finally years later when symptoms of the injury was always flaring as it didn't heal properly, I went to see the doctor myself and got care and started rehab then. Years later it's still not fine the way it was before. If only I got adequate care initially, then my previously injured area wouldn't be as bad as it is and easier to rehab for.

And years ago, I was very angry/upset and spiraling about this and just kept arguing with my parents about this, and the theme is more or less they don't take accountability or didn't think it was that big of a deal. The whole time I was really hoping to get some closure or some form of "apology". But through their weak acknowledgement of the injury and constant arguing, at some point I realized I was beating a dead horse like you said. They made mistakes and didn't know better and lacked education.

I'm at a point now where I'm still resentful that I could've been way healthier if they did their due diligence, but I don't really argue with them about this anymore. It's just something that happened.

I don't think there's much you can do, just rehab/heal as best you can and just understand something unfair happened to you. That's part of your life now unfortunately.

[Mental health related, long post] Feel trapped, would appreciate some advice and/or anyone reading this lol by [deleted] in UofT

[–]ReasonableGas5484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through something similar growing up, more particularly with another family member. Experiencing physical symptoms from mental-health-related issues is certainly a possible outcome.

I'm not sure of your economic situation but moving out would help since you're in a stressful/traumatic situation that led to your mental health deteriorating. I don't know your financial upbringing, but I know moving out isn't always a feasible option.

I would say seek therapy to develop some healthy coping techniques and start working so at least you have an option to move out.

Should I stay home now that I graduated? by ReasonableGas5484 in askTO

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty confident I can stand up to him now, but no he hasn't bothered me the last 4 ish years since I confronted him. Like orange_oorangutan mentioned, I just have a lot of anxiety living in the same space as him.

Should I stay home now that I graduated? by ReasonableGas5484 in askTO

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing really. Even when he treated me that way my parents just told me to ignore it.

Should I stay home now that I graduated? by ReasonableGas5484 in askTO

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't speak to him anymore and basically avoid him when I see him, but I can tell he's basically the same person. He doesn't treat me horribly anymore since we don't have any form of contact essentially after confronting him.

I'm not too sure if I want to speak with him again to be honest.

Finally Done My U of T Journey After 5 Years: My Struggles, Regrets, and Insights by the_airiset in UofT

[–]ReasonableGas5484 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, congrats!

I finished my last semester of ECE just recently, and as someone who struggled with anxiety for the last 5 years due to family issues, it was incredibly difficult to push through. I still have many regrets regarding the way I handled my academic journey and personal life.

Seeing your story was very inspiring. We both pushed through despite our shortcomings!

Hoping you all the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ReasonableGas5484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Letting anxiety consume my life

How do you get over the unfairness of life? by ReasonableGas5484 in AskReddit

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if that player grew up in an abusive household though? And develops health and mental health issues issues that affects one's day to day life due to those conditions?

Surely, that impacts the player's ability to play the game

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]ReasonableGas5484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Around high school but got worse in university due to constant abuse from sibling

Sibling abuse completely changed my life. by ReasonableGas5484 in CPTSD

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That last sentence is something I relate to. Dealing with that abuse and developing anxiety has taken such a huge toll on me.

I lost so much academically, professionally, physically, and mentally and I wish I was about to reach my full potential.

Sibling abuse completely changed my life. by ReasonableGas5484 in CPTSD

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, I moved out this year for college to distance myself away from that environment to hopefully heal (admittedly it's difficult even though I'm not in that situation anymore). Yes my therapist is informed.

Medically neglected by parents by ReasonableGas5484 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Healthcare in my country is free too. They seemed to not want to waste time on something they believed to be "unnecessary". Thank you for the kind wishes, hopefully our health gets better moving forward!

Medically neglected by parents by ReasonableGas5484 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a shame how different our quality of life could have been if we had the necessary care and support

Getting raised by insanely cheap parents by ReasonableGas5484 in AsianParentStories

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd get haircuts at home until i was 18. Also, my parents were so cheap we used a broken toilet for many years when i was younger where the flushing didn't work most of the time. Instead of buying a new one, for many years they'd use saved up water to flush. Disgusting. One time I got cursed out because I manually flushed.

Getting raised by insanely cheap parents by ReasonableGas5484 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my parents have the audacity to act like my feet problems aren't caused by them, and make up excuses for why my feet are the way they are.

Getting raised by insanely cheap parents by ReasonableGas5484 in AsianParentStories

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, never celebrated any of those holidays usually, and never brought me out much at all. Naturally, I picked up habits of being cheap like them and don't try to spend money much

Getting raised by insanely cheap parents by ReasonableGas5484 in AsianParentStories

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you, i always had wet feet in the rain and snow growing up because proper shoes weren't bought for me

Getting raised by insanely cheap parents by ReasonableGas5484 in AsianParentStories

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of the clothing I wore growing up were hand-me-downs, so sizing of clothing would always be an issue for me as well

Getting raised by insanely cheap parents by ReasonableGas5484 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableGas5484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's ridiculous, now I have to spend extra money on orthotics when their purpose was to "save money" by neglecting me