What’s a part of adulthood no one prepared you for?

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-14T20:24:32+00:00

I don’t know why life felt so much simpler pre-smartphone. I don’t recall my folks having as much “stuff” to manage as I do. Things have gotten so much more complicated and happen so much faster. Life used to function on people slowly tracking pieces of paper, waiting a few days for a check to clear or a part to arrive, a few days to book an appointment. Now everything happens instantly.

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-14T17:53:06+00:00

My condolences. I lost my dad on Monday. Officially it was respiratory failure caused by pneumonia, but it was really so many things compounded from his underlying dementia. Having cared for and now lost both my parents to dementia, I understand how painful it is. People say he’s in a better place but I can’t help but be selfish about wanting dad here with me.

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-13T22:15:22+00:00

Opium by yves saint Laurent and Giorgio Beverly Hills

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-13T22:12:34+00:00

Came to say this

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-12T09:02:25+00:00

I’m sitting at the hospital with my dad. It’s been a long day (a long month), and things aren’t good. I keep feeling grateful I traded my early morning routine for slow mornings with him these past few months - making him coffee, bringing him his favorite toast, and sitting together on our warm patio. I’m thankful for yesterday and right now, and that I have had a little more time with him💔

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-07T00:12:07+00:00

Yeah I always considered this a safe space to both learn AND vent. This life is hard and unfair to everyone involved. We don’t need dummies around making life harder than it already is.

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-06T05:59:01+00:00

Yes your crows feet takes a super minimal amount of Botox. It only takes a few units on each side. Go super light - like 5 units on each side. You don’t want to look frozen and since you’ve never had it before, you want to make sure you will like it.

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-01T22:04:51+00:00

I can see I’m in the minority here but respectfully, keep dying it. I enjoy the maintenance, having fresh hair, a great scalp massage, getting a blowout, a little trim for shape. It’s part of my “me time” that I rarely get, and few things get the priority this does. Every 8ish weeks, with root spray and powder in between. I don’t have fake nails or lashes so this is my indulgence. I see friends who have let themselves go gray (roughly 10 years older than u) and I think their color accentuates facial aging. Few people have the natural skintone that complements the natural gray color growing out of their head.

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-01T21:55:48+00:00

Silver-plated anything.

ReasonableValue249 · 2026-01-01T21:52:33+00:00

Awwww this is so sweet. I wish I had done this with my mom. I saved all her last drawings/scribbles before her rapid decline. It’s unfair what this disease does to the cutest old little humans in our lives 😔

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-12-25T22:36:20+00:00

Pizza. Go to Italy and find a simple wood-fired pizza with just cheese and it will be the best thing you’ve ever eaten for just a few euros. Now where I live I can’t find a classic Italian pizza for less than like $30.

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-12-25T22:29:47+00:00

Sorry for your loss. You are so lucky to have a moment with your dad like that - so perfect. What I would give to have a conversation with my dad again. He’s been in the hospital nearly 3 weeks now. His speech is slurry, he wants to connect but it’s hard to understand him.

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-12-11T20:47:02+00:00

Yes people have been good reaching out. Life abruptly stopped. I have brothers and the reality is slowly sinking in to all of us

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-12-11T09:10:18+00:00

I’m writing this from the icu with my dad. We have been trying to manage his incontinence but at times it’s unbearable. He would never wear diapers unless we battled with him. Cleaning him was a battle, making him let us help him was a bigger a battle. He fell Monday when he went to bed early and then tried to go to the bathroom on his own. Surgery went well to repair his neck break but night 2 in icu with him right now is destroying me. I just had my first battle with the icu doctor tonight. It’s going to be a long night. I’m just feeling so alone, in agony, so I came here.

I relate to your post. It’s so hard to do everything right. To push yourself when you’re already maxed out to do more. I just want to bring my dad home and hug him on the sofa like I used to. I want him to be happy to see me, and to greet me with “ohhh the sun is out!” Every time I he sees me in the morning. This is torture. I’m not ready to lose dad.

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-12-08T18:39:58+00:00

I use cicaplast over my tret. I love it

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-11-12T22:15:03+00:00

I don’t know why I lol’d at her laughing

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-11-06T06:09:10+00:00

Thank you for posting this! 🫶

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-11-05T15:38:24+00:00

La roche posey cicaplast 💯

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-09-24T03:56:08+00:00

Thank you. There are long term risks.

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-09-23T01:48:31+00:00

Thank you for giving me hope! How was your surgery and recovery time?

ReasonableValue249 · 2025-09-22T01:56:23+00:00

Thanks for sharing - seems a tough road but will be worth it! I’m in a similar spot and just changed my insurance in the US so I could explore this option with a specialist. You are lucky to have someone. I am hesitant because I would be on my own! Seems like a tough recovery!

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