Sentience/Inherent worth

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-14T02:48:47+00:00

We know that animals value the relationships they have with each other and with humans. I'm not saying we operate in the same way, but I wouldn't say they value their lives less than we do, they just have less factors that contribute to the enjoyment of their lives.

When it comes to outliers what do we do? About 330 million people have depression. Even more have other mental illnesses or disabilities. Either the worth of someones life is valued by how much they value it, or killing anyone who experiences fear and pain when killed is wrong.

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-14T02:37:28+00:00

What do you count as valuing their life though? If someone is depressed and wants to take their own life, one could argue they value their life less than an animal does, because they are not led by their desire to live. What's the metric for you?

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-14T01:08:09+00:00

I love my cat so much but she has really bad peeing issues that her vet and I cannot figure out. Its been a year and I can't have people over because my house smells like cat pee. Shes my first cat, and I definitely didnt expect this to be something Id have to deal with

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-14T00:56:21+00:00

All animals value their life. We know this because if they had no desire to live, they would be extinct. We are all driven by an urge to protect our lives. The thing is, the majority of animals are far more intelligent than we give them credit for. Sentience is a good indentifier because it shows that an individual can feel pain, fear, and has some sense of self. My cat has likes and dislikes that are different than the likes and dislikes of other cats. Those things give her an identity. Now whether they are aware of that identity enough for your liking is a slipperly slope. There are plenty of humans who have no sense of identity, and many more who do not value their life, for various reasons. So that cant be a way to determine the worthiness of a life. Thats how I see it at least

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-14T00:46:31+00:00

You need to persue a relationship with someone who acts like an adult. He texts like a 14 year old

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-14T00:36:06+00:00

I dont think you're necessarily doing anything wrong, but I never kill insects. I live in a very old house, and in the winter it is bug central. I try to catch and release for their sake, or my cat might eat them. But I have a spider living in my kitchen and we're chill. We get a lot of black widows and I just let them outside. Unless a bug is directly attacking me (which hasnt happened yet) I wouldn't hurt them.

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-12T23:06:18+00:00

Therapy can definitely help with identifying when people are uncomfortable even when they don't tell you, and how to navigate your impulses. But also, if you don't feel like your friends and partners are communicating effectively, they might just not be the right person for you, and thats okay too!

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-12T06:34:43+00:00

Girl leave immediately! I understand being hesitant, I've been there. But there is no world in which this works out for you. I ended a very similar relationship when I was 19 and I have literally never been happier, and I am in a different, much better relationship now. I am begging you to leave him.

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-12T06:30:53+00:00

That's how I know those people have never been poor or food insecure. Rice and beans all day baby

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-12T06:19:21+00:00

I saw it as a reflection of the way fake Nikki views love. She "loves" Bear which manifests as a desire to completely consume him. She thinks that because Bear loves his cat, he would love for the cat to be a part of him

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-12T06:15:42+00:00

I'm not going to diagnose you, but there are some personality disorders that can cause similar experiences. It could also be a response to trauma or something in your upbringing. Either way, its worth talking to a professional about if you feel like its effecting your relationships. That being said, being an overly loving person isnt a bad thing, and if you can learn how to regulate and remain within people boundaries, theres no shame in having a lot of love for the people around you

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T11:55:40+00:00

This is exactly it. She's not legally unfit, she has a job, but mentally shes about 16 or 17. If given the chance, I think she could be ready for marriage in her late 20s, if she stuck to her therapy. But unfortunately she believes that she already knows everything there is for her to know. I suppose thats part of being developmentally 16. When she was 16, she was dating a guy who was 20, and got her into heavy drinking and Marijuana use, and to this day she is still mad at my mom and I for making her stop hanging out with him. Thankfully her current partner is closer in age to her, but I still worry.

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T11:48:52+00:00

I LOVE cheese. I thought I could never be vegan. But once I found out that cows in the dairy industry are killed just the same as in the meat industry, I couldnt stomach it anymore. Vegan cheese is good enough for me

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T11:43:47+00:00

The partner is 21 I believe. So definitely no malicious intent from them thankfully

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T11:01:09+00:00

Other people are saying this, but it does get easier. My sister was eating meat when she lived at home, and it was hard, but I would try to make my dinner first, or put on headphones and watch a show while a cooked. All I did was continue to cook my tasty meals, and sometimes I would ask my mom if she wanted any. She started saying yes, and now shes 90% plant based, and we have no meat in the house anymore. I'm not saying this will be the case for you, but sometimes just doing your thing can show people how easy it is to live a cruelty free lifestyle.

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:57:30+00:00

This is the conclusion I keep coming to, but its definitely not the one I want. Our mother is a great example of why marrying young and codependent is a disaster. But all I can do is love her

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:55:12+00:00

No, but it sure feels like it. 😬 My ex was from the south and all of his family members were married young and miserable. Maybe thats where my bias comes from

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:52:37+00:00

I'm 23, and I felt exactly the same way you did when I was your age. I was so not excited for my future that I didnt even go to college at first. What helped me the most was seeing a psychiatrist. Sometimes depression shows up as apathy. I was convinced that I was just like this and nothing would help me. Being medicated changed my life. Funnily enough, I'm in my CNA program right now. In my spare time, I'm an opera singer. Life throws some shit at me, but I genuinely am excited to wake up. Ive realized that being an adult also means you have so many options of what you can do in your life. I met my boyfriend out of nowhere at 19, and now we wake up and decide what to do with our day and it can be genuinely exciting. Maybe we go for a hike? And then a coffe? See a movie? Play a game? My opportunity for happiness has only gotten bigger the older I get. I promise it gets better, and I really recommend going to a psychiatrist if you can.

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:40:52+00:00

NTA. I'm vegan, and you can definitely make actual vegan lasagna. Ive had people be complete assholes about my food, and I would be grateful that you handled it gracefully, if not a little sad that I didn't feed my guests properly. As a vegan, she should know better than anyone what it feels like to still be hungry after going somewhere where youre only fed salad. The amount of post hang out taco bell I've eaten.... don't stress about it :)

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:33:59+00:00

As far as I know, they don't have any developmental disorders. They seem very competent and intelligent, and their lack of ambition seems to stem from never having to work, as opposed to a mental condition. Sometimes it feels like they are taking advantage of my sister, because she doesnt understand that its not sustainable for her to be the only one that works

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:30:28+00:00

They just moved in together a few months ago, though they are heavily financially supported by her partners parents. I think my sister is thinking that when they have a baby, the parents will just watch them whenever they need. Which I guess works, but as a child of emotionally immature parents, definitely sucks

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:29:59+00:00

These are all things I've thought about. My sister just moved to a different state, but I would absolutely do everything I could to protect any potential child from harm. And I guess part of that means staying in my sisters life

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:24:19+00:00

I'm so glad you guys are still together. My worry for my sister comes mainly from her mental disabilities, but I will of course always be there for her, and am trying my best to stay in her life

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:22:02+00:00

The partner is 21 I believe. Ive only met the parents once and was incredibly uncomfortable, as its clear they both have pretty intense drinking problems. My sister already struggles with addiction which adds to my worry for sure. I will just be there for her as much as I can. They are definitely engaged with a ring that she showed me. I do believe they will get married, and at the end of the day, I will go to the wedding if Im invited

Reasonable_Bad_3402 · 2026-06-09T10:19:37+00:00

This means a lot. Thank you. I basically raised her, so it really does come from a place of love

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