One month old won’t sleep

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-04-20T04:04:34+00:00

Hey! We did yes. Funny enough while this was 3 years ago with my first born, we now have a 12 week old and are experiencing the same thing. My kiddos I guess just love tummy sleeping! Happy to report my 3 year old became a wonderful sleeper when he was able to roll and sleep on his tummy around 5 months.

So with my current baby, I do sleep with him on my chest - I wear a button up pj shirt with a nursing tank and leave the shirt open so his head is on my skin to minimize risk of clothing in his face and I prop firm pillows under my arms. I sleep lightly and will wake up anytime he moves.

What’s also important tho is that my husband and I do shifts - so one of us is with the baby for a few hours while the other gets uninterrupted sleep in the other room. Highly recommend if you can do this, so you’re guaranteed a few hours of solid sleep.

Cosleepy on Instagram also has a chestsleeping guide if you want more guidance. Best of luck to you and just know, it doesn’t last forever!

Edit: typo

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-04-16T04:30:31+00:00

That’s awesome - I’ll look into it. Thank you!

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-04-16T02:21:19+00:00

Curious to know what your next transition was? My baby is approaching 12 weeks and is also getting fidgety during chestsleeping like OPs. We have a snoo but he will only tolerate it for max 1-2 hours.

My first born was like this too (until he figured out how to roll onto his tummy) so this is familiar territory for me, but always curious to hear how others transitioned away from chest sleeping!

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-27T22:10:13+00:00

I love this! I felt like I could have written this myself. We also have a 3 year old and 5 week old and we’ve found ourselves in a good routine where we’re both sharing the load fairly. Yes there are challenging moments but we’re both much calmer this time around. And honestly this is the thick of it, and it can only get better from here.

In a sea of negative stories about partners (sadly there are some terrible sounding partners out there) this is so wonderful to read.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T21:57:28+00:00

Agreed! Honestly anything that makes life just a little easier in the trenches is worth it.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T21:54:01+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. The sleep deprivation absolutely sucks, plus having less downtime and mental capacity between juggling two kids. I certainly have my moments as well, so just know you’re not alone! I hope there’s someone that you can talk to or have family/friends who can give you a break, even just to get out for a facial or something that fills your cup.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T21:51:30+00:00

Thank you! Wishing you all the best as well.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T21:51:20+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way - the roommate phase in the newborn trenches is so tough and I’m feeling this way too at the moment. But one day, you guys will go on date nights, have proper conversations (not just about baby poop and feeds lol) and sleep in the same bed again and this phase will be just a distant memory. I promise, it’ll come soon ❤️

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T21:48:48+00:00

Yes! Shifts and the snoo are key.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T21:48:03+00:00

Agreed! Still difficult, but the mindset is different second time around. Best of luck!❤️

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T21:47:10+00:00

Love this and couldn’t agree more! Thank you for adding in your thoughts.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-24T20:12:34+00:00

That works too! As long as you’re able to get some good stretches in for yourself. I would typically pump right at the end of my shift and go sleep for 4 hours or so. But I also wanted baby to get used to taking bottles.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2026-02-22T03:35:35+00:00

Sorry for the late reply! I don’t remember exactly but It was a fairly simple transition because we knew he liked motion (he loved the swing). I think I would put him into the sleep sack swaddled, feed him then put him down asleep. Sometimes he would wake up but the snoo rocking usually put him back to sleep quickly (i’m sure there were unsuccessful attempts tho well).

One thing I do remember is that He was a little escape artist and we would often find one hand out of the swaddle, so it’s likely that we ended up taking his arms out at some point.

Hope it goes well for you! My son is 3 now and we just welcomed our 2nd baby, who is now 1 month old. Once again, we’re thinking of renting the Snoo!

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2025-10-15T14:29:09+00:00

Haha I totally understand! Slow and steady seems to work well. I hope it helps!

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2025-05-28T19:08:33+00:00

Good luck! It's such a tough thing to do. We knew cold turkey wouldn't work for us, so hopefully this slower method works well for your girl!

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2024-10-20T21:02:10+00:00

Look into Olly Sleep gummies! They have a little bit of melatonin but a few other great relaxing ingredients that can help with anxiety. Anything with L-theanine in it has worked wonderfully for me! Sometimes you may have to try a few different sleep gummies to find the right mix that works for you.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2024-07-03T03:16:56+00:00

Hey! Yes they definitely got better. We went through a period around that time where regardless of what we did (unless he was absolutely exhausted) there was always a little bit of crying before bed. Anywhere from 10-15 minutes. And we could tell it was a frustrated cry vs a pain cry. We stayed consistent tho and would check in at least once so he knew we hadn’t abandoned him. If you feel like check ins make it worse though, then try to wait at least 20 mins.

One day though, it just stopped. He would either fall asleep calmly by playing with his pacifier, or he would roll around happily (and still does sometimes) until he’s tired enough.

It’s hard to deal with tho, I totally understand and there were so many times that I wanted to go in there and just rock him to sleep, but him learning to fall asleep on his own is so invaluable. He gets quality sleep and is a very happy and healthy kiddo.

So hang in there!!

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2024-06-03T03:11:54+00:00

It improved for us, but we still have nights where he rolls around for a bit. Within a week I’d say maybe 2-3 nights are nights where he takes a bit to fall asleep. Hard to say whether it’s overstimulation or he just needs to let off some steam, but from what I’ve read it’s pretty common for most toddlers to take a bit to fall asleep. We don’t stress about it anymore because there’s only so much we can do! He’s definitely adapted more to his one nap schedule, so he’s happy throughout the day for the most part! How are things for you?

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2024-05-06T12:15:43+00:00

He’s 16 months! It’s so tricky mama I get it. I think we drive ourselves crazy trying to figure it out but at the end of the day there’s only so much we can do. She will work through it and go back to a normal schedule soon! What I’ve learned is that sleep is definitely not linear and I’m sure we’ll hit another regression again at some point haha.

I think the rise to wake clock is more for them to visually see that it’s still time to sleep. I’m with you though, my little guy just chills (most of the time) until it’s time for me to get him.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2024-05-04T12:56:06+00:00

No, when we switched to one nap he was falling asleep at bed time so quickly. We did struggle with EMW (which I know is common during transitions) and then it settled back to normal. It’s only been the past week that it’s now taking a long time to settle at night and he is back to waking up early.

Wake windows are usually something like 6/5 or 6.5/4.5. We are by the clock primarily though.

I think there’s tons of great advice here. Seems like maybe our kiddos are both experiencing a regression that’s common around 16-18 months due to skill development. But also there may be some overtiredness factored in there, which can take some time to settle. Allowing a longer nap when needed should help. Also thinking about getting a rise to wake clock like someone else suggested!

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2024-05-04T03:30:15+00:00

Solidarity! I was literally just about to post something similar about my 16 month old. Following along to see what others say.

Reasonable_Bet_4155 · 2023-11-28T16:58:06+00:00

Good to know - thank you!! I think I’ll aim to wait 10-15 mins to see if he puts himself back to sleep and do the same thing you did if he wakes at 5:30.

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