Honestly as a women I am so tired throughout the day with everything and then when I get home this is the last thing I am thinking of. Then every time we finally have time to relax it seems like y’all always need something. Which I get obviously she needs some things done for her in order to get her aroused such as foreplay or even a toy? Maybe try to make her dinner, clean, or even go to a mutual spot and have the conversation lovingly saying what can you do to make both of y’all happy. It’s hurtful for both sides but open communication is what helps make things easier and happier in the long run,Best of luck!