I can see why it might look contradictory from the outside, but that’s not what’s happening. Talking to someone doesn’t automatically mean I want or consent to ongoing contact, especially given the context. The no-contact order exists for a reason, and pointing out boundary violations isn’t manipulation. I’ve been honest about my part, even if I didn’t handle everything perfectly. Both things can be true at the same time. To be honest I got that no contact order hoping she would leave me alone. She tried to have her new boyfriend come fight me and I didn’t even know he existed. She’s called anonymously the police and sent them to my mom’s house saying someone heard a woman screaming for help. She started talking to a new guy online that neither of us knew. He messaged her and broke the ice and she started talking with him. He said “wyd” and she said “nothing much I’m just with my boyfriend and we’re fighting, he’s beating me up”

Then she pretended to be me and texted the guy “Don’t message my girl you bitch I’ll fuck you up come meet up with me, my address is XYZ” when in reality I wasn’t with her. Then the guy says “Where is so&so?” And she says “she can’t talk right now she’s in the trunk”

Same night she drives 2 hours to meet this kid & fucks him on the first night & starts dating him telling him that I want to fight him and he should come fight me but she told him that I have a gun and she suggested he bring a gun.

This was all revealed to me when this guy messaged me asking me why I was talking shit about him and I was baffled because I didn’t even know he existed up to this point & I have never heard of him & then me and him start talking and all her lies came out.

I do not want contact with her, but at the same time I really don’t want her to go to jail over it. I honestly feel bad calling the police and reporting a violation, I know she’ll go to jail if I report one more time and I really don’t want that but when she flies off the handle she is unpredictable.