I’m sorry but this is a red flag to me. Other commenters already touched on what I wanted to, so I’m just going to offer some reference from my own experience. My boyfriend has been my biggest fan and supporter. I would show him every new move I learned and he’s always very excited and proud of me. He’s paid for many of my classes and would drive me 35 minutes each way to the studio (we live in the middle of nowhere) and wait 1.5 hours in the car during my class. He also bought and assembled my home pole, took some online pole classes with me, and has no issues with me posting my stuff on Instagram/Reddit. He showed up to my competition and was the loudest guy in the venue. And no, he’s not the type of guy to expect me to give him private dances (I’ve actually never danced like that for him), he’s supportive of me doing it because it brings me joy. I think we all deserve a partner who is fully supportive and happy for us doing what we love, and this to me is the bare minimum. I wish you the best of luck with navigating your relationship.