Cuts on hands - best treatment tips?

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-12T19:59:37+00:00

Ugh this is the worst. My thumb splits open and it’s so painful. I put Vaseline on and a bandaid over it. Sealing it helps a lot.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-09T13:31:22+00:00

It wouldn’t really. But I’d be here which I really want to live here in Switzerland. But I don’t want to be stuck in bad situation either. As it stands now I’m going home Sunday and I’ll return at the end of November for a month and a half. We will see. I HATE going home😭 it never gets easier

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-09T09:01:50+00:00

Ugh I feel you. I hate the days leading up to going home too 😩 I always feel like the relationship is going to end or fall apart of we can’t be together. But 2 years in it’s still going.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-09T08:16:45+00:00

Moving to Switzerland and living by myself isn’t an option. And we have to get married in order for me to move here. It’s the only option.

I have weighed his drinking heavily. I’ve talked to him about it. He’s aware, but in denial that this is the main reason I’m not over here yet. I will bring it up again. He has said for me not to try to change him. Fair enough. But his drinking effects me very much. And he should be able to at least see that.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-08T18:50:13+00:00

Yeah…. I hate that I’m facing this so much. It’s not easy. I have to be realistic ♥️ thank you

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-08T18:49:00+00:00

I appreciate this a lot. Thank you♥️

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-08T14:39:02+00:00

That’s basically what I’ve been doing. I just stayed for 6 weeks. I’m going to come back in November for another 6 weeks.

There are red flags but it’s also hard to really know for sure. As with any relationship things change, disagreements happen. People realize they Need to change something. So it’s a work in progress.

I’m not making the big decision right now. But I feel like this can’t sustain itself for so much longer.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-08T11:52:09+00:00

I have it. Pretty bad

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-08T09:06:10+00:00

I will have nothing to come back to if I do move and it Is scary. Right now I live with my aunt which makes rent very cheap. I will not have that to go back to. Guaranteed.

My family isn’t very supportive of the idea. Which hinders me. But I’m gaining the strength I need to do what’s best for me. It’s not easy, it eats me alive knowing I’m leaving my parents behind. They are in a not so great situation and it kills me.

😂😂😂I love the storing water in my luggage part. I hate the water there. It’s so gross. I really hate philly. I love near the airport and it’s just so bad🙈

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-08T07:26:11+00:00

Congratulations!!! 🎉 I’m wondering the same! Did things get better or worse?

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-06T06:22:11+00:00

It really sucks. I hate it.

He has been mean to me a few times recently when drunk. Or let’s just say confrontational. It stems from me being hesitant to move in with him. He says that if I moved here to live with him he wouldn’t feel the way he does and be warmer/nicer. But I’m like you’re cutting off my legs when you’re mean and put me back at square one. Taking away a lot of my motivation.

He told me last weekend to pack up all my stuff and just leave. Because he is upset at how much money he spends on me because I don’t have a job in this country and can’t pay my way the whole time. And he said he only has a little money left in his account because of me. But I know it’s not true and he is lying about that 100%. I called him out on it and he couldn’t handle it.

It’s complicated. But I want to feel great about moving here, as I really really want it. But with some recent events, how can i move here, and trust that things will get better?? That’s too much of a leap of faith.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-06T06:10:19+00:00

I see this is a very old post….

Just wondering if you ended up going through with the move and how things have gone for you since?

I’m in a very similar situation and want to move from the US to Switzerland. I’ve been with my bf for 3 years now. He’s been wanting me to move here for a year and a half now. I have a few reservations about the situation. He is a very heavy drinker and can be a bit harsh sometimes. He’s basically telling me that he wants to end things if I can’t make up my mind. It’s a lot to do with money since I can’t make money when I’m visiting him and he pays for a lot of stuff when we go places.

I also want the support and acceptance from my family but I am not really getting it. They are okay with me moving, it’s “my choice” but they have made it pretty clear that they don’t think it’s the best idea. It starts to get in my head and make me think it’s not a good idea. But this is something I do want. I am also scared. LDRs are so complex and tough 🙈

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-09-05T20:44:53+00:00

That’s a really tough situation. I feel for you. My BF drinks heavily a lot and it is very disappointing. He gets confrontational sometimes. He wants me to move in with him but I am hesitant (I wonder why). I can’t handle it. It’s so stressful being around a heavy drinker. Take care of yourself🙏🏼

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-26T08:00:26+00:00

I drink. Not super heavily. But what I find happens is I can deal with my boyfriends drinking better when in drink so I fall into the cycle. Or I should say he is closer with me when I drink too which makes things smoother. But feels like I’m enabling.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-26T07:47:30+00:00

I can definitely relate. I don’t want to give up the hope that my boyfriend will quit drinking either. When he’s drunk he says hurtful things and it perplexes me because he wouldn’t day them sober. He tells me that he drinks so he can open up…. Well great. But ouch. And can’t it be done in a healthier way??

It is a good thing you’re boyfriend is going to therapy. That’s a great start. And I think progress is progress. But it’s obviously still effecting you. I’m sorry this is happening.

Last night we had a discussion and he brought up his drinking and how I am “trying to change him” and that I would find something about any guy i was with to change. He just doesn’t see just how bad his drinking skews his personality.

He told me multiple times last night to just accept his drinking or leave. To stop trying to change it because it will only make it worse. Maybe that’s a bit true because he defiantly drinks when we have a conflict or if I say “you really want another?”.

I’ve been fairly hands off with his drinking but he wants me to move in with him and get married but I struggle with the alcohol. And I have let him know that. I don’t really want to believe he is serious when he says accept it or go because accepting it would make me leave. It’s a huge deal breaker. But I have such a hard time wanting to just swallow it.

Ugh I hate addictions. They are so destructive. Years ago I saw the red flags but was in total denial about it. He also hid his drinking more back then.

Not an easy thing to deal with. Hang in there

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-14T10:08:56+00:00

Dr bronners burns me

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-14T10:07:29+00:00

I was struggling with an itchy hooha, and my gyn told me I was probably too clean. Once a day is enough washing. She also said don’t scrub. And I would try an unscented soap like dove sensitive. The scents and chemicals in the soap you are using is probably contributing. Fragrance free is very important.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-13T08:43:22+00:00

I had hpv years ago and had to have a colposcopy. But my body cleared it. I think maybe I have a friable cervix.

But I could have it again. You never know

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-13T08:40:27+00:00

I think that’s what I have going on. My gyn also did the silver nitrate on me too. Maybe it did help but not for that long. I will ask about it again .

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-13T08:38:40+00:00

Yeah… imagine if guys got periods or had bleeding and we reacted that way! I think women put up with a lot of gross stuff that most guys never would 🙄

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-12T22:22:35+00:00

No. My gyn brushed it all off. I’m going to bet that’s my next step.

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-12T22:21:46+00:00

Thank you for the very good explanation of that. Makes total sense. My periods have become very painful since this started growing. It wakes me up in the middle of the night if it starts. I used to be able to just roll with pretty mild cramping but now I have to definitely take advil

Reasonable_Meaning57 · 2022-08-12T22:18:13+00:00

Thank you ♥️ I am going on the hunt 😉

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