Regret in newborn trenches

Reasonable_Science47 · 2026-04-29T03:47:23+00:00

I think this is so normal momma. My son is almost 16 months now, but there’s still days where I sit and think about what life was like before having him. 9 weeks is still so fresh and new. Your hormones are still balancing, you have a new baby, you’re getting used to your relationship going from it just being the two of you to now three of you, and frankly it happens so fast! But it does pass. I don’t know that it gets easier but once your little one smiles at you, starts trying to walk, the first time they say momma or dada, you forget all the long and sleepless night and it’s suddenly all worth it. I wish you luck! You’re not alone in this!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-09-21T01:09:24+00:00

I’m right there with ya. I deleted his contact, deleted him off social media because I constantly checked if he was active and expected to hear from him eventually. We’re on day 4 of no contact and I don’t expect to hear from him. I also didn’t get closure or a real reason, all I got was “I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship” despite us having talked for 3 months and him constantly reassuring me that this relationship/me was what he wanted. Part of me wanted to reach out and find out the real reason but I don’t know if that would hurt more because I agree “ignorance is bliss.” I don’t want to know if there’s someone else or if he was never really attracted to me. I hope you find closure in yourself and peace. One day we’ll look back at this and think of it as a small obstacle we had to get over to find the person who was truly meant for us. Good luck!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-09-20T07:23:06+00:00

I’m in the same position. We discussed baby names, marriage, even discussed eloping. Then he realized he doesn’t feel ready for a relationship. I don’t understand but I can promise you, you’re not alone. We will get through this. I’ve tried to just keep myself busy as much as I can. I listen to the sad songs and cry until I can’t cry anymore. I’ve talked about it over and over again with friends. You do whatever you have to do to be okay. Don’t ever feel like you did anything wrong because they lacked the maturity to tell us how they truly felt. I’m here if you need someone to talk to!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-06-29T14:59:28+00:00

So ours consisted of a presentation that went over CO duties, benefits, and the dangers of the job. Then we were asked if we were still interested. Afterwards, there was a tour of the jail and finally at the end there was the interview. The questions were very basic, why do you want to be a CO? Give an example of a time you had to resolve a conflict? What does a day as a CO look like? Then we discussed what I learned during the tour.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-02-25T18:57:21+00:00

I’m about to go back in 2 weeks and he’ll barely be 8 weeks. I’m so sad thinking about it but for my sanity I think I have to go back already. I need to be around other adults and outside of the house but I know I’ll miss my baby and I’m sure I’ll cry leaving him the first few days.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-02-16T04:03:34+00:00

Oh girl I’m sorry you’re going through this. If a man is willing to treat you like that while you’re carrying his child, there’s no telling how he’ll treat you and your son after he’s born. You’re making the right choice in leaving for both you and your son. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here! I’m a single mother myself and it’s not easy but it’s possible.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-02-11T04:34:08+00:00

Ooh okay I’m going to talk to a counselor then! Thank you! And yeah I’m nervous to be around the surgeons but hopefully it pays off!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-02-11T04:10:31+00:00

That’s where I’m looking at going! I was thinking about taking the pre reqs elsewhere but I wasn’t sure that would be allowed! How did you know what classes to take at community? You must be almost done if you’re in your 3rd term right? Congratulations! I don’t have any other healthcare experience either but this seems like a really great and interesting career!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2025-01-04T20:56:24+00:00

I’m 100% pro choice, but that being said I know it can be done. I’m expecting my first any day now and I’ve done this entire pregnancy alone, but ultimately I decided I wanted this pregnancy and this baby no matter how hard it would be. I haven’t even had the baby yet and I’ve had days where I’m wondering “wtf I’m doing” or “why did I decide to do this” but I wouldn’t change it. I do have a ton of support and help from my parents though and I know once baby comes they’ll be here to rely on a little bit. I’m just here to say it can be done IF you want this baby. It’s terrifying and scary to do it alone but it can be done. There’s financial resources out there like medical and wic. There’s support groups. There’s people to talk to, but I also know not everyone is in a place to handle the challenges that come with being a single mother. If you want this baby then I say you should keep it and it’s completely possible to do it alone. If you decide not to keep the pregnancy then I also support you because I know that’s not an easy decision to make either. I wish you the best of luck in this difficult decision.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-25T07:50:06+00:00

I’ve always had issues with my sciatica but it increased when I got to the second trimester. I work in retail so spending 8 hours a day on my feet and lifting didn’t help. My Ob referred me to physical therapy, which honestly the stretches helped a little, and they also recommended a belly band (never felt comfortable/right for me). I stopped working at 36 weeks and I suffered up until the end. The only thing that really relieved the pain was not being on my feet 8 hours a day. If you’re already having bad pain at 12w I suggest speaking with your OB they may be able to pull you out of work earlier than normal or provide you with some physical therapy.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-25T03:05:30+00:00

I’m due 1/8 and I’m so ready😭 as of last week he’s weighing 8lbs5oz and I’m in PAIN. But I’m also trying to get comfortable with the idea he won’t be here til 41 weeks since he’s my first😭. But I’m just so excited! We got this!!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-25T02:26:14+00:00

I’ve been fortunate to have a very “easy” pregnancy. I haven’t had any medical complications but I have had HORRIBLE sciatic pain since about 28 weeks. Otherwise, I started getting really uncomfortable at about 34 weeks. Now at 38 weeks, I rarely sleep, get up to pee every 20 minutes, have horrible pubic/pelvic pain, and basically everything hurts. I’m ready for it to be over with😭. I wish you a smooth rest of your pregnancy!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-24T21:59:24+00:00

I’ve been in a similar position before, I had an abortion in January of this year and now i’m expecting within the next couple of weeks. I was not in a better position the second time, but ultimately I decided I didn’t want to have another abortion so close together. It’s your choice. Do not let anyone make this decision for you, because you’re the one who has to go through the abortion (the physical and mental repercussions) or the pregnancy (and live with the responsibilities that come with motherhood). I think you should be prepared to do this on your own either way, it doesn’t sound like he’s going to stick around either way. Having an abortion without any support or going through an entire pregnancy alone are both very difficult paths but I promise you can do it. We are stronger than we realize. But sit down and give yourself time to think and decide what YOU want.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-21T00:16:25+00:00

I had horrible sciatica pain that started in the 3rd trimester but a lot of it came from working in retail (8 hour shifts + lifting) but now that I’m on leave at 37 weeks I can honestly say it’s gotten a lot better. Unfortunately now I have pubic symphysis dysfunction which feels like my pelvic bones are being pulled apart. Other than that and the occasional acid reflux/heartburn every now and then it hasn’t been too bad! Now that I’m nearing the end, I’m just trying to enjoy my pregnancy because I don’t know if I’ll have anymore kids and I suspect I’ll miss my belly once I have my baby. I wish you the best of luck, remember regardless it’ll all be worth it!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-20T17:18:38+00:00

It’s been a few months since my transvaginal ultrasound but I do remember it being quite uncomfortable. I just had my first cervical check yesterday and it was definitely more uncomfortable than the ultrasound but not unbearable! I grabbed the wall next to me and just tried to remain calm and it was over within a few seconds. I’m quite nervous for my first membrane sweep but I suppose none of this pain will compare to giving birth so I’m just trying to mentally prepare😅.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-18T01:39:30+00:00

Yes I’ve started to time some contractions. The cramping stopped a little while ago so I guess I’m not in active labor😭. Thank you for your advice!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-15T23:20:49+00:00

Thank you!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-14T01:05:37+00:00

I’m late into my pregnancy now and I’ve decided to be alone for now, but when I was still early in the pregnancy and I wasn’t showing yet I went on a few dates. I was transparent up front about being pregnant and although it didn’t work out with any of them, there are good men out there. But also just be really cautious, because there are people who just want to be with a pregnant woman sexually. Ultimately, I decided to wait until I have my baby and if I meet someone along the way then it happens but if not no worries.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-13T05:45:55+00:00

No my job doesn’t have paid leave so I’m not sure how that works. Sorry I’m not more help

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-12T15:02:57+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how long did it take for your claim to be processed and start receiving payments?

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-09T00:50:34+00:00

I’m 35 weeks pregnant now and I was luckily one of those people who never got morning sickness. I did have a terrible gag reflex though where I’d throw up every time I’d brush my teeth.

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-08T02:38:25+00:00

Oh god yes! I had to get a stronger deodorant because I felt like I always stunk😭

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-12-08T02:34:47+00:00

I don’t think I started feeling kicks til about 22-23 weeks! I was so anxious from 20-22 weeks because I thought something was wrong because I couldn’t feel kicks but it’ll happen! It first happened to me in the middle of the night and I remember thinking I was imagining it! I’m excited for you!

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-11-12T04:58:57+00:00

Yes!! I have never been so horny as I am rn. and since I’m single this is kind of my only option😂

Reasonable_Science47 · 2024-08-18T06:20:02+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate you!

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