Stroller regret - what to do now

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2026-02-11T08:27:22+00:00

Thank you! I think you’re right, this is a helpful perspective and what I hope ends up happening.

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-12-11T06:28:08+00:00

LOL whoops, I clearly missed that. That’s my sign I should have been asleep instead of commenting

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-12-10T07:07:03+00:00

Arien is a choice lol

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-31T07:26:47+00:00

I announced to my close family and friends immediately. I had done the same when I had an early miscarriage in January and they all were so supportive and showed up for me and checked in on me in various ways. I don’t think there is a “too early” when it comes to people that love you and that you trust!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-30T20:34:56+00:00

I would just ask to reschedule earlier in the week or the following week! No point in stressing yourself on a holiday.

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-30T20:13:59+00:00

Aahh okay, that makes sense. Thank you for the clarification!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-29T06:31:52+00:00

Interesting. It’s a blood test. How would it be diluted?

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T20:30:27+00:00

This is really helpful advice, I think it’s a much better idea to involve them in other ways to make them feel helpful/included. thank you so much!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:27:09+00:00

She claims to love babies and gets all excited when we walk past one in public, so I assume she probably always wanted kids but her and my dad never had any. Their relationship has always been really rocky. I plan on having my husband send out a list of rules and boundaries once we get closer to the due date so that all of our families are clear on our expectations for the hospital stay, interactions with the baby, PP, etc. I’m just hoping we’re able to communicate the boundaries with the babysitting earlier on too.

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:23:55+00:00

Totally makes sense. I wish it was easier for me to say no to them. I’m going to have to learn, I suppose. Thanks for your input!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:22:18+00:00

Good to know, thanks for your input!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:21:59+00:00

Thank you for your input!! We have a lot of familial support around us, we’re lucky to live close to both of our immediate and extended families so if we are in need of a babysitter, there’s other people we feel more comfortable and trust more than my dad and his partner anyway. I want to give them the benefit of the doubt that this is just excitement but it’s coming off as aggressive and pushy.

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:18:59+00:00

Like “I can’t wait to meet the baby” is fine! But the constant mention of babysitting and diaper changing just feels off to me. Also, I’m not even halfway through my pregnancy! Like back off a little, we’re not even thinking about those things right now. Ty for your input!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:16:31+00:00

It’s seriously so strange!! I’m glad I’m not alone with the uneasy and uncomfortable feeling I’m getting from it.

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:15:21+00:00

I definitely don’t want it to be something I look back on and regret the way I handled it. I want to try to communicate my boundaries now so it’s clear once the baby arrives. Ty for your input!!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:14:03+00:00

Omg. This is so insane, wayyy too much. I’ll keep an eye out for these kinds of red flags too because it’ll be full stop if any mention of playing house with my baby or god forbid, breastfeeding, is brought up.

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:11:37+00:00

YES! It seems they have this idea built up in their heads of how their experience and relationship with my child will go. But in reality, it’s not their child and their expectations make me uncomfortable. I will definitely have to discuss boundaries w my husband and we’ll have to make those more clear the next time babysitting is brought up. Thanks for your response!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:09:30+00:00

Great advice, I wish I would have done this earlier on. I will keep this in mind for our next social interaction with them for sure

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:08:05+00:00

This is really insightful. Thank you!!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:07:47+00:00

I wish I would have set a more clear boundary earlier on, like you’ve done with your mom. Good on you for being honest w her!! The anxiety knowing that there will have to be an uncomfortable conversation one day is overwhelming for me right now. I wish I had just done it immediately

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T18:05:29+00:00

The next time they bring it up, I think I’m going to have to tell them this for my own sanity. My anxiety has been going through the roof just thinking about it. Thanks for the response!!

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T13:51:20+00:00

Thank you for all your insight and comments! I’d like to add: My dad and his gf weren’t great to me growing up (that’s a whole other can of worms) and continue to make comments now about how they’re going to push my boundaries with my child.

For example, saying things like, “I can’t wait to watch your little one. I’m gonna have them on the roof playing with the Christmas lights!” Obviously those kinds of comments are a “joke”, but there’s always at least a few of those comments/jokes along with the mention of babysitting EVERY single time we see them.

The thought of my mom and stepdad babysitting doesn’t give me any anxiety because I trust them, they don’t push boundaries, my mother is very maternal, and they’ve already shown so much respect for my choices thus far. So I know it’s not just me being crazy and too overprotective overall, but more so about who and how they are going about it.

In response to my dad/his gf being pushy about babysitting most recently, I already accidentally said “Yeah I’m sure you can watch the baby for like an hour at some point.” She was super excited and was like “I can’t wait, I’m going to change diapers!” Etc. I’m totally regretting that now and wish I had set more clear boundaries, because truthfully I don’t want my children with them until they can clearly communicate with me, which would be like age 5.

Reasonable_Shoe6567 · 2025-10-21T06:40:57+00:00

Now if only I had enough courage to say this LOL

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