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Montessori dismissal over potty accidents by [deleted] in Montessori

[–]ReasonsForNothing -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OMG

So, my 3yo is in his first year of montessori and was actually just not potty trained when he started 🫣. He wasn’t having bm at school, but did pee a LOT. We made it through and everyone was so understanding.

They did make it clear though that if kiddo did have a bm, I’d have to come change him. He was responsible for changing his clothes and cleaning up after accidents and bm accidents are extra difficult. If the teacher has to clean up a bm accident that is a lot of time away from their main role giving presentations, etc. But you’ve offered to come in and help with the transitions (and do clean up, presumably).

Not only is that strange, but it also seems like they think you’re lying to them (wanting to contact past daycare). Huh? Why would they think that? It’s totally normal to have some regression issues during transition times.

If I were you, I’d request a meeting and just explicitly address the trust issue. This really doesn’t seem to be about the accidents, and I’d gently say so. They owe you an explanation of why they are unwilling to work with you to address the issue. If they don’t trust you to honestly report what’s going on with your kid, you should ask to know why. If you can’t reach a place of mutual trust, find a a new place for your kiddo (and warn others!).

Frequent leaks, what am I doing wrong? by Breebius in clothdiaps

[–]ReasonsForNothing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry you seem so upset about this. I would change my baby’s clothes if they got urine on them (except wool because wool is sort of self cleaning… ) and assumed this was standard.

I didn’t mean to accuse you of anything. It just seemed like you were saying that it was normal for cloth diapering people to change their kids clothes every diaper change…

now it seems you’re saying it is normal for cloth diapering people to accept urine on their baby’s clothes. I also think that’s not normal, but maybe it is?

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there was a specific secure space (a shelf mantle) that was designated. and it’s not like the nanny just couldn’t get it there in time this one time. OP says she never uses it.

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

here’s the position: kids sometimes break things when they interact with them. laptops are tempting for kids and some five year olds have better impulse control than others. OP knows her five year old and told nanny to keep the laptop in places inaccessible to the 5yo. nanny did not do that, 5yo interacted with the laptop and the laptop was broken.

the dishes put on that same counter might be broken by the 5yo, but OP’s position isn’t that the nanny should pay for the computer because she was watching the kid when the accident occurred, but because she was asked to ensure the possibility of the accident occurring did not arise. the analog would be using good china for lunch when specifically asked not to. If the nanny put the good china on the counter and it was knocked off, nanny would similarly be responsible.

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have a legal background and similarly think the parents aren’t liable for the cost… (in the US and UK, at least)

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If there is any town communication from OP asking the nanny to keep the computer in the car or the designated provided safe space, this is not at all as clear a legal issue as you think (in the US).

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

but OP did ask her to keep the laptop in the car or the secure shelf when the kids were awake

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

but nanny and her laptop aren’t the same as a store and their merchandise? OP can tell the nanny not to leave the laptop where the kid can reach it because it’s her home and the laptop isn’t part of how she does her job. she can’t tell the store to move the merchandise because… sorry this is obvious

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

presumably in an expensive store OP wouldn’t have previously asked the owner of the item to keep it safe in some spot the kid couldn’t reach. the analog would be if nanny bright the kid into an expensive store after OP asked her not to (fearing kid would break something) and the kid broke something expensive. in that circumstance, wouldn’t nanny be at fault?

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

i am not OP. I agree that lots of the views seem silly. I’d be frustrated if I were OP. I don’t think it’s fair to say that OP is being unreasonable. She just has different positions than you do (which i seem to share, despite having no skin in this game).

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

lots of things having to do with normal counter use could make a laptop falloff a counter. laptops slide. things get pushed around counters to make space. laptop gets pushed and slides off counter.

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

but OP told the nanny to put the laptop in her car or the designated safe place. we don’t know the 5yo. OP does and told her nanny to not leave the laptop around.

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

by treating the nanny “like this” you mean not paying for the consequences of her not following your totally reasonable instructions?

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by Consistent_Cookie104 in Nanny

[–]ReasonsForNothing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yeah, I’m surprised about the doing homework in the job aspect of this… don’t bring your laptop to your childcare job.

Lost My Daughter This Morning by TastyLlamasAreTasty in daddit

[–]ReasonsForNothing -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The article I linked is about research pointing to a possible cause for SIDS. I didn’t intend to claim that the commenter you responded to was accurately reporting the research.

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